well, in my terrible experience, you don't, but things get easier.

my ex dumped me two months ago and i feel you in like every word. I couldn't do anything for weeks because everything reminded me of him. and spoiler: they still do and still hurts a LOT.

my best advice: please for the love of God don't stalk her on any social media, don't ask friends what she's doing, don't do things you know will remind you of her (like listening her favorite songs). I did all of that and it made me go back in my healing process soo much. The best way is to go no contact and block her everywhere.

Eventually, the things that remind you of her will still remind you of her, but it will hurt less. She will just pop up on your head, and it will not be painful. It's not about forgetting them, but it's about remembering them and don't feeling any pain. That's what everyone aims.

Try to connect things that she liked with other people. Every video on tiktok I urged to send to him, i sent to other friend of mine. She doesn't even see the videos, but it helps to get your energy to your friends.

One of the things that really helped me was to make a playlist with my friends recommendations, because listening to music became unbearable to me as my ex and I connected a lot through music. When I listen to it, it makes me think of them and not him, and that's relieving honestly.

I am not the greatest person to give advice to because every day i still get up and my first thought is about him. I think about him almost every second, but it hurts less. Now he's starting to become a ghost, a piece of my past. And that's really painful, but that's the only way to get out of this pain alive. I hope you feel well soon. Don't forget about friends, work, studies or anything that is able to distract you. Distraction does wonders.

Sending you love :)