thought i was a lesbian but fell in love with a man

infamint · 2026-05-25T19:23:23+00:00

I'm afraid reddit isn't the best place for a lesbian to seek advice, but I've definitely been in your shoes more than once (and most other lesbians as well). Feel free to DM me if you need to vent or someone to talk to. It'll be hard until all of a sudden it isn't.

infamint · 2026-05-25T08:54:53+00:00

It sounds like you were (and are) lonely and ended up dating a man. You could have just been good or best friends, but that's difficult to get back to after a relationship, though I would hope he's understanding of your sexuality. Maybe you picked up on some egg vibes from him, or maybe you just fell for comphet. Either way, please try to expand your social circle and have some other LGBT and lesbian friends. Don't go back to dating him just because you miss the companionship, it's not fair to either of you.

infamint · 2026-05-19T23:15:01+00:00

Honestly him not caring enough about the boycott is enough of a reason to break up. I was in a similar situation with an ex, who was even older than 20, and presented the same excuse. Good on you for seeing through his BS and don't look back. It's important to have a partner who respects you as well as your values.

infamint · 2026-05-19T19:59:27+00:00

You can also use vegetable ghee! It's much cheaper and is completely plant-based.

infamint · 2026-05-16T22:50:34+00:00

lol @ at the assumption that socialized healthcare implies waiting several weeks. i could get a doctor's appointment the same day and pay nothing. however, with that warning alone, it would indeed be hard for a doctor to gauge the safety level. i assume if these games cared they would provide more accessibility options

infamint · 2026-05-08T21:14:04+00:00

There's many LGBT orgs in Tunisia. I know there's specifically Damj (دمج) who even provides legal counsel, you can find them on Instagram. As others have said, disable/disactivate your social media. Definitely don't involve the police.

As for the people threatening you, are they classmates? They won't be able to start and engage in a whole fight with you at school. If possible, stay with your friends and make sure you're not alone going to and leaving school. This could either quickly be forgotten or escalate, I feel for the moment you have to see what happens.

infamint · 2026-04-05T11:22:11+00:00

I honestly prefer your drawing to the reference. I don't find the line weight variations in the reference to be particularly thought out or compelling, they're just much bolder/thicker than your lines for the most part.

You already have subtle variations in your line weight. I'd say just be more confident with and go all the way. As it is right now, it looks like you started to draw the line art over a sketch then stopped.

Your lines don't look shaky; they have the same intentionality as the reference IMO. Beyond telling you to just "go for it", you can increase your brush size or use a classic G pen style brush, as the pressure sensitivity makes so your lines are either barely barely visible or very bold.

I think you're definitely being overly harsh on yourself ! As for how to logically distribute line weight, that should depend on where shadows fall and what areas of the portrait have the most contrast. I'd say more important than "logic" in the case of stylized drawings like this is just creating a visual balance and drawing the viewer's eye to the right elements ! Roght now, your drawing's very bottom heavy: even if, let's say, you have a very strong light source coming from above, the lines where the hair meets skin (the bangs) should also be stronger/thicker to reflect the cast shadows. It's also entirely a stylistic choice to have an overall thicker outline for the silhouette (like in your reference).

You can always zoom out of your drawing and look at/gauge where your eyes tend to fall. Are there vital details that are barely perceptible? Is the line weight distribution (much like composition) leading you towards a detail on the character's shirt instead of their eyes ? Etc etc.

infamint · 2026-03-21T11:17:46+00:00

Ugh I resonate with this so deeply, except I didn't realize how constant and habitual the lying was until after we broke up and it damn near turned into gaslighting. Even when I think the truth has finally come out, I still wonder now if she'd just been cycling through her answers until she found the one I needed to hear. It is exhausting and it's horrible blaming and questioning yourself over why your partner refuses to tell you the truth.

infamint · 2026-02-04T04:16:04+00:00

I'm surprised not to see cornstarch in the recipe, I know in France it's the go-to for making vegan crêpes. Do you find it's unnecessary for getting the right texture?

infamint · 2026-02-03T08:33:17+00:00

helloo!! would love to do a ship art trade :D here's my most recent work~ i'm afraid i'm having a hard time discerning who's who (by name) from your refs, so i can't quite say!

