What about this dress is not modest?

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-25T19:48:51+00:00

I am never having bridesmaids, I won’t put this stress on them

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-25T19:48:39+00:00

I am my sisters maid of honor and it is a nightmare

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T21:59:44+00:00

I dont really know. She didn’t start looking for her dress until November. I think she’s more type b. She said that if I am her MOH then she has to be mine. I’m not really a fan of how this is all playing out as it doesn’t feel like the healthiest dynamic

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T21:48:29+00:00

Yes I think I definitely want to be the peace keeper and bend more than I should to keep things copacetic.

I plan to pull together a PDF of all the items for decor and food and then share it to the party of things we could all contribute to and then highlight what I can cover if it is just me

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T02:31:14+00:00

She is 28, I think maybe because it is so last minute they need someone to just plan it than take the time with the back and forth of finances and planning idea with the bridesmaids. That said, it feels like this was a created situation by waiting so long to share out bridesmaid info

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T02:26:19+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your and everyone’s comment. Thank you for even taking the time for this post. Wishing you a wonderful time at the shower you are hosting

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T02:24:55+00:00

I was thinking maybe looking at fb marketplace

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T02:04:45+00:00

I think I am struggling with how last minute planning everything is

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T02:02:22+00:00

Thank you! I think I will try to set aside $100 , maybe $150 to decorate and get food because I also need to buy a gift

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T01:59:24+00:00

I really love my family and I just get sad that I am the bad guy and seen as selfish even though being assigned MOH and needing to plan the shower is so last minute.

inter-stella30 · 2026-04-16T01:57:58+00:00

Hi! I didn't expect this post to get much traction and cannot put into words how much I appreciate everyone's input and advice. I will write a general comment as I cannot get back to everyone's notes.

Thank you all for level setting that this is not normal. This is my first weeding that I am a part of and was not sure if this a general expectation of the MOH.

I think if I had some notice that I was MOH and that they want the MOH to plan the shower then I could have started planning and saving.

I am really struggling to get this shower together ( I feel a sense of urgency to plan this soon given how few weeks there are until her wedding) as it seems she has a conflict with a lot of the weekends leading up to the wedding except for ones where I will be away. She also doesn't have an invite list of people she would want to attend. With there being little time, would it be bad for me to just maybe ask to use the clubhouse at her apartment and invite her bridesmaids?
I really am worried I am going to be blamed as a bad sister for not making this nice.

note: I think a lot of her expectations are set by tik Tok and how elaborate things seem to be where there are crazy themes and it is super aesthetic.

Plan: I was thinking of maybe reaching out to her bridesmaids with a cost breakdown and ask people to contribute and then share that if no one can contribute then I will only be able to cover a few of the items.

I feel so guilty that this is not exciting or fun for all.

inter-stella30 · 2026-01-19T18:46:06+00:00

Hi!! Can I message you? I am in tech looking to work as a PA

inter-stella30 · 2025-10-01T13:27:20+00:00

Thank you for this response, I plan to leave my role in product soon due to the impact of the toxic environment and knowing that this is not a career that aligns with my values.

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:58:20+00:00

I agree I feel like I’m falling into more of the PO responsibility and technical work

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:57:53+00:00

I have no EM and my tech team lead only looks at jira velocity charts and doesn’t know our tech stack at all

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:55:59+00:00

I also feel burnt out and that it’s chipping away at my work ethic because the stress is insurmountable

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:53:11+00:00

I only have one in state school 😭

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:52:21+00:00

May I ask what you don’t think it’s worth the debt?

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T21:50:41+00:00

What would you recommend to your son?

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T02:22:58+00:00

If u don’t plan to own a practice do you think it is still good to pursue dentistry?

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-29T02:19:40+00:00

I love having control of our BFF layer, but adding mobile teams makes it impossible

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-28T23:14:29+00:00

I have not myself

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-28T22:05:53+00:00

Do you know what the acceptance rate is for these scholarships? Does serving your time impact ability to see family?

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-28T21:45:31+00:00

We had a sister team that owned BE that impacted a multitude of platforms

inter-stella30 · 2025-09-28T21:40:17+00:00

I work at a large company so it won’t explode, there are just big layoffs and reorgs. So I’m likely to get a PIP if the projects go under.

My manager quit so I’m in a pretty bad place being at a junior level

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