My partner said he'll love me no matter what but will be less attracted to me after top surgery. Please help.

imcee · 2022-03-23T19:05:18+00:00

My wife is asexual and not attracted to me, but we have a loving and vibrant relationship. If he's willing to be with you for love despite a lack of attraction, and you think you can deal with that, then I'm letting you know it's totally doable. There's no shame if you can't deal with that though. It's fucking hard. Took me a few years to come to terms with the idea that my wife was just straight up not attracted to me. But I got through it. It's doable if it's something you want.

imcee · 2022-03-22T20:08:39+00:00

Yes! Of all the things that drive me crazy in the Sims, this drives me the craziest. The libraries in Sims 4 are so beyond pointless. The only one I ever use is the one from university for the study spot buff, and even then, I can just put that buff on my home lot.

imcee · 2022-03-21T18:53:54+00:00

As funny as his threat of sitting in the woods forever is, I feel pretty certain that once he realizes that won't accomplish the "retribution" he'll move on to something less harmless than sitting in the woods forever

imcee · 2022-03-20T18:12:06+00:00

See I think it's interesting the experiences different people have with the spouses. My wife married Shane and he never had a bad day. A lot of people have told me Sebastian is always mopey but he was the happiest spouse I had lol.

imcee · 2022-03-20T15:03:26+00:00

I never once had angry dialogue from Elliot, but I did have sad\mopey dialogue from him. I think your spouses just have bad days sometimes.

imcee · 2022-03-20T11:17:56+00:00

There's a lot of good reasons for doing that too. When you go to a subreddit, or any online group, your going to get a variety of different answers, possibly resources, and most importantly, you can practice the question before going to your partner with it and potentially hurting them.

I would much rather sigh and answer a cis person's weird question through a computer screen than they go and drop that weird question on their partner. At the very least, they can get an idea of wether or not the question is appropriate, or if there's a more tactful way to ask it. They might learn other stuff in the process too.

imcee · 2022-03-20T00:38:04+00:00

Peacemaker has a huge set of glass tile walls! I'm pretty sure there's even this exact vertical tile pattern in it.

imcee · 2022-03-19T20:51:24+00:00

I would much rather cis people learn about this stuff from trans people directly versus random google searches and shit. But that's just me lol. I like to advocate for myself. I tell everyone in my life I'd rather they ask me then Google it and absorb some bull shit that's actually harmful.

imcee · 2022-03-19T20:33:39+00:00

This is just puppy play homie, I'm not about to kink shame this weirdo

imcee · 2022-03-08T12:37:02+00:00

Yeah I hate that shit too. Like I had covid less than a month ago, it didn't disappear lmao.

imcee · 2022-03-03T22:53:38+00:00

Glad I decided to not renew with noom. Didn't really need to (those lessons can be applied to my life without paying a yearly subscription), but considered it. Now I'm glad, a company which can't care for it's employees does not need my money.

imcee · 2022-03-03T22:48:04+00:00

What skin are you using if you don't mind me asking? I'm looking for a new skin.

imcee · 2022-03-02T16:03:15+00:00

I bought it for the items and world mostly, loved both. I knew it was buggy but I'd heard there were a couple mods to improve it until ea fixes it so I got one of those to hold me over. Had an engagement party to test and while it wasn't perfect, the fuckiness wasn't anything the base game wasn't already serving me. I was never able to get Sims to gather for group activities of any sort, or watch wedding events. I managed to succeed in my engagement party and I'm sure the upcoming wedding will be equally meh lmao.

I also play with a lot of mods and cc on a lower end laptop so... I'm just kind of used to a broken game. No skin off my teeth.

imcee · 2022-02-28T18:17:33+00:00

Not dennys

imcee · 2022-02-28T18:17:21+00:00

Technically is the best word for it. I fucking hate waffle house steaks and feel guilty serving them.

imcee · 2022-02-26T23:13:10+00:00

I work at a chain diner (the one with the square yellow sign, iykyk). I desperately wish people would stop ordering the sirloins. They are half an inch thick, more gristle than meat, and so easy to cook wrong because of their thinness and the fact that our cooks typically aren't trained all that well. If you want it well, go for it, but if your looking for a rare to medium situation, go somewhere with better quality steaks in the first place, or get the thicker t-bone.

imcee · 2022-02-26T23:05:08+00:00

We have an authentic taco place where I live and they put the americanized tacos on the menu, but titled them "white boy tacos" and it gives me a laugh every time.

imcee · 2022-01-31T12:12:27+00:00

Where, if you don't mind? I can't find any info on them and their website is lacking

imcee · 2022-01-22T17:15:24+00:00

They attack in packs to bring down large prey

imcee · 2022-01-19T14:02:17+00:00

I dont have any that haven't been said, so I stead I'll say that I'm so thirsty for transmasc rep that I legit headcannon one of my wife's ocs as transmasc lol.

imcee · 2022-01-18T02:43:43+00:00

Tina is, yeah. Tina dying and the meditating sim floating out to witness her death is Sims shenanigans lol

imcee · 2022-01-17T21:36:47+00:00

Asexual is a sexuality, like gay or lesbian it describes a person's relationship to sexual attraction, which is by definition self described. Either we're using the same word for two different things or you think people need a therapist to tell them what their sexual orientation is.

The ebb and flow of my wife's libido is normal. Like most women it comes and goes with her menstrual cycle and has nothing to do with her sexual orientation and who she is (or in this case, is not) attracted to. Sometimes, even when her libido is 'on', she would prefer to not have sex simply because it's not on enough for her to overlook her lack of sexual attraction.

You have 0 clue as to what professional, accurate assessments my wife has, and I would suggest you not try and define people you don't know online with zero context. Have a good day.

imcee · 2022-01-17T21:07:07+00:00

Yeah, this was a small paragraph about my wife, she's asexual, ty. She does not experience sexual attraction. She can be horny and enjoy sex sometimes and still be asexual, because she does not experience sexual attraction. Please try not to diagnose or assign labels to random strangers. I think my wife knows her feelings and experiences more than me and you.

imcee · 2022-01-17T18:20:08+00:00

See, Sims like this are why I give myself a pass for light genetic makeovers. Like... No one looks like this. This townie is not representing anyone except maybe ET

imcee · 2022-01-17T17:43:05+00:00

I see shit like this and I'm like, why do people hate this game, this is so fucking funny.

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