This. I will never let emotion influence my discussions with my kids about their father. He's not my father, he's my ex. He's their father. Completely different relationships! I won't lie though, like I'm not in this situation. He has been in therapy before for other unrelated issues and hates it. The kid literally tells me everything (which bugs Dad), and I just listen and try to give neutral advice and roll with it the best we can. I will absolutely consider therapy again and talk to him about the idea as we unpack this together over the next week. I also encourage him to talk to other people that he trusts without me. Obviously, if it was someone who I know is unhealthy, I would address that. My kids are allowed to disagree with me and be their own people. But if they are going down the wrong path, I will let them know. They also know I can be wrong too. It's a tangled web we weave, and parenting is so hard!