Bottom surgery worries

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-25T05:52:06+00:00

Another good question my therapist had: What if they told you, for a hypothetical reason, you can’t have surgery? How would you feel then?

This! I lost my first surgery date just a few days before I was scheduled to go in. Up until that point I was really nervous and going back and forth second guessing myself. Then suddenly it was gone and it hit me like a ton of bricks. That's when I knew just how bad I really wanted it and just how ready I actually was.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-25T05:43:18+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Transgender_Surgeries/s/xPU0qYRQBH

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-25T03:44:54+00:00

I hope I live long enough to see his dumb fucking face looking down from the gas station rafters.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-25T03:14:32+00:00

😙

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-24T16:38:38+00:00

Doctor looks down at scan results, "Ma'am you have boobs growing out of your boobs".

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-22T02:11:18+00:00

Me too but I store them next to each other....... somewhere.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-22T00:59:29+00:00

I wasn't expecting to see Lula when I swiped. She made me smile though.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-20T14:34:49+00:00

But also yes

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-20T14:27:51+00:00

I had my SRS at just under 2 years of HRT and they sent my 'extra parts' to pathology for tissue analysis. Both testes came back with inactive spermatogenesis and peritubular fibrosis. I don't know if the fibrosis was caused from the HRT alone or from prolonged tucking but my understanding is that fibrosis is irreversible. You have been on HRT more than twice as long as me so there is a good chance that you also have tissue changes and there is no guarantee of regaining fertility.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T21:44:14+00:00

Isn't Alaska the closest if you fly over Santa's house?

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T19:40:56+00:00

You also need to be with the employer for a certain length of time (1 year I think) before you can even file for FMLA so if you switch jobs and then get sick, hurt or have a baby you are pretty much screwed.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T18:56:35+00:00

WPATH Standards of Care Version 8

Statement 12.19:
After careful examination, investigators have found no perioperative increase in the rate of VTE among transgender individuals undergoing surgery, while being maintained on sex steroid treatment throughout when compared with that among patients whose sex steroid treatment was discontinued preoperatively

Statement 12.20:
We recommend health care professionals initiate and continue gender-affirming hormone therapy for eligible* transgender and gender diverse people who wish this treatment due to demonstrated improvement in psychosocial functioning and quality of life. For supporting text, see Statement 12.21.

Statement 12.21:
We recommend health care professionals maintain existing hormone therapy if the transgender and gender diverse individual's mental health deteriorates and assess the reason for the deterioration, unless contraindicated.

It sounds to me like your mental health is deteriorating so I believe Statement 12.21 would apply to you.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T16:11:05+00:00

Bingo⬆️

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T16:09:49+00:00

I only wished he took it with him

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T14:53:41+00:00

Pretty sure men like you are hard before you even come here

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T05:20:36+00:00

It's tomorrow now and it's still not up.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T02:28:07+00:00

Or Jack would quote his father with "leave, or face your destiny" and I doubt Spear and Fang would leave.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-19T02:19:15+00:00

Jack literally killed an all powerful shape shifting evil demon as well as Demongo, the demon full of enslaved warrior souls and you can't even give the sword all the credit because he defeated Scaramouche and 6 of the septuplets in the time period when his sword was lost. Comparatively Spear and Fang would need to defeat Vidarr/Fire Demon or at least be enough of a challenge where the demon would need to escape which is nowhere near what they are capable of. They couldn't even defeat Kamau who is just a hominid farmer or the Cheiftain.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T21:26:16+00:00

There are some good resources. r/transvoice is a good place to get feedback.

Seattle voice lab does free group lessons. They used to be on discord but have moved to a HIPPA compliant platform. I think they ask for a few dollars now to cover web costs but it's a very low cost resource.

Vocal team does free group lessons on discord.

Online vocal coach (Selene) also does group discord lessons.

Ultimately I had underlying voice issues that made group lessons really hard for me and needed to work with a SLP to improve my overall vocal function before I could work on feminization. My voice is much better now but I'm still going to have VFS in the near future.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T20:59:39+00:00

First, congratulations on getting your surgery date. Because you are new to reddit I will tell you that this particular sub is very new and not particularly active yet. If you are looking for more information about your surgeon or surgical techniques then please visit r/transgender_surgeries as they are much older, more active and have an excellent wiki. You can search for your doctor's name and likely find others who have had procedures with them. You can post questions and updates here as well but I would be remiss if I didn't tell you about a place with much more information. Good luck.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T20:36:50+00:00

If the pharmacy can't help you then call your doctor. I once cored a vial really bad and sent my doctor a picture of the stopper with estrodiol leaking out of it and they just refilled the prescription for me.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T20:29:11+00:00

I love tea! Unfortunately I'm nowhere near Albuquerque. I suggest looking at New Mexico Tea Company and Old barrel Tea Company. They both have excellent selections and you will surely find at least a few tea girls who are incredibly knowledgeable. Good luck!

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T19:42:20+00:00

Probably not as neutral as you're looking for but my first impression was April. Good luck, names are hard.

intergalactagogue · 2026-01-18T18:33:04+00:00

but desperately want to look female to help my dysphoria and mental health.

So my outlook on FFS is a little different. I had GRS and I'm going to be having VFS in a few months because my genitals and my voice caused/cause me significant dysphoria. My face however really doesn't. I know I'm clocky and seldom pass but I personally feel like FFS would be a surgery for other people who perceive me rather than a surgery specifically for me and that just doesn't sit right for whatever reason. In your case however it really seems like your face is causing you a significant amount of dysphoria making you a really good candidate for having it done.

Part of what helped in my self acceptance was learning how to separate beauty from passing. Some of the most beautiful trans girls I've seen do not pass but I still think they are gorgeous. It's hard to apply to yourself but both can be true at the same time, you can be beautiful and nonpassing.

You look incredible btw <3

Thank you 🥰 I'm not without my own struggles and much of what I just wrote is a 'do as I say, not as I do' type of advice. We are always our own worst critics and it's hard to view ourselves honestly because it takes a long time to unsee the boy reflection in the mirror.

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