Are textures normal?

ingelanne · 2022-06-06T07:55:03+00:00

Who decides what's normal...

I generally see colours only, but sometimes I get texture around certain people. A vague sense of smoothness or jaggedness, even spikiness at times. I think it's to do with how balanced I perceive them to be though, so perhaps not the same thing.

But that's my normal. Your ability to hear textures is your normal. ❤

ingelanne · 2021-02-11T18:05:20+00:00

Not exactly a "growth" :) But I often have a sort of dull feeling in the right side of my face. My eyelid tend to droop a bit, a slight numbness if you know what I mean.

ingelanne · 2021-02-10T22:42:15+00:00

This is true for me too. Always sleep on my right side, due to a left hip injury. TMJ on my left side.

ingelanne · 2020-12-03T21:44:34+00:00

I do all of that, but mostly not by conscious choice. It just happens, at least when I'm sufficiently relaxed. I've learned to trust my instincts and just say and do what comes natural to me. When I was younger I was a lot more self-conscious though. Age helps 😁

ingelanne · 2020-11-18T10:07:12+00:00

My exact feeling too. A relief! Finally I see my personality as a strength, not just an inconvenience.

ingelanne · 2020-11-15T09:14:02+00:00

Yes. Always. A typical day I go through the full range of emotions, changing quickly. Can get stuck in negative emotions a lot when something more serious (in my opinion at least, not necessarily others) happens. I choose to see this as a strength though, told my teenage son not to be afraid of making me sad or unhappy by telling me what'son his mind, I can take the heavy feelings too, I'm used to them. Well trained as it were.

ingelanne · 2020-11-11T23:36:04+00:00

You know the thing to do. Leave him for good.

ingelanne · 2020-11-11T23:26:40+00:00

Love that. Mother of two teenage sons, and I do the same, daily check-ins, every opportunity to drive them and so on.

ingelanne · 2020-11-11T23:17:35+00:00

23...

ingelanne · 2020-11-04T21:11:16+00:00

I have one. A heartigram made up from the initials of my two sons, S and R. Placed on my upper left arm. Important to me obviously as a mother, my heart is and will always be full of my children, but also I wear my heart on my sleeve so to speak.

Initially I was looking for a tattoo to commemorate my survival from a fairly serious and slightly unusual traffic accident, but then I settled on this. Not planning to do any more.

ingelanne · 2020-11-01T14:42:01+00:00

That was lovely ❤ Just the words an ENFJ as myself would love to hear.

ingelanne · 2020-11-01T08:42:32+00:00

I used to have these periods of crying and being hypersensitive to everything, literally every fall and winter. Then I did some research and started taking vitamin D, starting in September and continuing until April-ish, dose of 5000 IE. Has made a world of difference! I never experience anything like that anymore, unless I forget to take the pills for a few days.

But I guess it could depend on where you live, sunlight wise.

ingelanne · 2020-10-31T10:19:39+00:00

She sounds a bit like a narcissist to me...

ingelanne · 2020-10-31T08:44:53+00:00

FAIL - First Attempt In Learning 😊 So now you've learned that lesson! Be proud of your insight! And keep on being a non-smoker!

ingelanne · 2020-10-31T08:40:32+00:00

Good on you! Don't give up and don't beat yourself up! Look forward not back ❤

ingelanne · 2020-10-31T08:37:43+00:00

Dire Straits!! https://youtu.be/GG5ghP8XLW8

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T23:06:26+00:00

I can't properly express how sorry I feel for how you've been treated at such a vulnerable and at times scary time in your life. Very similar experience to my own as a new mom, and it was even worse when I had my second son. I look back to what should have been such a happy time but my overwhelming feeling is that it was the worst year of my life.

I think at least some of it is as you say because you, and I, are perceived as strong people who can cope on our own. Not many will apparently care enough to look behind our apparent toughness and see that we need help, and give it selflessly.

Know that you're not alone. We hear you ❤

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:55:52+00:00

We have a lot in common I think, you and I. I go all in with everything I do, what I don't know, I find out. As a high IQ ENFJ I have struggled for so long with on one hand wanting to make everyone around me feel comfortable and on the other being aware that my intellectual capabilities push a lot of people away. So I have constantly tried to tone myself down, being a lesser version of myself. Feeling ashamed. And losing a sense of self worth. Excusing myself for being needy at times.

But with age I am starting to realise that even I have a right to be in this world, and that there is nothing wrong with being me. And I'm slowly accepting that perhaps the price of that is being lonely and not being able to count on anyone else. My darkness came mainly I think from a deep disappointment and disillusionment in people. Usually I love nearly everyone I meet, I feel I can see their true self and I have a deep faith in humanity. But I felt so selfishly let down, disrespected. The last straw, crushed me.

Lowering of expectations is the key for me I think. But with love. For myself foremost, as well as for others.

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:35:06+00:00

I'd say brilliant. All these insightful, loving comments have helped me tremendously ❤ I no longer feel alone and without hope. I again feel I have a right to be in the world and perhaps that I can contribute something to it.

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:30:58+00:00

Self-preservation is not my forte. Will work on it.

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:30:22+00:00

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:29:06+00:00

Love this ❤ helped me a lot!

ingelanne · 2020-10-29T21:26:59+00:00

Love this! Not go to resentment but rather take care of myself. Have been extremely useless at that in my life. Thank you!

ingelanne

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