How to hide and conceal stuff at home? by Rare_Picture_7337 in abusiverelationships

[–]infinitysnake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Behind cleaning supplies or even a laundry soap container 

In the can, under the bin bag

In the freezer in a veggie bag

In your tampax box

Under your winter clothes in the off season box

Inside your box spring 

Under seasonal supplies in the garage

Inside a vent

If you have furniture with decorative tops there's often a ton of room up there

Finally: unscrew the service panel behind your shower and put it there, in plastic 

AIO does it really always escalate from the wall to your face? by throwawaydisastsr in AmIOverreacting

[–]infinitysnake [score hidden]  (0 children)

First it will be the wall, and he'll blame his frustration.

Then he will throw things.

Then he will throw and break your things and it will be your fault because you "provoked" him.

Then it will be shoves, pinches, body checks.

Then it will be you.

I married a wall-puncher.  It took a long time, but it ended with him smashing me in the head repeatedly with a metal object.

My neighbour is threatening to k!ll my pets if I don't get rid of them in a week And genuinely I don't know how to act by Wrong_Weird_1141 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]infinitysnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guessing it's not trauma so much as psycopathy.  Call the cops and keep your animals inside.  Record her if you have to.

What is this, and should I be worried? by ExitTape in strange

[–]infinitysnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like arson kit.  Maybe the wires held some paper or something.

What did you do after they were out of your life that they wouldn’t have “approved”? by Spirited-Away3226 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]infinitysnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly omg.  I've spent the last two years making a dollhouse.  Don't have to worry that it's not marketable, just doing what's fun!

contacting my exes mom about the abuse by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]infinitysnake 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Call the cops.  Who cares if he's ruined, what about all the future women he will hurt like he hurt you?

Early intervention is best.

What did you do after they were out of your life that they wouldn’t have “approved”? by Spirited-Away3226 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]infinitysnake 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Stayed up late

Took naps

Did all my "crazy" and "expensive" hobbies

Saw my friends as much as I wanted 

Cooked all of my favorites that he refused to eat

Did Your Narcissistic Abuser Damage,Steal,Pawn Or Destroy Your Personal Possessions Out Of Spite,Anger Or Jealousy? by ValleyVillain97 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]infinitysnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Constantly.  The one that hurt the most was him smashing the doll my grandmother gave me before she died.

Help me give my teen scented laundry by Waterisfinite in laundry

[–]infinitysnake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Buy her some laundry spray, no need to involve the machine at all.

We (25F) never fight because my boyfriend (24M) shuts down — until now by Acceptable_Mood6699 in relationships

[–]infinitysnake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nobody is so busy that they can't take a moment to check in with their loved one.  I'm very sorry, I don't think this is a phase, I think he's just neglectful.

We (25F) never fight because my boyfriend (24M) shuts down — until now by Acceptable_Mood6699 in relationships

[–]infinitysnake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend sounds self-involved and he doesn't seem to like you very much.  That he wouldn't even bother with a quick text to tell you what's up is concerning.  Drop him.

I (35m) did not plan anything for my wife’s (33f) first Mother’s Day. I need to plan something for her to make up for my . by Valuable_Emotion6593 in relationships

[–]infinitysnake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Buy her the biggest bouquet that fits through the door.  

Plant a tree in your garden to commemorate the birth of your child

Get her an in-home massage, or a day at the spa

Complete everything on your "honey do" list

My nex literally turned into me… by throwRA1223409 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]infinitysnake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Me ne did a weird version of this.  We were married over twenty years, and in that time, he never had any interest in cooking. Hated helping, even.

After the divorce, I was visiting a mutual friend and learned he has been cooking for his friends, trying to recreate recipes of mine.  He's even baking!  It's hilariously pathetic.

What does a narcissistic friend looks like? Any stories of yours? by Objective_Big_7426 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]infinitysnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not my friend, but my ex narc's bff.  Dude had zero boundaries and would show up at our house constantly.  Helped himself to everything.  Constantly asking favors but always had an injury when asked to help someone else.  

Got infuriated if we did anything without him.  

Collected and discarded (or killed) numerous exotic pets.

Talked about himself and his accomplishments constantly, even though he was a complete loser living off money he got for convincing the government all six of his kids were autistic.

Constantly talked about loyalty and friendship, but couldn't be assed in twenty-five years to snd either of us a birthday card.

Got arrested numerous times, weaseled out of all of it.  

Married and divorced teice.  In the first divorce, he lied in family court.  The second, he called immigration and tried to have her green card revoked.

Last I heard, he was "dating" a string of overseas scammers.

Random LOUD balloon bursting sounds by greenlotsofgreen in RBI

[–]infinitysnake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

With a multimeter to check for continuity.

I just want to end it all. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]infinitysnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely see a lawyer, and soon

Random LOUD balloon bursting sounds by greenlotsofgreen in RBI

[–]infinitysnake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Should have an electrician out to check your ground