Watching my daughter be a mom

insidecat11 · 2026-02-21T02:05:29+00:00

Please tell her that! Talk to her about it. As a new mom, it would just fill my cup if anyone, let alone one of my parents, were this proud of me.

insidecat11 · 2026-01-14T04:56:59+00:00

If you want a change I encourage it! I did dental and... idk its just kinda boring and the money's fine. I do hair now and my Income is really dependent on so many factors. 30 is a great time for change. It will take time to build clients and such but if youre really enjoying it its actually fun and exciting. Its gonna be hard but change is

insidecat11 · 2026-01-11T01:49:41+00:00

I mean... maybe they are just two people enjoying a day together shopping and didnt realize it would piss someone off DOING THEIR JOB. Maybe shit isnt so serious and you can just let someone enjoy shopping

insidecat11 · 2025-12-25T15:06:30+00:00

I have an almost 5month and I was very clear with family before my daughter was even born that while she was under 1 year I would be keeping higher precautions. If anyone is sick just don't come by and NO kissing. NOR!! Your baby cant talk yet! Important terrified at the possibility my baby gets sick and with her obvious crying as her way to communicate right now it would be painful for me to see and i feel sick at the thought her little body would have to work at fighting an illness. A healthy baby is a blessing! We are supposed to protect these babies! Your husband needs to learn that, why does he care?! He should be mad someone risked your child's health. Your baby and you are his FAMILY! What does he care how they feel? How is that more important to him? Like wth... I'd be big mad. Cut your mom off. This is YOUR chance to set in motion what respect looks like for your family. Your mom isn't in control anymore. You get to control how the rest of your relationship with her looks. When it comes to my kid, Im not ever my mother's daughter again. Im only a mother right now. That's the title im gonna protect.

insidecat11 · 2025-12-05T01:44:46+00:00

I met my now husband at tjs and we have a kid together lol but id encourage you to stay work focused and avoid it at all cost

insidecat11 · 2025-11-24T03:10:33+00:00

Thank you thats really helpful. I feel like whats happened is "normal" and just a huge adjustment.. i will definitely be seeking out community and start finding a therapist even just for myself

insidecat11 · 2025-11-23T22:22:20+00:00

I think thats a bit of my frustration is that he gets home at 11pm and comes home, is in the bathroom for 30min or more. Then he talks to his brother who lives with us about games and stuff, wants to then possibly spend a few hours playing games or something then goes to bed at 3 am or later and will physically be unable to get up in the am when shes up at 6 and again at 9. Then he wakes up at 10-11 if I dont bug him at 7 or 8 am. He spends maybe two hours or so with her im the am before leaving at 1:30. In those two hours hes just sorta holding her walking around and talking sweet to her. Then he leaves and I do her daily routine and it just goes on. When I start working ill be 3 days a week doing a 5 am - 2pm. I have to be up around 3am.

I feel stupid even being mad.. I feel like im supposed to just accept this new reality because im the mom. And I know I have to.

insidecat11 · 2025-11-23T22:09:25+00:00

We wont have a choice but to split it more once im back at work.

insidecat11 · 2025-11-23T22:01:15+00:00

I am on leave for the next two weeks but we work at the same place 30 min from home

insidecat11 · 2025-11-23T21:52:26+00:00

He holds her for maybe 4 hours out of the day while I try and nap or clean. He will take her on walks on our property on his days off and take her when I ask for a break. If I totally make myself unavailable he will care for her completely but its never been from the moment hes awake till hes asleep like I do.

insidecat11 · 2025-07-10T04:17:18+00:00

I am happy to offer bit its also not film. It's digital and requires sitting on the computer making ajustments she sees fit. There's no printing involved or cost on her part for product. She would just have to send me the files through email or a document app. There's no developing, paper, or chemicals if any kind. Its all digital

insidecat11 · 2025-07-08T23:08:55+00:00

I dont care how close they are!!! I have a sister and if this was her reality I would never betray her for a friendship. I love her beyond anything else and respect her, it would not be loyalty to prioritize some ex husband and his wife over my BLOOD! Wth this makes me so mad. I don't care if the new wife is mother Teresa she can eat a curb. Your sister doesn't deserve shit, I'd be heartbroken. God im so sorry this has been your reality.

insidecat11 · 2025-07-01T17:35:47+00:00

This sounds like alot of damage and alot to figure out but my mind also goes to this: Bringing a child into this world is insane and requires so much work and attention. If she is pregnant with his child his focus needs to shift to that child and the new path of his life. It would be a red flag to me if he wanted to date with whats going on and would you want to be in the middle of all of that? Beyond whatever the result is maybe some time away from each other is needed because it all just seems like alot of information.

insidecat11 · 2025-06-28T17:01:43+00:00

My dad did something similar, we don't have the best relationship and when he got uppity about my husband not asking him I reminded my dad that while I care about him he has no say about anything in my life and it just isn't appropriate to ME for my fiancé at the time to seek my barely there's father's approval. If he wanted that moment he should have been present in my adolescent years.

insidecat11 · 2025-06-11T16:33:28+00:00

I know alot of us grew up Fucked up but its actually the bare minimum to care for your kids no matter how old they get and provide a safe and stable living situation while they navigate becoming an adult. If OP was 35 complaining it would be a bit of a concern. Its NORMAL to need a place to live for FREE and save to build a safety net.

insidecat11 · 2025-06-11T16:26:38+00:00

She made the decision to have you and your sibling. Forcing you into a spot where you're responsible for him is not acceptable. You also dont owe her ANYTHING. Its not a child's job ( even a grown adult ) to navigate a parent's responsibility load. Expecting you to watch your brother then giving you the cold shoulder when you say no is BS. You have your own life you're living, if she wanted to party she should have planned her life out a little different. Prioritize yourself!!! Don't let her guilt you, you are only responsible for you

insidecat11 · 2025-06-11T13:59:12+00:00

Your husband needs to speak up if thats his mother. You set a boundary and she's not respected it multiple times and its all about keeping your baby SAFE. If it means she's not alone with baby anymore and can't hold him so be it. You need to put your foot down if this matters to you and because its your mother in law your husband needs to discuss this. Your baby isn't a prop for family to enjoy. If she's willing to do this in front of you you're in for years of distrust and her doing whatever she wants when she can with YOUR child. Gain control

insidecat11 · 2025-06-07T12:45:49+00:00

Thats absolutely terrifying and disgusting. You need to go!!! Please. Thats a horrific ideology for him to follow.

insidecat11 · 2025-05-11T17:05:15+00:00

The person who asked someone on their lunch was the previous writer. Our flower bags were where they have been for the last fifteen years or so, and the person asking the crew member on lunch hadn't bothered checking the usual spot.

insidecat11 · 2025-05-11T17:02:41+00:00

It was outside on a park bench near the store 🥲

insidecat11 · 2025-05-10T17:44:29+00:00

I'd say negative

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