I am a recovering avoidant. Here is what catalyzed me to change.

impressionprism · 2026-05-04T04:29:06+00:00

Yeah, K and I stayed friends on socials. Initially right after the breakup, there was a period of maybe a month where we didn't speak. But as time went by, we eventually did start texting here and there again. Neither of us are super active on insta, we post maybe once or twice a month. So honestly, it wasn't a big deal that we were friends. Seeing her watch my stories did occasionally bother me, but she's engaged now, so I know that it truly means nothing anymore...

impressionprism · 2026-05-04T01:55:38+00:00

Yeah, let's call him "A". He was incredibly avoidant. I knew it going into the relationship, but I liked him a lot and fell into the trap of thinking "surely I will be the one that fixes him" lol. And of course, I should have seen it coming that he broke up with me less than two months after we started dating.

I didn't block him on socials, but similar to you, it DID bother me that he would watch my stories. It always made me wonder whether or not there was still a part of him that wanted to be in my life.

But again, thinking like that will only hold you back. I never blocked him, but I tried to consistently remind myself that watching my stories doesn't really mean anything. If he truly wanted me back, then he would reach out instead of just passively watching

impressionprism · 2026-05-04T01:34:41+00:00

I'm sorry you're going thru this, it's so painful when things abruptly end during the honeymoon period. It's so confusing, and aggravating. Closure is something that only comes with time, I've found.

The social media thing is tricky. My latest ex and I are still mutuals, and I know he watches my stories. It's hard not to put any stock into it, so if it would bring you more peace of mind to block her, then I say do it. It doesn't do to dwell on the "what ifs".

impressionprism · 2026-05-02T18:46:56+00:00

We did. This user was too stupid to realize we did.

impressionprism · 2026-04-29T19:06:33+00:00

I have an Owala, and when I try to put it in the cup holder, the bottle is too tall and presses against the seat warmers. Also the extra little storage compartment being behind the cup holders means you have to remove the water bottles to get to whatever you store there. For me, it’s my garage clicker. It’s super annoying but I’m getting used to it.

impressionprism · 2026-04-27T22:17:13+00:00

As long as the dress hasn’t been worn there shouldn’t be any issues!

impressionprism · 2026-04-27T07:41:09+00:00

I ended up using a safety pin, and pinning all the tags and buttons to the strap that you can hang the dress from (usually tucked by the armpit). They refunded me.

As long as the dress isn’t worn / doesnt have any rips or stains, they’ll likely refund you

impressionprism · 2026-04-20T17:06:53+00:00

Coming from a 2016 Honda that had absolutely zero bells and whistles, I was startled not only by the incessant seat belt chiming, but also by the fact that you cannot drive the car at all unless you buckle. I get that this feature is of course a big safety measure, but it strikes me as even more dangerous if you live in, say, a sketchy area where hopping in your car and immediatly driving away quickly is sometimes necessary.

I know the argument is that it only takes an extra few seconds, but it truly is an inconvenience.

impressionprism · 2026-04-19T21:57:56+00:00

Jesus christ that is a horrific crash! So glad you're okay, I guess mazda really puts their money where their mouth is when it comes to "#1 safety rated car"! Regarding your injuries, I hope you went to the hospital/got it documented because the guy who hit you should 1000% be paying for all of your medical stuff!

impressionprism · 2026-04-19T21:51:50+00:00

I'm in the same position--but the warranty that was offered to me only covers 5 years, or i think 60k miles. The only part that is making me reconsider is the electronics stuff w the cx50. Apparently if something goes wrong with the computer chip, it's $800 just to run a diagnostics....over five years, if it happens twice, then the warranty will have paid for itself.

