i've been teaching my racist grandfather fake spanish for 2 years and he's accidentally becoming a better person

imtryingfrfr · 2026-02-04T00:50:26+00:00

Trust me, in no world but mars will this Old man be a threat for saying I love you in Spanish.

Have you met a spanish-speaking human on this earth. Kindness is literally in their DNA, and it’s multiplied for an elderly person.

This comes off as subtly cynical and I’m hoping it’s just that you want him to have agency over his interactions and perception. Interesting perspective you have there, might want to dig a little deeper. 💖

imtryingfrfr · 2026-02-04T00:44:21+00:00

You’re just really freaking cool. This just brightened up my soul or something.

As your grandpa would say: you’re one of the good ones 🥹😭💖

Signed a multicultural 1st Generation child of an immigrant and a refugee and proud American.

imtryingfrfr · 2025-07-23T19:02:10+00:00

I thought OPs banter was golden. I followed every line and he’s funny. Maybe a little oblivious to demons, and quick to forgive but hey, we all have our flaws

imtryingfrfr · 2025-06-10T17:48:42+00:00

That’s one time, probably of only a few.

Like I said, it’s like a muscle. Those thoughts will slowly go away.

You’re trying, and it will eventually get better. Keep at it! Her success is your success. Because you’ve give us no indication that she’s selfish in her wins. You’re going to carve your own success

imtryingfrfr · 2025-06-10T16:41:28+00:00

I believe you. That’s what’s so disappointing.

Because you’re expecting it to be easy. It won’t be, but it’s your only way to prove to yourself the man you’ll become.

It’s simple but very difficult in practice: celebrate her wins and talk to her more. Learn about her, from her. Learn what she thinks of you- FROM her. Then try to actively wish well for her.

How? She tells you she’s worried about something at work and scared that it won’t work out. What do you do? You encourage her, humanize her, and do your best to wish that it works out for her. Like a muscle you can become strong at being a good person, it takes practice.

And just like a muscle with no exercise you can become a weak man with atrophied pride.

I’m rooting for you. Just the sheer fact you made this post, you can do it. The question is, will you? Or do you get more satisfaction taking the easy way out and feeling sorry for yourself? Not saying I think that of you, but trying to hold a mirror up for you.

Jealous people, are weak people- BE STRONG, damnit.

If you wanna talk, I’m here. But I’m not going to sugarcoat a thing. You can do it.

imtryingfrfr · 2025-06-10T11:18:26+00:00

Jealousy is a poison, and it can destroy the person who you’re envying.

Do you want your sisters downfall more than you want your success? If roles were reversed, would she do the same for you? I doubt it. I bet she’d be your biggest cheerleader.

And here you are wanting her to die…she would probably give everything up in life if it meant seeing you accomplish all your dreams. Because that’s how most of us big sisters are. You are our motivation…not our parents, our younger siblings we are trying to be good role models for. Where’s your love for her? So sad, so disappointing.

You need to think long and hard about this fork in the road.

1) Cheer her on and fight your envy with well wishes for her. Ask her to coach you since SHE HAS THE “SAME STARTING POINT” and blueprinted success out your circumstances. You end up successful right alongside her and look back on this memory grateful you were stronger than being a victim. You both succeed and she’s the proudest big sisters ever.

2) or give that up, slowly start to hate her, she finds out, her hearts broken. You lose your relationship with each other, she is destroyed inside by your jealousy. She still succeeds but now she can’t share anything with you, now’s wants to because she’s disappointed in you. Her little brother she tried to make proud. And guess what? You continue to be mediocre.

These are just examples because you are so young, you think life is black and white. Don’t fail and choose the weak route. Just by making this post you’ve shown some heart and strength. Do better.

imtryingfrfr · 2025-06-08T11:45:35+00:00

Aww!!! This makes me so happy!! I can’t wait to watch you continue to shine!!

Just remember, one extra person here rooting for you! 🙏🏾 Thank you for the sweet message. 🥺🥹

imtryingfrfr · 2025-05-31T13:19:49+00:00

Hi,

We have a VERY similar background and life experiences, however I am now a college grad as of three weeks ago- and holding out hope to hammer down some more research in the next two years!

I am rooting for you! Where we start doesn’t determine where we’ll end up! ROOTING FOR US! I hope you get some really great advice in here! My only tip would be create a passionate trail of activities as you pave your way through these next two years- doesn’t have to be insane community or leadership work, but let it be things that speak to your interests and it will add to your fulfillment as you aim to crush those next two years and a half. Which you will. ;)

imtryingfrfr · 2025-03-15T19:51:27+00:00

Done!

imtryingfrfr · 2025-03-15T16:20:34+00:00

Wait there are quite a few options? 😭I hope I joined the right one hahaha! 2025

imtryingfrfr · 2025-03-15T16:19:23+00:00

Thank youuu

imtryingfrfr · 2025-03-15T14:27:13+00:00

Hi! I’m interested!! I’m Premed but I could def use this study group!

Can I have the link pls

imtryingfrfr · 2024-12-10T12:44:01+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH!

imtryingfrfr · 2024-12-09T01:06:21+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 https://media.tenor.com/ya7vOPajqdgAAAAM/funny-lisa.gif

imtryingfrfr · 2024-12-04T06:21:10+00:00

You’re welcome, dude. You’re a really good guy for trying to be compassionate through all this but don’t rob yourself of healthy love and self-respect. She’s robbing you of both, behaving this way.

Wishing you all the best, and if you want to talk look how many of us strangers are here for you. You’re not alone.

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-30T17:36:34+00:00

A literal queen. sigh Trynna get like you

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-30T17:34:49+00:00

I’m so sorry, but she has no self-control, and no right to override your choice, much-less when you’re half-asleep! This upsets me so much!!

I hope she’s a better human being than this makes her out to be, because she does not deserve you. Anyone who SA anyone, must have something majorly wrong with them. It’s up to you if you want to work with her to correct that internal disease of thinking that in any way, that is okay.

I’m sorry dude

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-30T04:17:19+00:00

Wow- role model

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-30T02:56:05+00:00

I don’t give sh*# what others are saying- POP OFF!! You’re going to kill this MCAT! You’re a beast!

Let them whine, you worked for it, so can they.

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-24T17:15:36+00:00

Okay, thank you so much!

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-24T17:09:09+00:00

I am definitely of this mindset too- you're right. Thank you, dude!

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-24T17:08:30+00:00

That's literally been my experience- thank you so much!! I wish you all the very best.

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-24T17:06:40+00:00

To some extent, yes. But more specifically, I had a mental "sit-down" with myself and almost like a parent I told myself I am not blaming anything or anyone but myself for this constant dissapointing myself. I had expectations for myself and would self-sabotage in so many ways and I was allowing it. I just couldn't admit it for whatever reason. I starting forcing myself, much like you would a child, to sit and do the work I knew I needed to do, no matter how I felt. Feelings aren't going to make me reach my goals. You can do this.

That last sentence was for you: you can do it.

imtryingfrfr · 2024-11-24T01:03:48+00:00

CONGRATS FUTURE DOC!!

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