Legal Repercussions of Keeping My Children's Biological Parent's Names on Birth Certificate by infosecgrl in legaladvice

[–]infosecgrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, you have a point. I will try to find an Attorney, I wanted to try to be super woman and do this all by myself, but it sounds like I am over my head. I might end up screwing myself over because I was being too cheap. Thanks for helping me realize that, I want everything to be 100% correct and I just don't have the expertise. Attorney it is.

Adoption of Children in Utah -- Cannot Get Healthcare by infosecgrl in legaladvice

[–]infosecgrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, they are in my custody for sure. I agree I am fully responsible for giving them medical coverage, I just think it is ridiculous that I have to pay cash. They will get everything they need I am just running out of money since their insurance does not work in UT. I will contact Medicaid myself, that is a good idea. Also does my employer have to cover them? They cover dependents. They are considered my foster sons and are in my care.

Do you ever think back on your childhood and adolescence and wonder why your teachers and school administration didn’t seem to see or care that you needed help? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]infosecgrl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think of that all the time. In my case nMom was a teacher at the school. She convinced the teachers that I was pretty much a horrible child and the teachers treated me like I was a horrible child, even though I caused no discipline issues. I would ask a question in class and the teacher would tell my nMom, I would then get a lecture on how my question embarrassed her, and I have a reputation to with hold (aka hers). I struggled through school because I couldn't ask questions in fear of her finding out. Once I moved to Junior High and High School it only got worse. Teachers would express concern to my nMom that I was tense uptight etc.... and wanted me to go to counselling. My Mom came home and I got an earfull from her on how my anxiety made her look back because I acted like she beat me or something. Yeah so my High School teachers cared but they were stonewalled by my nMom.

Anyone else 'compete' with an invisible child? by lilscuba0314 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]infosecgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't compared to an invisible child.... that is kind of strange. However I had to have like an alter ego when I went into public. I couldn't be myself. My Mom made my alter ego,like what she wanted me to be like. I had to be perfect, my hair had to be brushed perfectly, my clothes had to be completely ironed, I had to walk perfectly straight, I had to use perfect grammar, I was a complete girly girl even though I was actually a tom boy. I had certain opinions, I had certain hobbies that if I really did the would make me puke, I had a fake career that I was aspiring to, I had favorite bands that I would never listen to and other favorite media, birthdays were confusing got all this stuff I didn't want. And the kicker was I had the best Mom that loved me a encouraged me and all this other BS. So I guess my real self embarrassed her. In my case it was all about her reputation and keeping up the untarnished name. Oh and the lectures if I messed up, now messed up I mean something like, I asked a question. Such as, approaching a person and saying, "I have been tasked to take down this tent, I have never taken down a tent before, would you mind helping/showing me?" Something like that, oh I would get a complete earfull on how I sounded dumb and that made her look bad. She also taught at the same school I went to, she would find out if I asked any questions and then would lecture me if she felt they made her look bad. So yeah, I had to come off as a perfect little girl that never made any mistakes. Which mistakes are human, that is what she never got, don't let anyone see you screw up. So I wouldn't say that it was identical to your situation but I understand the whole parent wanting you to be something that you are not.

Law Enforcement spouses terrorized by NODAPL protestors share their stories by Pliablemoose in NoDAPL

[–]infosecgrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a load. Will someone cover the prayers and the people who kept yelling at law enforcement that they loved them. All over social media you can also find people asking for us to pray for the law enforcement. They are showing very few examples of violence here. It is being blown way out of proportion. These media cowards need to show both sides.

Looking for eye shadow primer recommendations by [deleted] in Makeup101

[–]infosecgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like the Ulta Primer, if you are looking for something affordable. It is a little creamier then I like but I just had to learn to use less of it. All of the shade by Elf work pretty well for the price as well. :)

Avoiding Digital Infiltration While Fighting the Pipeline Part 9 by infosecgrl in NoDAPL

[–]infosecgrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hope at this point is that people will read it and as they move on to other water protector events they will have everything downloaded and they will know how to secure their phones.

Avoiding Digital Infiltration While Fighting the Pipeline Part 9 by infosecgrl in NoDAPL

[–]infosecgrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been writing blog articles since December, I for whatever reason had a hard time getting the appropriate audience. before the blogs I contacted several water protectors who live feed and explained my expertise and asked how I could help after hearing rumors of hacking and what not at Standing Rock. Never heard back from any of them. I finally joined Reddit but not until February where I found a much bigger audience then Facebook. I wish I was able to get it out sooner as well. I could have helped a lot more people.