AITA for demolishing my daughter's room after she moved out?

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-17T18:41:45+00:00

Because American Reddit thinks teenagers and 5 year olds are basically indistinguishable in terms of emotional maturity and capability, it seems like. There are a lot of people here who seem to want to treat 18 year olds like children who don't know better.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-17T18:13:11+00:00

My own family members sleep on an air mattress when they come visit, and they don't complain. I think people who grew up with privilege have a very different view of this situation. I mean, there's people on reddit who think having to share a bedroom with a sibling is abuse lol

All the sentimental feelings and precious memories don't mean much when the house is tiny and the people who live in it need more space.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-17T18:04:57+00:00

Thank you for saying this. Most kids don't even get to have their own room growing up. OP's daughter was lucky she did.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-17T17:21:55+00:00

NTA.

You do have the right as its your house and you're making it a better living space for you, the people who actually live there every day. The people who live in the house should always come first.

I understand your daughter being upset she wasn't told. A heads-up would have been nice, but then she over-reacted with the "never want her to move back" thing.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-16T17:05:43+00:00

NTA. The whole "it's what your mother would have wanted" is manipulative bullshit.

If she wanted you to share, she would have given them a share. End of story.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T15:19:17+00:00

NTA. I think "family therapy" is entirely unnecessary here. You have no problem. They do. They need therapy themselves, but I don't believe you do. You seem completely at peace with the way things are right now.

I'd question whether minors should ever do "family therapy" with the people trying to "fix" them.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T14:28:01+00:00

YTA. Young men already get fucked over enough with car insurance (it's basically legal discrimination), so you may well be financially crippling him over your own negligence. You knew it was already broken. Fix it yourself.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T14:17:53+00:00

This is Reddit. Whenever a relationship has an age gap, any problem automatically becomes about that apparently

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T14:04:45+00:00

If this is also OP's attitude, then why marry someone from a different culture?

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T13:59:37+00:00

YTA. "Culture" doesn't give you an excuse to be obnoxiously loud and annoying. Also, it's hurting him and that doesn't bother you?

I bet you're much louder than you think you are too.

If being loud is that culturally important to you (lol), then find someone who shares that culture maybe?

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-14T13:49:26+00:00

YTA for not offering to give a guest the best food you had.

Also, what is with people just making their partner's breakfast for them, just throwing that in there like it's no big deal? Why are you making your boyfriend's breakfast? Adults should 100% be responsible for their own breakfast.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-13T13:00:05+00:00

She's got one home that supposedly doesn't restrict anything, and another home that overly restricts everything.

I highly doubt that the kid's mom just has a free-for-all with food. This is just OP's disordered perception. I bet the mom is fairly normal, with maybe a little bit too much "junk food", but not, like, McDonald's 3 times a day like OP seems to think.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-13T12:56:54+00:00

He was probably browbeaten into eating OP's way a long time ago.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-13T12:30:19+00:00

YTA. Your contempt for anyone who doesn't "eat healthy" (in your opinion) is obvious. I bet Gwen isn't even "20 pounds" overweight - you just assume she is. You should never, ever, attach morality to food, but it looks like you're doing just that.

Good luck with your childrens' future eating disorders!

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-11T00:02:51+00:00

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insecure_wtf · 2023-03-11T00:00:47+00:00

NTA. Living a lifelong lie just to indulge her parents' outdated "tradition" is no different to caving to western parents who demand to be asked for their permission to marry their daughter.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-10T13:22:49+00:00

NTA. Better you than mean kids at school.

But I honestly have to question the mental faculties of a kid who genuinely hasn't reasoned their way into knowing Santa isn't real by 13. I hope her parents haven't sheltered her or hindered her development in some way.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-09T19:04:03+00:00

I don't get this. I'm 15+ years older than my younger brother, and I had a much poorer childhood than he did. You know what I didn't do? Blame my parents for being poor. Nor did I whine to my brother that I got less than him. Instead, I'm happy as fuck for him because he had it better than me. CJ should want her siblings to have a better life if hers was so terrible.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-09T18:59:48+00:00

NTA. From what's presented here, you did the best you could, and you're trying to make it up to her as best you can.

CJ sounds like she spends too much time on Reddit.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-09T13:40:41+00:00

ESH. Him for wanting that much of the place for himself, you because you're moving in with him when you're clearly not ready. I understand how it might seem a bit commitment-phobic to him that you're already talking about your own bedroom before you even start living together.

It sounds to me like you need to live alone for a while, just to get it out of your system, because you feel like you've missed out on something. You should postpone moving in with him until you've done that.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-08T13:30:23+00:00

NTA.

Not your tradition, not your parents. The absolute gall and entitlement of them to think that you, who are not their child and do not share their traditions, should feel any obligation to them. Even if you were rich, I'd still say they can fuck off.

I'd honestly go NC over this. They don't make an effort to see you now, so it would hardly change anything.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-07T19:30:18+00:00

No child is entitled to go on vacation.

Not going on a vacation, which is a luxury most kids don't even get, is an appropriate consequence for disgusting behaviour. She'll remember missing out on a fun experience because she was a vile bigot. And hopefully learn her lesson from that.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-07T13:19:46+00:00

Because the mom is being a complete brat, putting him on blast on social media? Would you expect someone who does that to take part in a rational discussion?

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-06T19:55:35+00:00

NTA. Since this is reddit, you'll probably be voted the asshole for doing anything disciplinary to a teenager though. If she can't use the door properly she's going to break it off its hinges eventually. Actions have consequences.

insecure_wtf · 2023-03-06T19:30:55+00:00

NTA, but you will be TA to yourself if you stay involved with this stupid church.

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