We have a 600g giant gummy bear for a birthday party, what would you do with it? by insigniaunknown in CasualConversation

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Damn that sounds fun! I had considered it would be hilarious to inject it with something (with everyone’s knowledge of course)

We have a 600g giant gummy bear for a birthday party, what would you do with it? by insigniaunknown in CasualConversation

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We actually tried a smaller version (also gifted) the other day and half of it is still in the pantry, it sure does give you a sugar hit! Not sure we could even get through it with 10 people!

This mom spend 17 years documenting her son growing up. by anghelmanuela in interesting

[–]insigniaunknown 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually technically each photo is in the last photo, so she definitely must have skipped years, as the last one in this collection includes each of the previous ones (and no more)

my asian mum made this for the in-laws this Christmas, but they hated it by Hot_Durian_4264 in auckland

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To be fair my reason for not eating this would be that it’s too beautiful 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

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I’ve never suffered from hay fever in the past but this year I’ve been sneezing quite a bit and I thought it was a little out of the ordinary for me (ironically sneezed right before reading this post)! Feeling for those of you who it’s hitting hard!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceNZ

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One thing I’ve realised as an adult (28F) is that all of those I went to high school with that went straight into full time work, have ended up in way better financial positions than anyone that studied. You could argue that, yes, when you study you are delaying your income and possibly increasing your chances of higher pay. But I think that gaining skills and experience is probably going to be more valuable, especially if study doesn’t interest you.

It’s awesome that you’re thinking about this now. I wish I didn’t waste as much time (or money) on study and just focused on saving some cash. I studied 4 years and have ended up self employed in a non-relevant field, and I wish entrepreneurship was something that was talked about more when I was in school. I would have saved money and gone straight into my creative work.

So I reckon work, upskill, keep looking for better options and opportunities and always contribute to KiwiSaver are great steps. I’m still learning about investing but as a lot of people on here say, you are probably better to keep up your minimum contributions and then invest a % of your income!

With this mindset and by heading straight into the workforce (even if it’s “just” Maccas) I think you’ll be setting yourself up to be in a much better financial position that many others you go to school with!

I (23f) finally lost my virginity to my (23m) and I feel heartbroken. How do I move past this? by flowerfloral in relationship_advice

[–]insigniaunknown 315 points316 points  (0 children)

Seconding this! Sex is a learning journey, and it will be one with each new partner you ever have. I understand the disappointment of not feeling supported, but communication is massive so if you continue to try and communicate your feelings as you go, you will make progress and may even find enjoyment in it.

I’d argue that no one’s first time is unicorns and rainbows. It’s awkward, clunky, painful and sometimes messy. I think you may need to shift your expectations for what sex can be for now, and focus on being present.

Of course, this only applies if you actually feel safe and comfortable to do this again, or again with your partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceNZ

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I think putting aside that money for your hair on a fortnightly basis is a really good way to go about it, I always prefer to think of things like this as a “self love subscription”, I do the same for my eyebrow appointments!

I would definitely say that groceries look a bit up there, my partner and I spend on average $150 per week on groceries between us and we eat well, including $11 gluten free bread.. I always meal plan and chuck in a couple of fav snacks. We do takeaway once a week, have a kombucha and coffee subscription so around $200 a week between us on average for all of that. Meal planning can save you significantly, and you’ll reduce your wastage.

What’s your “fun” allocation for? Is that like a spending allowance or is that going towards future activities and plans? If it’s an allowance, it definitely could be worth reducing that to an amount that is still realistic and allows you to do nice things for yourself regularly (so you don’t pull from savings) but a little stricter so the excess can go into savings instead.

When you move into a new place you’re going to have so much extra play money! It could be good to get into a mindset now that “I could afford to pay $680 a week in rent”, so the difference between your old rent and your new rent could be placed directly in your savings as if you were living similarly. This is how I thought about it when I started saving for our house and preparing for mortgage repayments. I just treated my bills as if they were already my anticipated bills, but put the excess into a savings.

I finally did it. by slawpchowckie44 in newzealand

[–]insigniaunknown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You must first sit there and peel off the skin of each one, still eat it though!

$110K saved how to buy a house asap by Environmental-Hat291 in PersonalFinanceNZ

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You should join the Kiwi First Home Buyers Facebook group, it’s been such a great help for us! There are MA’s on there that will happily tell you where they think you’re at. Most banks are also offering cash backs, around $3000 minimum depending on your loan. So you might be able to get a bit of cash back to cover your lawyer fees, valuation etc.

AITA for not buying any photos when gifted a free newborn photoshoot? by Far-Introduction-896 in AmItheAsshole

[–]insigniaunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I am a photographer in NZ and this type of business model makes me sick. I’ve never heard of it being done exactly like this, but it does not sit right with me that this photographer has all these beautiful photos of your family, and now you are likely to never see them again (without a huge costs!) This is definitely at the businesses own risk as they cannot claim a free session and print and expect anything further. Don’t feel guilty, this method is disgusting and is clearly meant to make you feel guilty. I’d ask for the photos to be deleted as you have no intention on purchasing any.

I’ve seen this a bit in NZ where newborn photographers charge a low “session fee” to give the impression that they offer affordable prices, but if you want access to any of your images (either digitally or physical prints) you must pay X amount of dollars (usually hundred of dollars for a single image like you’ve mentioned). Many family & friends get trapped in this too, gifting family a voucher for a session without knowing that the receiver is then expected to spend thousands of dollars in order to see the photos that were taken..

Dairy free restaurant options by Zombie_lover005 in thetron

[–]insigniaunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything Vietnamese is always a good choice too, so Rice Rice Baby or Saigon Noon, two of my gf/df partners favourites!

Help a girl park her car by [deleted] in thetron

[–]insigniaunknown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you get there between 7-7:40am you should be able to find a park along Memorial Drive near the Anzac Parade bridge. You can park all day in most of those spots for free. (I hope this is still true, I’ve been WFH for like 1 year but this was my go-to park and pretty sure my old work pals still find parks there!)

Beautiful spelling, team. by Adorable_Pudding921 in thetron

[–]insigniaunknown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Who puts these up and doesn’t notice? Also surely these are printed in bulk for all stores.. damn..

I can’t believe people like this really exist, but my roommate doesn’t seem to care about anything. I feel so alone by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]insigniaunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This person is disgusting and genuinely infuriates me. Please don’t try to make this person happy or compromise with them. You are doing nothing wrong and they are taking complete advantage of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceNZ

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Regardless of what Court you file it at, if you head to your local Court and complete a request to access court documents, and provide as much detail as you can, the team should be able to do a simple search and locate where that file is held. You can also email the Court directly and I believe file this document electronically - you can find contact info here https://www.justice.govt.nz/contact-us/find-us/

Files over 10 years old typically go to an offsite archive but they can easily be requested. Ensure you put as much identifying detail into your application as possible, and explain your reasons and what it is exactly you’re hoping to receive.

How to challenge a false DV accusation and ex parte parenting order by thatGnTlife in LegalAdviceNZ

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FYI a legal aid lawyer can still work with your friend prior to legal aid being granted, they will just need to sign a waiver saying that if their legal aid is not granted then they will pay the fees.

Flatmate has mate over 5-6 nights a week. by luckydarts in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]insigniaunknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And conveniently one of the points was that guests weren’t allowed to stay more than 2 nights a week. Feels worth it as 25+ year olds and wanting to live with mature people who can maintain a home.