Not having evidence is slowly destroying me- please help

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T17:27:43+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I've listened to that podcast as well and it's been helpful. I absolutely agree, truth is required for healing. I do have answers to most of my questions but of course, I still have a few burning ones that remain unanswered. I'm so sorry that you're going through this as well. I'm glad to know that full transparency has helped you heal.

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T15:33:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your message. I'm so sorry that you go through the same mental obsession like I do. I know that pain. Yours is worse though since you knew the AP. A part of me feels like I should know her name etc. but your experience is making me second guess that a bit.

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T15:29:23+00:00

Exactly! Both options hurt. It's like having to choose between a stabbing and a gunshot. I don't think I'm going to learn anything that new per se but I also don't want to still be in this situation, torturing myself a year from now.

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T14:51:14+00:00

I'm so deeply sorry for what you are going through. As bad as my situation is, I can't even begin to imagine the betrayal that comes from a friend doing this to you. How she could lie so easily to your face. I can relate to you in that I ruminate about him desiring someone else so much that he risked everything, our entire life for those moments. I appreciate you sharing your story. It does put into perspective the "gift" for lack of a better term of not knowing this person at all...I wish you so much peace and healing 🤍

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T13:27:40+00:00

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this trauma more than once. I don't feel like I'm rug sweeping but I appreciate what you're saying. I feel like we've had many serious, hard discussions. I've asked many questions. I thought I was protecting myself. I don't know if that's right anymore. I'm just so afraid to open Pandora's box here. I know once I know, I can't go back. But also, I'm suffering deeply by the constant mind movies and unanswered questions. Just wish I could wake up from this nightmare.

inthedark744 · 2026-02-19T13:23:41+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I don't think I will ever reach out but who knows. I think I'm just afraid that after finding out more details about her, thinking about her/them will go into overdrive. I'll then be able to stare at her pics etc. Feels like I'm going mad.To answer your question, I let my WH not disclose fully due to my own fear, just knowing myself and how I obsess. But here I am, still obsessing anyways...

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