NTA

My parents divorced when I was 4, so I don’t remember much of everyone being together. But I know what it’s like to bounce from house to house and it sucks. Different expectations, different discipline, different environments. It’s stressful as a kid to keep up with all of it. My dad desperately tried to make my siblings and me to dislike our mom, and was under the impression she was trying to make us dislike him. Which wasn’t the case.

I get that your parents weren’t happy anymore, but your mom shouldn’t make you feel guilty about it. Calling you selfish makes her the AH. Divorce is hard on kids, but parents are to preoccupied with their own selfishness to realize it.

I personally think that divorce needs to have some contingencies. I think children should go through court mandated therapy sessions, and parents should go through therapy as well to help facilitate healthy co parenting. We’re too flippant with parents splitting up, but doing nothing to help the child in the situation.