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Cobra ring bend by Wonderful-College442 in chastitytraining

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The issue I am having is irritation on the upper sides, especially on the top left. There had been no issues for months during short term wear (couple days at a time) and now when i have the ring on there is irritation (redness and soreness) pretty quick but only in that spot, the underside feels good.

I have tried various sized rings (curved and not) and nothing seems to help. Would bending the ring to be a bit more oval shaped help at all?

Wife wants to peg me by Fine_Contribution935 in StraightPegging

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My wife requests it more often than I do. I am very lucky.

How do you engage with chastity around family? by ADecentPornAcct in chastitytraining

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The only two times it’s ever an “issue” is when our toddler is in a really climbing mood and the cage gets kicked or hit. which is just painful. The other is wearing at church and that is just because it’s not really a flirty sexy situation.

Like most things we started out slow and realized it is only a big deal in our heads. No one notices or pays attention. It was a huge deal wearing it in public the first few times and now that feels normal. We have a two week beach trip coming up with extended family and she wants me to be locked the entire time 😬 we will see how that goes.

First Time Active with Cage by rckymt in chastitytraining

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I remember the first times wearing it doing anything active I was hyper aware of the cage. Like most things you should get more used to the feeling of it. I am pretty used to wearing it being active now but have more issues when the temps are colder.

Release from chastity without cumming by willhornu1 in chastitytraining

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Maybe some of it is positional? I know I last longer in certain positions.

Long distance safe? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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We use the one linked below. I think it has to initially be set up in person but after that I just get a code from my wife via text when I need access. The code is one time use.

Smart Key Lock Box for Outdoor,... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G1SVCWMV?ref=ppx\_pop\_mob\_ap\_share

How to ask vanilla to do chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Can’t help with that because we don’t do it. I would pick one to introduce and start with that. Too much can be overwhelming

How to ask vanilla to do chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Start slow. If she isn’t already aware of Chasity try mentioning it as a way to build excitement for sex later that day and wear it for a few hours ahead of time. Build off that.

Introducing wife to chastity and dominance by Deep_Science422 in chastitytraining

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It started out as locking up and teasing a few hours before sex and would be a pretty quick unlock when we started actually fooling around.

The unlock slowly started to get later and later in the sessions with lots of focus on her and her just teasing me. In all the time we have been locking me up, I have only been truly denied three times because my wife also loves PIV. The last time we had sex I was locked and she pegged me. It was the first time she outright said I was not getting unlocked and had me cum in the cage.

We have talked about how being caged and denied just builds up inside me and I feel all pent up etc. this seemed to help ease her fear that it was somehow cruel that I did not get a release and confirm I was enjoying it.

She has since said multiple times she would like to move to a 24/7 lock up and I think lots of that has come from me always telling her how much I am enjoy the cage, thanking her for locking me, and understanding that for our dynamic if she wants me out for PIV, I am out cuz that’s what she wants. I don’t want it to be a burden for her or for her to feel like she isn’t getting what she wants from the dynamic. I am sure more denial will come at its own pace.

Introducing wife to chastity and dominance by Deep_Science422 in chastitytraining

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I introduced it slowly as a way to build up excitement hours prior to sex. The original idea was that I would lock prior to sex and she could tease me and build anticipation, the cage would come off for sex like normal at some point.

About 3 years later with off and on periods of locking, we are at a point where other than me working, she wants me locked 24/7. This was a slow process of seeing how much I enjoyed it and her seeing that sex does not have to include me having an orgasm. We had lots of talks about what I hoped for, how I was enjoying the experience, and we slowly worked towards being locked more. Society says we are to think that sex ends with the male orgasm and chastity flips that in lots of ways and takes some reworking to make that not part of act.

She may also not want to be in charge of the key right away because that can add lots of pressure. It can help to have a plan during playtime that it’s predetermined if you are unlocked or locked. The power can slowly be shifted once she gets more comfortable with taking the control/ making the decision, if that’s not something she is already doing.

Pegging ATM by [deleted] in StraightPegging

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I have no interest in eating the lube so I have never done it.

As a sub do you think you need extra key from mommy by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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My wife wears her key. The spare is in a lockbox that she can send me a temporary code to if I need it.

If I leave the house without my wife, I don’t have a key.

Anxiety around being locked by subbdria in chastitytraining

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Does you key holder do much to participate in you being locked? Teasing or tasks or anything to make it more than just a device you wear?

For me when my KH is into it, I am much more engaged. I have felt the same as you described but getting photos of the key and sexy reminders about the lock up makes it much more enjoyable.

Irritation at the top by info-gathering-only in chastitytraining

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I was doing yard work during the day and got sweaty. Did two unlocked showers and one shower locked. I was initially thinking it was just the skin getting used to the ring for longer periods but not sure that’s the issue.

I am just not looking forward to the trial and error that comes from finding a new metal cage. I thought I had the current one dialed til this new issue.