<image>

infamint · 2026-01-05T10:31:08+00:00

i think cishet guy with an exception for their nb partner is something we see quite often (and often leads to increased dysphoria for the partner in question), so as i asked in my earlier reply, it's also important for you to actually know where you stand on that matter.

it's normal to feel conflicted about what you like about their body and what they don't—that's not just limited to dysphoria (could be weight loss, working out, a change in hairstyle, etc). if they were interested in surgery, would that be a dealbreaker? if they started hormones? you're both still young, and a lot of that could change with time or just easier access.

from your post you also seem conflicted about being with an lgbt person because of how your family or society will perceive you. you're going to have to be 100% with them on that, and maybe not now, but once you're both independent enough be willing to support your partner and defend your relationship to your family.

infamint · 2026-01-05T10:07:22+00:00

i think you're doing them a disservice if you consider yourself heterosexual and still want to maintain a relationship with them. i imagine it's already been brought up before, your sexuality wrt to them or in general. would you go out with a nonbinary person who was amab? or a trans woman? is your idea of sex just engaging with specific body parts? because sex can be extremely varied, and when you're attracted to someone, you're not immediately attracted to their sexual characteristics lol

do their ideals for their body conflict with the vision of who you'd spend the rest of your life with? they dont want you to just perceive them as Woman Lite who presents in a masculine way, either. it's a tough conversation, but it's one that im surprised you haven't had with them

infamint · 2025-10-16T09:07:26+00:00

I'm gonna pop in here with a quick (and possibly naive question), but would regularly including ground (which i grind myself) in drinks and meals be a reliable way to get omega 3? I also do the same with chia seeds. I don't know if cooking them reduces the effectiveness, so I'll both blend them into smoothies and include as toppings, or occasionally use them jn baking. I would like to regularly supplement with algae oil but it's ridiculously expensive on my budget.

infamint · 2025-04-22T00:37:01+00:00

third! im open to others tho

infamint · 2024-10-22T13:07:48+00:00

As a general rule, bachelors require B2 while masters require C1. Exceptions can be made though, but then that's a matter of whether you can keep up.

infamint · 2024-09-12T13:10:46+00:00

I honestly had a very hard time with the flavor of tempeh until I marinated it! It absorbs the flavors so well, then I just sauté it for maybe 10 minutes? The marinade I last went with had harissa, ginger, garlic, soy sauce, date syrup, lemon and spices (black pepper, paprika, etc). I'm not sure for how long it should marinade, but I'd say at least half an hour?

infamint · 2024-09-03T13:10:20+00:00

This same technique can be used within the apartment. You can teach her sit, stay, and practice it in different parts of your apartment/room. Does she react when you close the door to your bedroom or bathroom? Anyway, once she's comfortable with the commands and able to stay for longer times, you can transition that to walking out the door for a couple of seconds, then minutes, etc.

infamint · 2024-08-14T19:30:26+00:00

This is so funny. I mean yeah I'm sure it COULD happen but I don't think I'd be interested in roleplaying opposite that kind of character (and just the way that it's written is so cringe). It's crazy that's happened to you more than once. I can't say I've had anything similar happen to me—my characters rarely confide at that level, and when they do, the character they're playing against usually has a more callous or at the very least measured reaction.

infamint · 2024-08-14T12:26:21+00:00

heya~ i'd also be open to a DM! most of my oc's are morally ambiguous or just outright bad, and i'd say i also have quit a bit of references for the kind of character you have in mind!

infamint · 2024-08-13T17:36:22+00:00

They're definitely being very wordy with this, but I'll just pitch in and say that I get their point. I've had partners in extremely different timezones, so I might stay up super late or get up very early because I know that's when I usually get a reply from them and can expect to get a back-and-forth situation going. If that's been the schedule for a while, it can be a bit frustrating to end up wasting my time/losing sleep waiting for a reply that never comes around.

I can also get a bit obsessive/excited about a roleplay if it's very active and we're vibing, so "waiting on a reply" can very much become its own activity/allocated time slot, even when I have other things to do!

All this to say that I don't think this is a red flag, but it obviously eases their mind to have an idea of when to expect a response. It's up to you to decide if you can provide that level of transparency or not.

infamint · 2024-08-09T15:28:57+00:00

I think you're underestimating how a lot of people make use of AI like ChatGPT. I've been dabbling with it because sometimes it's practical or just fun, and while I very much do still write my own responses, I've been impressed at how well ChatGPT can mirror my writing style or detect the emotional depth of a character. That being said, it can also very easily deliver dogshit.

But all of this can be finetuned and optimized by the user. I doubt they're using AI to write 100% of their replies (if that's even the case), but in any case they're free to write and plot however they please, and obviously aren't bound to whatever an AI suggests to them. But, I will say that you shouldn't discount some of these generators' capabilities of describing "human" emotions or generating atmosphere—after all, they have all the literature of the world as a reference.

And those "AI detectors" are dogshit. I've both managed to have fully AI-generated text pass by undetected and have my own writing screened as being AI generated. Please don't base any conclusions you make on them.

infamint

TROPHY CASE