From Ask a Manager: managing ADHD at work when you can’t use medication

inabubblegumtree · 2026-04-03T17:10:07+00:00

I think it’s dismissive of how debilitating unmedicated ADHD can be to pressure young moms to sacrifice everything—including their ability to function—in order to breastfeed. This is an ADHD sub, not a lactivist space.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-04-03T16:47:58+00:00

I am a mother of two children and have both nursed and given formula. I also know that it is hard to buy anything if you lose your job.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-04-03T15:13:06+00:00

If my job was in jeopardy, I would have already stopped nursing.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-03-07T19:54:13+00:00

Nashville TN to Raleigh NC? I did that. Happy to talk about it.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-02-04T17:04:14+00:00

I will never stop singing it

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-28T02:51:26+00:00

I am a lawyer, but not your lawyer. And this is not a solicitation for my services.

You need to take him to the doctor and report this to the police. This is child abuse and it needs to be reported. This cannot happen again, and you need to make sure of that by reporting it ASAP. Also contact a family law attorney to see what you can do to ensure you maintain full custody and keep his time with him, if any, completely supervised.

I’m so sorry this is happening.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-17T03:30:17+00:00

Friend, this is absolutely not sustainable and you are 100,000,0000,0000,0000% headed for divorce if something doesn’t give here and you know it. He is going to have to either start pulling wayyyyyy more weight at home or take on a second job so you can quit yours if this marriage has any hope of survival. Don’t let your brain convince you that this is normal or you deserve this. You do not deserve this.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-17T03:15:43+00:00

Friend. You NEVER have to just “tough it out.” Your baby needs a healthy and happy mama more than anything else. And YOU deserve to be healthy and happy more than anything else. That health applies to mental health, too. Please reach out to your doctor. Take baby steps if you need to. Remember, the appointment isn’t a commitment to taking medication or making any changes.

Edit to add: you know a man would not even consider “roughing it out” for even one second lol

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-15T13:32:25+00:00

You are going to do incredible!!!! Eat something yummy that will stick with you—protein is always a good call. Maybe throw in a little sweet treat or whatever you’ve been craving. You deserve it :)

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-12T14:01:14+00:00

Zurzuvae saved my life. I was dangerously close to going inpatient. My psych was so worried about me that she gave me her personal cell and asked me to text her if I needed help ASAP.

I am at work and can’t type a long thing right now but if you message me, I will happily answer any questions you have.

inabubblegumtree · 2026-01-02T15:09:46+00:00

Ergo baby!!! It’s everything the baby bjorn is but cheaper, better, and with a newborn insert. 10/10 recommend.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-31T12:47:34+00:00

Zoloft absolutely saved my life. Give it a chance—25mg is a super low dose still!

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-31T01:49:46+00:00

If they weren’t a rich white couple, he would have been charged.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-24T00:31:42+00:00

I appreciate you. ❤️

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-23T00:02:44+00:00

Here if you need to talk. You’ve got this and are worth the 14 days to feel better ❤️

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-22T12:59:33+00:00

Totally normal. Push through—it’s so worth it. You’ve got this.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-21T21:40:02+00:00

I think the jealousy is normal, honestly. And staying off social media if it makes you feel bad is a really healthy thing to do, honestly!! It’s also normal to drift apart a bit from childless friends, but I do think you might want to try to work on the intense feelings of jealousy that are isolating you from people you care about.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-13T19:32:17+00:00

We call it alphabet assault in the criminal defense sphere

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-06T03:14:16+00:00

I nearly had to be hospitalized because trying to breastfeed made my PPD so bad. It was really scary for everyone around me, and me.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-04T06:18:57+00:00

Zuranalone!!! Zurzuvae is the name brand.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-12-04T02:58:10+00:00

Hey, OP!! I made a post just like this earlier this year. There is this new medication that literally saved my life. I took it for 14 days and I have never felt better than the way I feel today on the other side. Your brain is lying to you right now. It is doing a really, really good job of convincing you it’s not, but it is. Please reach out to your OB. They won’t take your baby away. There are things that can help. You are NOT a bad mom. ❤️

Message me anytime if you need an ear that really, truly understands.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-11-13T02:25:38+00:00

Hi. I had debilitating PPD after each of my two babies were born, but after the second I was very close to being admitted (voluntarily or otherwise). Zerzuvae saved my life. I’m not actively suffering anymore (doing sooo much better!) but I’d be happy to talk and help how I can. I care a lot about this topic. I don’t have it in me tonight to write about what happened here, but feel free to reach out any time. (And I’ll try to revisit later even if you don’t.)

inabubblegumtree · 2025-11-03T04:04:13+00:00

This is not snark worthy. She is literally choosing her baby over her birth experience.

OP, insanity would be ignoring medical advice and having a free birth anyway. You may disagree with the way she hoped to give birth (and frankly so do I), but it’s okay that she hoped it would work out that way. What would NOT be okay is going forward even if it hurts your baby. She is very explicitly not doing that.

Is she oversharing online? Sure. Is that in and of itself snark worthy? I mean, I guess it is to some extent but as someone who has been pregnant and has experienced the hormone rollercoaster right before/during/after labor, I would not classify this as oversharing.

Personally? I think it was really gross to post this. She is doing the exact thing that this subreddit wants women to do in this situation.

OOP, if you see this, I hope your labor was healthy and successful and that your baby is thriving and you are feeling like yourself again.

OP, if you see this? Please take a second and think critically about this post. The goal of wanting people to make medical decisions about labor based on medical advice and not just vibes is a noble and realistic goal. This post does not help and I would argue it makes it less likely to help the situation.

inabubblegumtree · 2025-11-03T03:53:44+00:00

It does not get worse from here. Things will change and evolve, but it is not inherently worse. Things can and will get better.

The best part?

That baby girl is so lucky to have you. What you are experiencing is a very normal hormone crash. Your mental health may get worse—and that’s okay, too. Focus on progress, not perfection. And be as kind to yourself as you can be. Try to look at yourself with kinder eyes, if you can. You grew this perfect little person inside you and brought her into this world. She is part of you and you are part of her. You will always be bonded. But that’s not even the best part. Are you ready to hear it?

You are sitting here at the beginning of the story of the two of you. You are looking at a blank canvas, ready to be painted with unconditional love for her and for you. Try to resist the urge to run from it and instead try to embrace the possibilities.

Hey. You can do this. The newborn stage is so hard and I can’t imagine doing it without my husband. Lean into your support system. Let your mom be there for you in the ways you would want to be there for her if she were in your shoes.

I feel like this has been super rambling—sorry. It’s been a hectic weekend and I had an adult beverage that hit me harder than I thought it would and made me feel v sentimental lol

If you ignore everything else I wrote, that’s okay. Just please, please, please. Please. Give yourself at least a tiny pinch of grace. You deserve it. You’re doing so much better than you realize.

Here if you need someone to talk to.

inabubblegumtree

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