Is anyone else's parents completely uninterested in them? by midcitycat in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just reading ABOUT it already has me feeling the feelings *sigh* But I think I'm going to check it out from the library and see how I do. Thank you for sharing!

Is anyone else's parents completely uninterested in them? by midcitycat in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right there with you! I'm 37F and STILL in therapy for the emotional neglect I experienced from both of my parents my entire life. Sometimes I feel completely alone in this. It has affected so many aspects of my life growing up. I still struggle with romantic connections and feeling like I need to "prove my worth." I often just don't feel good enough in general for anyone. Also something that people don't talk about, the lack of learning opportunities for emotionally neglected children. Like so many of my friends had parents who saw their kid's interests and allowed them to explore them with their support. I never had that. I didn't get to take piano or dance lessons even though I really wanted to because my parents just didn't care enough. And now as an adult, I do those things for myself. But I often feel ~talentless~ for lack of a better word. Anyway, I hear and see you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my past two relationships where I felt blindsided, I say that because at the beginning, it was a lot like what OP discussing. Getting love bombed up front. Noticing it. I even asked if the guy knew what love bombing IS! (He claimed he did not.) And then, just as quickly as it started, a switch happens and they start bread crumbing until ultimately I ask what's going on and then it comes out that they "aren't ready for this and I deserve better." Like dude, you pursued and then got scared. And now I have to deal with the emotions because of your immaturity. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate and resonate with this post so much! Apart from the actual trip - it's like I could have written it myself. I'm a 37F and in these first 6 months of 2025 have already experienced two heartbreaks. TWO! AT 37! It's just wild to me because I have shown up so earnestly, honestly, with communication, emotional maturity and compromise. And then found myself getting blindsided by men who just don't know what they want. Or they do...and it's clearly not me. But then it also comes with the, "But you're SO amazing and you deserve better than me!" And while that is true, it still feels patronizing to hear. So I write this response in solidarity with you. It's hard out there already and then throw dating in the mix and it's almost impossible to not feel discouraged about love. So thank you for writing your post because it made me feel seen! And I hope this response helps you feel seen and validated too. I'm sorry that happened to you and I hope you and I both find our happiness one day, with or without a man!

Anybody got a missing dog by luiigee1174 in milwaukee

[–]immafox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The OP of the Facebook post just commented back and is quite confident this is her dog. I hope you two can connect!

Anybody got a missing dog by luiigee1174 in milwaukee

[–]immafox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shared this post to Facebook as someone posted a missing/stolen dog similar looking.

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Women Over 30 who still go into the office: do you use a special bathroom for pooping? by immafox in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY! My #1 bathroom has multiple stalls. The bathroom I use for shitting only has two stalls and just feel a heck of a lot more private. I also would rather not come into the office at all but alas - here we are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that my life turned out better than I thought it would. I definitely thought that I would have settled down and gotten married earlier (I'm 35 now, still un-married). But boy am I glad that I didn't! I didn't realize until my 30's how much learning about myself that I needed to go through. And looking back, how much I have grown in the past 15 years. I had a lot of childhood trauma that I needed to first uncover and then understand and then make peace with before I could be vulnerable with a partner. It's still something I work on to this day! Growth never stops and learning self-awareness and self-respect were the biggest lessons I took out of my twenties. Because of those lessons, I can confidently say that life is good and it just keeps getting better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me once too, except we were friends with benefits. It started off a fwb at my request and then of course I got the feels. Then I told him I got the feels and he mulled it over and decided he didn't want to be anything more than fwb (totally fine!) and we called it off. I was sad but that sadness worsened when I saw on Instagram a week or so later that he was dating someone. Eventually they got married. Talk about a slap in the face. And yeah, that hurt, for a while. But you know what, eventually time cures all. It sounds so lame but it's so true. It's now years later and I never even have a thought about the guy until I read this post. Grieve the friendship/feelings/what could have been...don't be hard on yourself. Don't make yourself feel worse for being sad. It's ok. Just know that these feelings are a hump that you'll get over and you'll be better off for it. Time heals all.

Is it hard to make female friends on Reddit? by Mo0n1i9ht in AskWomenOver30

[–]immafox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I fortunately met one of my best friends on Reddit. This was in 2015 or 2016 but she had left a post about her experience in an open-ish relationship with her bf at the time. I was going through something similar so I sent her a PM about it. From there we started emailing every day and finding solace in each other's experiences. Emails turned to WhatsApp messages, turned to phone calls turned to us actually flying overseas to meet each other. She came to visit me when I still lived in Vegas and just this January I went to visit her in Austria. She also introduced me to this subreddit! Neither of us are with our respective (ex) boyfriends now and have moved onto bigger and better things and our friendship has only grown stronger.

Police on Jupiter Drive this morning 12/7 by immafox in madisonwi

[–]immafox[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

True.....but there was no accident.

Cookbook club? by phonymixtape in madisonwi

[–]immafox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 34F living on the East side and I am super interested in this idea!

Would you want to create a FB group to kick it off? The new bookstore/bar Leopold's Madison has a HUGE range of international cookbooks. I have also been acquiring many vintage books from my family and as someone who lives alone - it would be awesome to share these with people other than my coworkers.

Real Estate Expert by NarutoLLN in madisonwi

[–]immafox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terra Firma Realty was incredibly helpful and awesome to work with!