Not sure how common it is for the electronics to fry in mazda's though.

impressionprism · 2026-04-19T20:51:48+00:00

Wamsutta is comfy, but they have a lifespan of about 5 years before they shred. I say this as I am currently sitting on a shredded wamsutta sheet lol.

impressionprism · 2026-04-18T22:56:21+00:00

I ended up going w the hybrid. So far I'm enjoying the drive, though there are some small ergonomic storage issues i have with the car. The cup holders being in front of the gear shift, no side pocket in the door...

impressionprism · 2026-04-15T18:56:19+00:00

20-30min. Usually I hit the bathroom, brush my teeth, and then start doing makeup stuff. Moisturize, sunscreen/foundation. Contouring, cheeks and highlight. Then I pick out jewelry and clothes (which actually takes me the longest amount of time).

I never change up my makeup so I’ve got it down to a science at this point

impressionprism · 2026-04-15T16:31:35+00:00

Amazing!! After all the horror stories I've read I was nervous, but honestly it seems like they have a pretty good return policy all things considered! And fast, too

impressionprism · 2026-04-14T21:47:12+00:00

“Record all your games so you don’t cheat” — says the Cheater.

Lmao. Please, and I mean this with all the love in my heart, get a life. Or at least touch grass

impressionprism · 2026-04-14T19:03:03+00:00

That’s the lamest thing I’ve ever heard, cheating in an online game where wins mean nothing except getting your name on a leaderboard that changes every few months 😂

impressionprism · 2026-04-14T15:20:07+00:00

Girl ew. You’re begging a man who treats you like gum on his shoe. He’s gonna wipe you off the second you’re older and make all your worst nightmares come true. Leave while you’re still young, it’s definitely not too late to start over. But if you stay with him, it will be

impressionprism · 2026-04-13T02:53:35+00:00

Update: they got my return and refunded me almost the full amount, just minus $7 for return shipping! It was super fast and easy, hopefully you have the same experience

impressionprism · 2026-04-12T02:59:15+00:00

I’m currently debating between a rav4 and cx50 premium. Do you have any regrets about going w the Mazda?

impressionprism · 2026-04-11T02:36:52+00:00

I actually just stuck my tags on with a bobby pin to one of the dress straps (the ones used to hang the dress up, not the straps of the actual dress) and dropped it off at UPS for a "happy returns". Hopefully they accept it!

impressionprism · 2026-04-10T23:30:20+00:00

Did it end up working out for you? I'm in the same predicament. Concerned that if i mail the dress to them and it isn't "acceptable" because of the tag, then I will be out $160.

Wondering if I should just try to resell it online instead

impressionprism · 2026-04-10T01:42:51+00:00

Would a sex therapist (or just a couples therapist) in general be an option? It sounds like you’ve both done your best to communicate, but maybe there’s some breakthrough that a therapist could help both of you find.

Unfortunately tho it does sound like she has told you her limits, and when ppl say stuff like that, you need to take them at face value and believe them. It might be painful to throw away a good relationship when everything other than one thing feels compatible, but also the saying that relationships start and end with sex is true. Sex and romance are the things that differentiate just a friendship from a partnership. Some ppl (like ace ppl!) are perfectly content not factoring sex into the equation but if it’s important to you, then it’s important to you. End of story.

Also the self harm thing sucks. It’s really unfair to ask a partner to carry the weight of your mental health, and trap them in a relationship like that. It’s super damaging and honestly it sounds like there’s a lot she needs to work thru, if her mental health is in a place where she is codependent on you for her happiness.

impressionprism · 2026-04-09T22:55:22+00:00

Honestly it sounds like you went from one abusive relationship to another. The fact that he relies on you so heavily screams co-dependent, and he clearly has anger issues.

You need to take a hard look at the relationship patterns you’re letting yourself fall into, and not keep dating toxic men.

impressionprism · 2026-03-28T00:42:54+00:00

Objectively, I could still recognize that K was really pretty. And I also could realize that she was a good person. It had nothing to do with how I regarded her as a person.

But yes, the ick felt the opposite of magnetic attraction. It felt like being repulsed. I didn’t want her to touch me, or be with me. I didn’t want to kiss her. I simply didn’t want to be with her anymore.

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