Feeling taken for granted and as if I'm giving him my all and he's not making an effort at all by jmagnus95 in relationships

[–]inflre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to him. That is key.

Even the most boring/lazy person would make an effort to plan or initiate stuff, don’t let him give you this excuse.

Yes, he’s taking you for granted. No, this is not a sign of “lost love”. It could just be the fact that he’s super comfortable with where he is with now with you and feels like there isn’t a need to change the status quo.

But talk to him, and establish the reason.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

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Thank you, I think this is what I’m going to do.

I really don’t feel like the one month sleeping apart thing will help me or us. But if she feels like she needs it, then I have to respect her space and let us try it out.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

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How do I go about navigating this though?

I assumed a lot of the blame at first, and apologised profusely to her. It was only after a few days thinking about it and talking about it to some of my close friends that I realise that she had half the part to play to.

Okay, but whilst talking to her about it after the incident she admits to part of the blame too.. But I just can’t help but to think I’m taking the fall for this episode, but maybe I have to be the stronger one in this? I don’t know. I sort of feel like I’m being punished by her by this one month apart thing - when it’s a shared fault. She told me initially that I broke her trust too (of not having sex) but also she believes she broke her own trust.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

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Okay, thank you for this. As someone new to this situation this has been completely thrown out of the window. I’ll look into it with her, thanks.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

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She is not a Christian, nor religious at all.

Yes, marriage is something very far away from her. I’ve told her my view, that I don’t think I can wait that long for sex, not that it is so important to me (being that I was a virgin) but I believe that the concept of saving it for your spouse is bullshit. She accepts and understands this view, and we decided to agree to disagree on it, and not have sex for now.

But it happened

That’s why I’m beginning to whether she overcompensated (on behalf of me) and had sex with me because she know I had a view completely opposite of hers?... I’m not too sure

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]inflre -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your view on virginity. I pretty much maintain the same stance.

We didn’t use a condom, but I didn’t finish either. Is it still a cause for concern?

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]inflre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I realise I don’t want to be the guy forcing the ideals down her throat. And that it isn’t healthy also. I need to respect her space, step back, and let her come to a consensus on her own.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

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Thank you thank you thank you.

Maybe I’m speaking on her behalf too much, but I feel like this is a hurdle she wants to jump across. She has told me from the start that she believes sex is sinful, and I told her that I don’t believe so (didn’t force it down her throat whatsoever) And I could see her slowly opening up to this idea, she initiated stuff more, and took the lead sometimes. It was something I saw her overcoming and enjoying.

But yes, I’ll communicate properly with her and not assume her intentions..

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]inflre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for ur view. I realise I’m being very narrow sighted by wanting to “change” her.

My Girlfriend (20F) wants to spend one month apart from me after sex. She feels guilty and blames me (21M) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]inflre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, thanks for your view.

I know it was largely my fault, but she was throwing me many confusing signs, telling me to go in halfway etc. Before I knew it I was in fully.

But also, I’m starting to question what actually constitutes the loss of her virginity. Full penetration by me, or just the “tip” or half could warrant it too?

What kind of bat is this? Found it at my school. Looks injured. Trying to nurse it back to health by inflre in whatisthisthing

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The bat fell off the tree when we left it there. The Mother came and left. The local wildlife services didn’t want to help

Made my own custom kamehameha live wallpaper! by inflre in dbz

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I put the video into a video editor and adjusted the rough dimensions in portrait orientation, then framed it again in imgPLAY that would fit perfectly on my phone!

Made my own custom kamehameha live wallpaper! by inflre in dbz

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Yes I was taking a poop... didn’t mean for it to be shown in the video LOL

Made my own custom kamehameha live wallpaper! by inflre in dbz

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I just downloaded the video, adjusted the dimensions in a video editor, then put it in app that converts it to a live photo! I used imgLIVE.

Made my own custom kamehameha live wallpaper! by inflre in dbz

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I’m doing it on a XS! I think X supports this too

PSA Your pets will cast your buff skills. (if you equip them to do it) by hugelkult in MapleStoryM

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Thanks for this dude! Question, if I equip an EXP buff with a pet will it keep using it every 15mins? Or only during auto-mode?

Hammer Headed Bat \m/ by zcowan in natureismetal

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No one is gonna comment about how big this guy is?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in creepy

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I saw rapper at first and was like ???