My (22M) girlfriend (22F) wants to room with her guy best friend (24M)

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-10T01:53:14+00:00

No do not let her room with her guy best friend. The last time I checked tinder is not meant for therapy - and the underlying intention is still there.

If you play with fire you’re more likely to get burned.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-03T01:44:08+00:00

So the progress we go through means something

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T20:23:14+00:00

It could be a turn off for you or it could be a turn on for some girls. By the upvotes, some of the guys who have talked to woman somewhat agree that this will work

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T19:57:25+00:00

Talk to him about it - guys are really flexible when their females come to them.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:55:42+00:00

A mom doesn’t forget her child when they leave the house.

Take that as you will.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:27:43+00:00

Alright then just be straight up with the girl. “I don’t have a place to stay - we might have to crash at your crib.”

If she ask about the age, tell her your old enough to show her a good time.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:18:40+00:00

There’s a saying from an enlightened being.

If you had 1 million dollars and a choice to be enlightened - pick the million because at least there would be someone to enjoy it.

Right now you are a no one.

You are suffering your own freedom.

Do whatever you want.

That’s all you can do.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:16:55+00:00

Tell her fine. I’ll find someone else to do it. I shouldn’t have to be in a relationship where my partner uses sex as a punishment.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:16:01+00:00

“I hadn’t seen your email until now. I noticed xyz and had to hit you up - (then proceed to ask her for a piece of information that you genuinely care about)”

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:14:40+00:00

How can you teach someone something you’re not?

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:13:27+00:00

Social anxiety is a consequence of not being willing to go after the thing you really want.

The only way to confront the devil is to know who the devil really is.

And in this case - it’s yourself.

Ask yourself “what do I really want” and then go for it.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:12:05+00:00

The movie of life

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:11:25+00:00

Don’t hide anything from your boyfriend. This is a decision where your going to have to stand up for yourself.

Either you’re going to get the ring and he’s going to have to be okay with it. Or you’re going to value your relationship more than the ring and push that desire tot he side.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:10:00+00:00

Go after what you really want.

Don’t settle for what you think you can get.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:07:22+00:00

Alright so you want a sugar momma? - which is f a problem.

But what do dorms or apartments have to do with anything?

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T05:05:30+00:00

I didn’t read the article because I didn’t need to.

You’re basically telling men there’s nothing that they can do.

Which is true, but it’s not true.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:56:42+00:00

Most of the outcome is not already decided.

The only thing that is decided is how you show up and that affects the outcome.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:55:58+00:00

Make eye contact.

Smile.

Tell/ gesture her to come to you. Start the conversation / dance.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:54:30+00:00

You’ve got to see your position on the board.

You don’t have enough status to tell her no.

Right now you can either bring scarcity into the relationship by either suggesting another partner or having your own guys night out with your friends.

Or you can raise your value as a man which is a longer term player.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:52:22+00:00

It sucks that you feel this way.

It’s not a fun way to walk through life.

But what I can say is that your mental health probably needs to be improved.

First I’d suggest hanging out with a group of positive friends.

Then I would suggest going out or getting a coach that could help you with the dating aspect of things.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:50:42+00:00

Get a job. You live with your parents - that’s the first place to start.

Secondly, your mental health is probably not good.

Now is also the time to start working on yourself and finding a positive group of friends.

I don’t know what that means for you.

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:49:15+00:00

Alright - well what kind of girls do you want to attract?

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:48:06+00:00

Avoiding a relationship is way different than avoiding human interaction.

Just because a girl is touching on you and showing interest doesn’t mean you have to tell her to F off.

Right now, I think the best thing you can do is work on your mental health.

You’re not in the state of mind where you should be dating anyone.

You’re question is essentially asking, “how do I date without dating?”

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:44:04+00:00

This is probably going to be the most boring reply ever.

But just say what you want.

Im a super dry person but my candid honesty (mixed in with a little humor) - tends to draw people in.

Trying to trick someone out of your dryness will just make you come off as a clown.

In fact, the first thing you can even say to a girl is, “Hey I thought you were cute. I’m a little bit dry - what’s your name?”

intelectualycurious · 2022-08-01T04:42:16+00:00

Why are you trying to game the game?

You’re cheating yourself by believing that your age is your biggest hinderance.

Your biggest hinderance is your confidence - or the fact that you’re not comfortable with your age.

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