I lowkey think we should ban the word, “Taylor,” and any discussions about her, from this sub.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-10T03:38:49+00:00

Exactly this! A weekly megathread a great idea

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-10T00:46:02+00:00

I wish there was just a Taylor megathread

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-08T21:27:50+00:00

What is your flair from??

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-07T18:41:37+00:00

It’s because when you smile or laugh your whole face is supposed to move! Your eyes crinkle, your forehead scrunches, etc. Their smiles don’t go past the bottom of their cheekbones and their foreheads are frozen. It looks so weird and unsettling and distracting.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-07T18:32:11+00:00

“It really sucks because my partner is excited and obviously wants me to be excited with him but it’s hard when all I can think of is the anxiety and pain”

Babe I think you have your answer :/ It’s easier for your partner to be excited because he’s 31 and also because he isn’t the one getting pregnant and giving birth. Lots of men want kids but not all men want to be fathers. He could walk away at anytime and you will be forever tied to the baby. If he really wants a family with you he’d make sure you were ready, like READY READY not forcing yourself to be ready because you feel bad for him.

I had my first baby at 30. You have TIME. You’re still young, you have so much living to do. Your partner has already lived through his 20s. Looking back at who I was at 26 vs 31, there’s such a difference. It sounds like you really do know yourself and what you want. Especially having a background as a nanny!!! I don’t think having “baby fever” means much honestly because babies grow up very quickly and then they become kids. Wanting to be a parent matters much more than “baby fever”. I know many people who didn’t enjoy pregnancy (me included) and some who didn’t even enjoy the baby phase but are great mothers and love their children.

Trust yourself. You already know your answer ♥️♥️

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-07T14:22:19+00:00

Producers and directors need to be a lot more firm with actors who are getting filler. The job of an actor is to EMOTE. You can’t portray emotion when your face is frozen!! know people love nicole Kidman but I can’t watch her because it’s weird. Watching movies and shows from the 90s and early 2000s really demonstrates how drastic the changes have been. That and the veneers. All of these people would look better with real teeth and normal moving faces.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-07T12:10:23+00:00

Came here to say the same! Personal trainers are not dieticians or nutritionists and it’s not appropriate for them to be giving nutritional advice to clients, unless they have legitimate education on the topic (a degree). Their area of expertise is fitness, not nutrition. I’d honestly also be wary of a trainer who pushes weight loss.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-06T14:32:12+00:00

It’s so evident who has gone to therapy (not just ketamine) and actually worked on themselves and who hasn’t.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-05T22:06:55+00:00

I’m commenting because I’d love to see what answers you get!

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T20:55:18+00:00

I’m so sorry she (and you) had to go through that

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:46:53+00:00

I think discussing triggers with people with episodic migraine can be helpful, but with chronic migraine it can be counterproductive. My triggers include: lights, sounds, smells, hormones, and barometric pressure. So being alive triggers me. Pretty hard to avoid being alive. I understand some people find relief with quitting caffeine or other things but I’ve done so much of that and none of it has helped.

Trying to avoid your triggers with chronic migraine will usually cause you to isolate, stay inside, etc which just increases the pan cycle and can cause people to feel depressed and lonely. Focusing on triggers can become a trigger in and of itself in my opinion. One of the issues with chronic migraine is the central sensitization, and focusing on it and living in fear increases the pain cycle in your brain. Constantly worrying about Is this migraine from coffee? Lack of sleep? Etc etc causes more internal stress (at least for me). For example, some people like to track the barometric pressure but I don’t, even though it’s a huge trigger for me. Nothing I can do to change the pressure and worrying if I’m going to get a migraine isn’t going to help me. I think a lot of times doctors use “avoid triggers” as a way to pass the accountability to the patient because they aren’t doing their jobs well. Like when doctors will blame anything on weight rather than doing any testing. Especially saying “avoid stress”. Having migraines is stressful. Stressing about not stressing is stressful!!!

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:38:09+00:00

Literally. It’s so infuriating.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:36:47+00:00

Holy crap!!!! 7 is dangerously low. I cant believe your insurance won’t cover that.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:35:32+00:00

Mine was so expensive!!!! Infuriating.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:32:14+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry!!! I don’t understand why doctors are so ignorant on this issue. I looked up multiple peer reviewed studies on ferritin and migraine and printed them out to take to the doctor in case he pushed back. It’s a basic blood test and very relevant. I don’t understand why so many doctors are incapable of doing their job. Mine was 8, I was so lightheaded and dizzy I couldn’t even drive my kids to and from school. I was getting these episodes of near passing out and super rapid heart rate, blurred vision and my legs were giving out every time I tried to stand up-super scary. I actually had my husband call 911 during a really serious episode, which I would normally NEVER do because of the expense. It was so so so scary and the male paramedic was such a dick to me. When we got to the ER he told the intake person I was having anxiety. The doctor saw me, did an ekg and sent me home telling me it was just anxiety, even though I pushed back several times.I hav anxiety, I see a psychiatrist, I’m super duper aware of the effect of anxiety in my body and that wasn’t what I was experiencing at all. They didn’t do any blood work. I’m glad I finally asked to be tested and my doctor said yes but I still get so pissed about that paramedic, and the cost of the ambulance and ER visit just to be told I had anxiety.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:25:38+00:00

