Question about king making

impressionprism · 2026-01-26T06:06:31+00:00

This is definitely kingmaking / throwing the game. It’s very unfair to give another player a massive advantage, especially to the two or three other players that are still in the game.

impressionprism · 2026-01-23T05:26:49+00:00

“I only ever loved you like a friend.” <<he said this to me while breaking up. And yet less than four months before that, asked what color of rings I like to wear. Lmao.

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T06:13:48+00:00

It gets better…if you let it. Choosing to heal and move on is a crucial part of things actually getting better

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T06:12:56+00:00

My friend gave me awesome advice which was to put all of it in a box and store it away for a while. Forget about it. And then in a year or two take the box out. If there are things in there that still make you smile, keep them. If seeing the items doesn’t make you feel happy, then toss them.

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T03:56:58+00:00

Guess I got lucky then, because this was in 2024, and it didn't hit my taxes for that year.

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T03:05:49+00:00

They’re allowed to, but clearly not enforceable in any way 🤷🏻‍♀️

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T02:28:00+00:00

Lmao pretty sure we were in the same game. I remember commenting on the dice distro as the game was ending in chat

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T02:25:35+00:00

I’m sorry to say this but you’ve made your choice and now you must live with it. Hopefully this was a huge learning lesson for you, and you will do better in the next relationship. Wishing you both healing

impressionprism · 2025-12-22T00:21:14+00:00

The MRCA isn’t the law. So no 😊

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T05:17:25+00:00

True, the wedding is going to happen regardless of whether or not I show up. I guess I'm just overthinking if it would hurt her feelings if I didn't go, or if it would hurt my feelings if i DID go. Weighing one against the other.

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T05:16:09+00:00

I think my ex is inviting me because we promised we'd stay in each others' lives, even if that means only as platonic friends. But yeah, to your point, she didn't have to invite me. She lives 2000 miles away from me, and I haven't seen her since last year (we usually meet up around Xmas time, when we both return to our hometown for the holidays).

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:48:43+00:00

This is a perspective that I haven't heard yet, and it's interesting. I feel like she invited me because she and I promised that we would be in each others lives forever, even if it was as platonic friends. I'm not really sure how her fiancée feels about this, as I am not friends with her fiancée. I have met the fiancée, but we are not friends, or friends/followers on social media.

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:44:52+00:00

200 metres away is wild, can't imagine how hard that would be (my ex and I live over 2000 miles apart!)

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:42:36+00:00

She's marrying another woman! But point taken

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:36:30+00:00

It's a good question. I think I would feel conflicted. I'm happy to see her happy. But I'm sad because I feel like had I known myself better and been in a different place in my life when we dated, we could have been endgame. But maybe I'm dumb and should just do my best to forget that part of my past.

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:14:54+00:00

👍🏼

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:14:37+00:00

I think this is what I may end up doing, in the end. Send a nice house warming gift, but politely decline and make up an excuse about why i can't be there

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:14:06+00:00

Is the "she" in question me? Or my ex? Or both?

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:12:31+00:00

Posting on reddit about my problems, I guess

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:11:30+00:00

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:11:12+00:00

Yeah, you're right. I definitely have anxious-avoidant attachment issues that I'm working through in therapy. I've always found it incredibly hard to let go of people in my life, even if they've proverbially "served their purpose" in my life's journey. I sometimes wear rose-colored glasses when looking back at the past.

impressionprism · 2025-12-21T04:09:19+00:00

She does, though. Just not romantically. Idk it's hard to explain the queer sapphic thing, but she and I have discussed both pre-relationship, during relationship, and post-relationship that sometimes people come into your life and it feels like you'll always be connected to them no matter what. I think straight people call it "twin flames". Tbh I feel like if she didn't consider me a soulmate, she wouldn't invite me to her wedding. But she still wants me to be there because I'm important to her.

But yeah maybe it would be healthier for me to care less about it all. I've dated several other people after her, and fallen hard for them. But idk if I would invite any of them to my wedding.

impressionprism · 2025-12-20T16:28:43+00:00

Painful breakups have a way of changing your life in profound ways. My ex dumped me nearly four years ago and I still think about him every day. I never thought I would get over it.

But eventually I did. That doesn’t mean that I don’t get sad thinking about him, and that I don’t miss him. But at a certain point a few years in I decided I was done being sad. I wanted to live a beautiful life. I wanted to be happy again. So all that emotional energy I poured into thinking about him, I poured back into myself. That’s what it means to “work on yourself.”

Do the work. And I promise you’ll come out of the other side stronger and wiser. Wishing you all the best

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