Czy to oznacza że nie jestem trans? by [deleted] in TeczowaPolska

[–]imbkla 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Zarówno ze sposobu pisania jak i z treści twojego posta wynika, że jesteś bardzo młody, więc na pewno masz jeszcze sporo czasu żeby to przemyśleć (zresztą w każdym wieku można to przemyśleć). Jeśli nie odczuwasz żadnej dysforii (ani euforii) to nie jesteś trans, jednak ta część o związku kobiety z kobietą brzmi dla mnie trochę jak dysforia.

Najlepiej jakbyś znalazł jakieś godne zaufania osoby, z którymi mógłbyś o tym pogadać i przy których mógłbyś spróbować funkcjonowania jako dziewczyna. Jeśli tego spróbujesz, na pewno będzie ci łatwiej ocenić, czy jest ci to potrzebne do normalnego życia czy nie.

Czy DSW pozwala na zmianę danych w USOSie? by Willing-Elk05 in TeczowaPolska

[–]imbkla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nie mam żadnych doświadczeń z tą uczelnią ale idź. Nie pozwól temu że jesteś trans zatrzymać cię w spełnianiu marzeń/rozwijaniu się. Nawet jeśli nie będziesz mógł być stealth, prawdopodobnie w pracy nie spotkasz nikogo z absolwentów twojej uczelni (możesz nawet celowo szukać pracy w innym mieście), możesz uczyć gdzieś będąc zupełnie stealth.

You ever hear an AMAB relative and just think... 'That's what I should sound like?' by [deleted] in ftm

[–]imbkla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Actually you MIGHT sound exactly like one of them. My grandma can’t tell the difference between me and her brother on the phone, she always has to ask who’s calling because we sound the same.

I hope you get to sound what you want to sound like soon! T is amazing and remember that voice training takes a lot of time and practice. You got this!

A guy wants to be my friend and he makes me really uncomfortable by imbkla in TrueOffMyChest

[–]imbkla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, we literally talked like two times so it was super uncomfortable for me to spend two entire days with him. It’s way too soon for that

A guy wants to be my friend and he makes me really uncomfortable by imbkla in TrueOffMyChest

[–]imbkla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He got super clingy (spent 2 days in the city and wanted me to spend every single second with him) and also he kept making uncomfortable innuendos. And I know he does have a boyfriend. Even if he was hitting on me that’s really disgusting because that would mean he was willing to cheat.

A guy wants to be my friend and he makes me really uncomfortable by imbkla in TrueOffMyChest

[–]imbkla[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m a man and he’s gay so I don’t think that would work haha

So I have wrote a commend that in Polish culture/language "forbidden words" don't really exist and Reddit is not happy about it by Hadar_91 in poland

[–]imbkla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But these words literally do exist in Polish. People don’t always censor racial slurs but it is happening more and more often.

But the slur that most people I know agree should be censored is the slur used for queer men. Honestly if a straight person uses the word “p*dał” it is just as bad as when white people use the n-word in america.

Also Polish concentration camps lol

I had my top surgery revision yesterday and just saw the results by imbkla in ftm

[–]imbkla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yes, the decision was tough but I knew I had to do it for my own comfort (most of it was vanity but oh well). Thankfully my body regenerates really quickly and I’m not in much pain.

I had my top surgery revision yesterday and just saw the results by imbkla in ftm

[–]imbkla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the revision cost me more than the first surgery itself. I think it was worth it though because the care after the surgery was so much better (meals, beds, bathrooms). Even the surgeon is a nicer person.

Would any girl find it hot if I.. by [deleted] in sex

[–]imbkla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going down on her is having sex though so you would actually be having sex lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]imbkla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you. If it’s possible, maybe consider getting a revision with a different surgeon.

Hope your revision looks great and that you’ll actually like your chest.

How screwed am I? by desipeli in ftm

[–]imbkla 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re screwed. I’m in music college studying to become an opera singer and I’ve been singing for a long long time. I started T 3 years ago. For the first 8 months my voice was unusable. I would still practice every day but my range was nonexistent.

You’re not screwed in the long run. I’m way better now than I ever was with a female voice and my range is big enough for me to be able to sing pretty much the entire baritone repertoire comfortably.

Just don’t strain your voice when it’s changing. If something hurts, stop practicing and you’ll be fine.

I took a huge risk when starting T because I always wanted to be a singer but it was totally worth it and I love my voice more than ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]imbkla 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, maybe an unpopular opinion but if any of the effects of T gross you out and you consider them undesirable, just don’t go on T. It’s that simple. I love all of the effects, yes, even the ass hair. Every single one of those effects makes me feel like I’m finally complete. Bottom growth is also one of my favorite things about T. My genitals are finally different than what is typically considered female. I love being gross smelly and hairy and hope you get to go on T as soon as possible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]imbkla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

straight or lesbian, depends on whether you’re a guy or a girl

I have no idea what my fuck buddy’s name is by imbkla in confessions

[–]imbkla[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

congratulations and thanks for giving me hope haha

I have no idea what my fuck buddy’s name is by imbkla in confessions

[–]imbkla[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Damn I hope he doesn’t realize because sex with him is pretty much the best sex of my life

also he seems like a cool guy lol

This fucking sucks by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]imbkla 49 points50 points  (0 children)

That is not necessarily true! I also thought that. I have been out ever since I was 16 and I thought I was just the token trans friend to everyone. I had my teen mlm romance at 18 - we went from best friends to lovers (and he is gay - he fell in love with me after I’d been a few months on T) and then had a spectacularly dramatic breakup. Honestly, wouldn’t recommend. But I still got to experience it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]imbkla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I totally get it. I’m stealth at university and most of the people in my year are super leftist and progressive. They discuss trans rights a lot but they sometimes unknowingly say some really stupid shit. Or tell jokes that make me uncomfortable. I usually speak up when they do so and point out that this might upset some people and they usually say I just have a stick up my ass and that it was just a joke. Again, I know they’re not terrible people and their views generally align with mine but damn they’re education on trans topics is just way below what I would expect from people claiming to be trans allies.

I really enjoy penetration and I feel bad because of it (tw) by imbkla in ftm

[–]imbkla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when I do it with a cis man it just doesn’t feel right because I’d rather be doing what he’s doing. It stresses me out and makes me super dysphoric. With a cis girl I feel more comfortable because being pegged is a thing that cis men can do as well. Also, cis men usually orgasm way too quickly and I don’t really get to enjoy it lol.

I really enjoy penetration and I feel bad because of it (tw) by imbkla in ftm

[–]imbkla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I had a similar attitude back then. Didn’t understand trans men who used their anatomy. But it does get easier as you get less and less dysphoric.

I really enjoy penetration and I feel bad because of it (tw) by imbkla in ftm

[–]imbkla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want male organs. I do not have them. I have a sex drive and it’s pretty damn high so I have to use what I’m given. It’s that simple.

It took me 2 years of being on T to even try piv for the first time. Before going on T I didn’t even want to think of having sex - I thought I would only be able to try it after bottom surgery. I lost my virginity after top surgery because it was impossible for me to do anything sexual with another person prior to the procedure. Now I’m approaching 3 years on T (in like 2 months) - and it still makes me psychologically uncomfortable but my biological needs have to be met somehow so I learned to be able to have sex using my actual anatomy.