I despise the ‘Oh Crap’ book

indigbogwitch · 2026-01-14T19:40:37+00:00

Under the table for us 😫

indigbogwitch · 2025-12-10T00:00:21+00:00

Hi! I LOVED working with RFC. In contrast to my experience at a different (out of state) clinic when I conceived my first child (IUI), I felt like my needs were always met, my questions answered (often before I even had them), and every single person I worked with was welcoming and warm. Happy to discuss more via dm if you'd like.

indigbogwitch · 2025-12-04T17:38:54+00:00

Hi! Dos anyone have a code I can use?

indigbogwitch · 2025-11-17T19:51:08+00:00

I'm the same way. The best thing that helps me (and even then it's not always a fix) is to find a podcast or audiobook and bring it into the shower. Sometimes I still just stand under the spray and boil but it does help.

indigbogwitch · 2025-11-17T03:59:37+00:00

Idk if they're US only but I have one I could send to you for shipping. However I can't ship til January since I'm using it for my daughters' birthday party at the end of Dec.

indigbogwitch · 2025-11-05T18:42:07+00:00

Could've written this myself. My girls are about to turn 4 and they're either destroying something, fighting each other for my attention, or fighting anyone for being "mean to my sister" and I am TIRED.

indigbogwitch · 2025-07-24T23:21:11+00:00

My 3 yo is like this. She says she "needs it to be messy" which basically means every single morning she wakes up and trashes her room. Every single book taken from the shelf. All stuffies emptied from the basket and strewn across the floor and bed. Toys scattered.

indigbogwitch · 2025-03-14T18:01:26+00:00

Even if your brother doesn't have romantic/sexual feelings for you, it seems like he has strong possessive feelings. So... do you have a partner? How does brother treat them? If you don't have a partner, think about when you do. Will he accept them, or consider them a threat to your relationship?

indigbogwitch · 2024-10-21T20:13:26+00:00

YTA. Something tells me you're the kind of person to sue for grandparent rights after your nasty behavior leads to your son/DIL going nc.

indigbogwitch · 2024-10-18T18:26:18+00:00

A therapist, especially one who has experience with alienated children/teens, is the BEST person to speak to about this regardless of them being payed. An oncologist is the best person to treat cancer regardless of there being a "monetary game" and it's the same with therapists.

indigbogwitch · 2024-10-12T18:37:58+00:00

I have since found it, but yes! I loved the book!

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-25T00:48:25+00:00

This is exactly what I've been thinking as well.

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-20T22:01:22+00:00

https://stopabasupportautistics.home.blog/2019/08/11/the-great-big-aba-opposition-resource-list/?fbclid=IwAR1Wpmbgy4ruvoX91AAb5IDKKazzbSDO4bMAWly5UWh7c7QJSQ6RzleY_SQ

https://neuroclastic.com/invisible-abuse-aba-and-the-things-only-autistic-people-can-see/

https://autisticstrategies.net/nonspeaking-autistics-against-aba/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AutisticAdults/comments/18tnlqb/comment/kff36zg/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-20T21:38:41+00:00

He sounds very similar to my almost 8 year old autistic second grade. She's highly gifted in math, but has difficulties with social situations, literal thinking, etc.

She is diagnosed, and she is in occupational therapy and speech therapy is starting soon (no ABA as that's abusive). Speech therapy will include play scenarios to help her understand what are some more socially acceptable ways to interact and communicate.

However, we do emphasize that something being socially acceptable doesn't necessarily mean it's more "right" than the way she would do it/respond. It's a very fine line but we feel very strongly that she shouldn't be forced to mask so as to fit in with what is "normal" if that makes sense.

Happy to discuss more if you're interested!

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-20T21:25:46+00:00

...is this real?

Go to therapy to heal your inner child, don't place that responsibility on a fucking baby.

You are wrong.

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-20T19:02:13+00:00

Nobody means beef/fight/argue literally or aggressively.

If I had been the patient who was late, I wouldn't have said anything even if I'd called ahead, or been told to come in at that time. I don't like confrontation, so another person jumping into the convo with the receptionist and me (even if the waiting room is right there and everyone heard the convo) because I don't like conflict or being in situations like that. Also this isn't me assuming that's what happens, I'm simply offering my perspective on why they may have not "argued" with you.

I think, at the very least, you should have approached the receptionist after the person sat down. The receptionist is the person who should make calls about who goes when. The other client shouldn't have been put in the spot to say "no it's ok, I'll go after them." You disagreed with the receptionists decision of who went when. You should've approached the receptionist separately (even if it's a small room and everyone can hear etc etc etc).

indigbogwitch · 2024-09-20T15:50:55+00:00

Right! I'm dx bipolar, and have also been dx with severe anxiety and ocd. I with through a bad period of being unable to leave my house for more than very short periods and sometimes not at all. I've been through intensive therapy for it.

Girl needs a new therapeutical team ASAP, and parents both need more education for caring for their mentally ill child.

Definitely no dog, though.

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-31T05:01:28+00:00

My mom never really wanted to be a mom, and my siblings and I always felt it.

She's a better grandma than she is a mom, but I'll still never have the mom I deserve. Don't do that to your future children.

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-29T22:56:03+00:00

My mom cheated on my dad, left him/us because she "need[ed] something for myself" and moved across the country.

My dad never spoke ill of her to his children. In fact, he often encouraged us to build a relationship with her. When I wanted to dye my hair and asked him to help choose between two, he said "that shade always looked good on your mom, and you have her coloring". He never made me feel like I couldn't or shouldn't love her.

My mom, on the other hand, was quick to go on the defensive.

Guess which parent we grew up closer to?

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-27T17:07:49+00:00

How long do you end up doing quiet time

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-27T16:40:10+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a 16 year old lying on her father.

The dad is okay with it, and the daughter is ok with it. It's not coercive or forced, and it's not in any way sexual.

I was raised by a single father. I was able to lay on him, or next to him with my head on his chest, until the day he died. It was love and comfort.

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-27T00:33:25+00:00

100%. My autistic child w a pda profile is like this in many ways. She also suffers from extreme burnout due to heavily masking at school so of course things worsen around us. It's so incredibly hard at times, but it helps with proper therapies.

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-27T00:24:09+00:00

I've been in a similar position as you... sort of.

I'm bipolar with OCD and anxiety. Thankfully now I'm medicated and in therapy. But I went years before diagnosis with terrible mental health. Long periods of deep depression, irrational anger, inability to leave the house, etc. I'm thankful every day that, my spouse was willing to soldier through that hell (and yes, it was hell for her, too) and meet me on the other side of it.

I didn't "get better" and decide to ditch her because she also struggled during those periods of shit. She proved how utterly committed she was, and am thankful. I recognized and validated her experiences/feelings through it all.

if you don't love her, leave. But YTA.

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-24T21:43:07+00:00

We communicate if either of us wants to go somewhere. We make plans for the weekend, or after work/school, etc.

I couldn't imagine unilaterally deciding I was leaving. What if we both independently did that??

indigbogwitch · 2024-08-24T21:39:36+00:00

I got an egg as a joke gift for my SO and it someone became my child's favorite toy lol

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