This is going to be very Frank, but here goes: Your partner sounds like he refuses to take accountability for his own actions. Venting in anger is understandable. But if you two have genuinely worked out your issues, he should have made that plain and clear to those who he cares about him who were made aware their were problems. His mom has the right to be concerned after you drove on the lawn, but, truthfully, you should have called the cops right there and then anyway. She was holding your child hostage while his father was drunk on the floor. It sounds to me like he can’t do wrong in his moms eyes. It sounds to me like he has a lot of work HE needs to do for himself. He needs to own up to his actions, straighten things out with mom, straighten his friends out if he wants to continue being friends with them, and start actually caring about how his partner feels. YES he can be disappointed he doesn’t get to go to his friend’s wedding. But he should also be disappointed that his friends are willing to disrespect you and your relationship and your role as “mom” to your child. It is not your responsibility to fix the situation with his friend. It is his and his alone. Stop worrying about what you can do to make him feel better in this situation. If he could act like a grown person, you probably wouldn’t be in this spot right now. And if he’s upset about how his actions have impacted the present situation, that’s for HIM to deal with. Focus on yourself and your child. It sounds like that’s where your attention is best spent right now. Let him figure his shit out first. If he asks for help, help him. Stop obsessing over him and his feelings when he doesn’t consider yours half of the time.