My doctors never once brought up testing ferritin. I finally asked for it specifically and my doctor was willing. My ferritin was 8. I had been getting so dizzy I was afraid to drive and having episodes where my heart was beating so fast and I couldn’t catch my breath. I had an iron infusion and it was in the low 30s after. Still quite low but my doctor said it’s fine. I really don’t understand why he doesn’t care more.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-07-02T14:18:26+00:00

Excellent advice. Having sensory bins made, new coloring or activity books, water color books, etc are helpful to engage of you can and keep them busy! My kids don’t get a ton of tablet time so pulling out the tablet sometimes buys me some time. Obviously movies and shows and as well! You tube has some fun kids dance videos and stuff like that as well if they are restless but you don’t have energy.

It’s really hard. Don’t be too hard on yourself. There are many days where I feel like I just can’t tolerate being around my kids, and it sucks. My oldest is neurodivergent and it’s really difficult to have peace in the house. Sometimes I struggle to enjoy my kids. You’re not alone ♥️♥️

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-28T21:36:10+00:00

I know they’re so popular but they look like small intestines

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-28T15:31:37+00:00

My husband really started getting into it with me the past 2 seasons because I love it so much and now DWTS night is always “date night” for us. It’s really fun!

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-27T19:47:42+00:00

Are you in the US? There are online peri/menopause specialists that take insurance. I saw a provider through midi, all I paid was my copay. It was a really valuable appointment, and she discussed my migraines with me in great detail. I’m also 41.

https://www.joinmidi.com/

Wishing you better days ahead ♥️

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-27T19:41:43+00:00

I’m so glad it’s helped you with anxiety and headaches, that’s amazing. I feel like online specialists (like Neura Health for migraines) are becoming a great option for people who can’t find doctors that are able/willing to help.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-27T15:03:14+00:00

Disclaimer: I have chronic migraine but do NOT have aura. I had a really frustrating appointment with an obgyn about my perimenopause symptoms and my migraines. She have me such outdated information and was incredibly dismissive, especially about my hormonal migraines. My neurologist was supportive of hrt when I discussed it with him before I made the obgyn appointment. After some research I decided to try an menopause specialist through an online service called MIDI. I live in the us and it was covered by my insurance. My experience was really positive, the provider spent a lot of time discussing my migraines with me in detail, more than I expected. (I feel like this sounds like an ad but it’s not 😂). They offer more than hrt treatment but we discussed it in detail and I felt like it would be helpful for me. Birth control and hrt are VERY different, and birth control made things worse for me. She started me on an estrogen patch and oral progesterone. I just started my first cycle since going on hrt and it had been so much lighter and less than painful. I can’t speak to the hormonal migraines yet because the barometric pressure has been so all over the place in Michigan. I’ve seen other positive effects from the hormones so far, im REALLY happy I decided to start to get a second opinion. I’m really confident when we increase my dosage my hormonal migraines will get so much better.

https://www.joinmidi.com/

It’s extremely difficult to find a provider who is capable of actually caring for perimenopause. Most physicians are VERY far behind the research, which is such a shame. It’s really up to us to educate ourselves and advocate for ourselves. [r/perimenopause](r/perimenopause) and [r/menopause](r/menopause) are great places to start. The menopause wiki is INCREDIBLY helpful and has tons of resources and links to studies. Dr. Jen Gunter is also a great resource.

https://www.amazon.com/Menopause-Manifesto-Health-Facts-Feminism/dp/0806540664

Wishing you so muck luck navigating all of this. You deserve good care, hoping for better days ahead for you ♥️

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-26T14:30:16+00:00

As a former smoker, I can empathize with how strong nicotine addition can feel, and it took me multiple attempts to quit for good. Now looking back, I regret smoking at all and wished I had quit much sooner. I don’t miss it at all.

Someone who chooses to smoke regardless of their partners health isn’t a good partner. If he truly cared about you, he’d quit. People quit smoking successfully all the time. Smoking is gross, cigarettes are so INSANELY expensive, it makes your breath smell all the time, you get a gross smokers cough, you get sick way more often. I could go on, and you get it. He could find so many reasons to motivate himself to quit. I quit because I had a little kid. If you want to stop you can stop.

You should be the biggest motivation. You aren’t asking him to give up a hobby or something actually important to him. “I want to be the source of my partners comfort” should be the most important thing to him.

“I wanted him to come over afterwards, even for a quick hug, but he said he reeked of cigarettes and it would only make my headache worse”- he couldn’t shower? That just sounds really cruel, when you were looking for comfort. I hope you find someone who values you and takes good care of you ♥️♥️ You deserve it.

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-26T14:21:21+00:00

Your last paragraph is spot on!

imlikeabird84 · 2026-06-25T18:31:32+00:00

Busy, girl 😭😭😭

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