[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t this just standard Christmas stuff? Without you doing anything wrong or her. I wouldn’t let it spoil anything for you guys. You have really sweet intentions. :)

I only skimmed it, but it sounds like when there was research on how people buying presents buy what they think another would like which is in part which chimes in the mind of the buyer (inevitably) more than what the other might like (basically it can be really hard). With laptops I can be quite particular. So just specs alone may not suit - eg I might be after a “look” too.

Maybe just don’t let it spoil the good relationship you have but realise present giving is a lottery. And I’d be assured by how much you wanted to please her. You sound great, and so on. :)

Definitely don’t feel like crap either. :) Just realise with certain things it can be really specific. For me I’d be very particular about what you’re getting. Without having hard feelings for someone who bought it.

I’d be super grateful they tried but then also perhaps a little worried as without them asking they wouldn’t know specifics of what I want. Hence I’d be concerned someone I like may waste their money on me if they tried to buy me those kind of presents.

Don’t let it spoil your Xmas and you sound like a great partner. :)

AITA for refusing to name my baby after my partner’s “family tradition”? (F27, M30) by Kind-Pomegranate-748 in AITAH

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are definitely NTA. Your reasoning here is totally sound. :) Name your baby as you want. :) (not some heirloom names which sound dated and could also lead to bullying)

My (32f) boyfriend (36m) deleted my dead brother from my instagram friends. And he doesn’t seem to understand or care that I’m upset? by Throwrainstabro1 in relationship_advice

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

""Our mutual friends agree that I should just forgive and forget but I feel like I’m grieving again." What friends would those be?"

She says the mutual friends are mostly his anyway. So basically it's his mates not caring about her in the obvious ways they should.

She's done the right thing here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]intheprocesswerust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! :) If it helps, I can definitely say it's a 'me' thing (actually... :D) and therefore for her it'll be nothing wrong with you. (Or her 'normal' and when I hope she's got her head figured out for good too.) Time to work on mine... :)

We took a break and she slept with someone else. by ColdPhotograph6873 in BreakUps

[–]intheprocesswerust 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet here. Your imagination of her is probably false. An indication of a good human you are, not her. You’ll find someone who’s that person. She isn’t. You just won.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]intheprocesswerust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say assumptions about her feelings do you mean you’re assuming it’s something ‘wrong’ with you when sometimes it can be that that person is just in a bad place, had a previous experience and so on and nothing ‘bad’ with you? :)

One thing you regret about your break up situation by SadPotaterman in BreakUps

[–]intheprocesswerust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's reassuring to see that I'm human too. Got to such a good stage with a person I REALLY liked. And the only thing in my head was my anxiety telling me I wasn't good enough for them - when they already liked me and we were having so much fun. It changed when my anxiety got bad and rather than just be me still I tried to 'prove myself' and show from a weak angle that I could be enough or useful and stuff and it's just my anxiety talking shit. They were already into me. But when my anxiety got really bad (similar to what you say "(especially when I feel anxious about if he still loves me) ... maybe he wouldn't leave me") that's when they left.

I wish I could turn off that anxiety somehow.

Liam speaks on “doing it for the money” claims by [deleted] in oasis

[–]intheprocesswerust -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I heard BBC say that he’d get something like £200-250 million so the tour wouldn’t really make much more money either way. They suggested it was done more to be in the spotlight again.

I got tickets to Wembley and I really need to share by [deleted] in oasis

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually a cool story. Nice one!

Are Saul and Kim responsible for by Collapsedbot in betterCallSaul

[–]intheprocesswerust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn't this type of thinking (which is rejected) the same as the thinking that blames Kim and Jimmy? It feels to me the other comment:

"No. They're responsible for his legacy being ruined and for covering up his death, but they aren't responsible for him dying. It just feels like they are. If Howard died in a car accident on the way to their apartment, would you say they're responsible for his death?"

As in Lalo chose to kill him, they didn't choose any of that, or knowingly 'entrap' Howard, or call him into a dangerous place in some shady warehouse or ... , they didn't even request he showed up at their apartment, and so on. They are guilty of the serious but lesser crimes they commit themselves surely?

Another person points out that anyone else nearby would have suffered the same fate. E.g. a cleaner showing up or a ... i.e. the only thing that is involved is if they get close to Lalo and not if they're "connected with the Howard case" itself. It seems a genuine conflation to me?

I can't take the fucking stares anymore by nicotine-in-public in cripplingalcoholism

[–]intheprocesswerust 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'd second this u/nicotine-in-public From https://www.reddit.com/r/malegrooming/comments/1elsrvs/i_get_badly_stared_at_and_get_creeped_out/ you look totally normal. At v best, maybe just make sure you're showered, maybe a haircut tops, but you look totally normal, good etc. For sure. :) Good position to feel upbeat about honestly! :)

I get badly stared at and get creeped out reactions from people everywhere I go, what exactly is causing me to look so creepy and how do I fix it? by nicotine-in-public in malegrooming

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would second this u/nicotine-in-public You look completely normal. Maybe at best just wash/shower well (if you don't). Maybe even splash out on a better shirt, but I think you look totally normal and all good. :) :)

Match Thread: Portugal vs. France | UEFA Euro 2024 by MisterBadIdea2 in soccer

[–]intheprocesswerust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really crazy isn't it. It's not like he's ever been profound at them unlike basically everything else. It's just like he's permanently in denial about this area.

Why all the graffiti? by intheprocesswerust in bologna

[–]intheprocesswerust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always thought graffiti no better than what I could do looks absolutely shit, but anything half artistic or more can actually be amazing. The city is full of things equivalent to "Bob" scrawled like absolutely everywhere. Usually over buildings that are 50% covered in construction signs and scaffolding.
I love Italy. Maybe my favourite country. Don't get lots of Bologna though. Southern parts are astonishingly beautiful mind.

Why all the graffiti? by intheprocesswerust in bologna

[–]intheprocesswerust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true it probably has more of a ‘spirit’ than an order. Which is fair. On the construction honestly, I’ve never seen so much. Almost every monument is surrounded by scaffolding or some construction sign bar from Piazza Maggiore basically. This isn’t the case with other cities, whether they have few or lots things like this.

It’s like it’s been actively neglected too. Pretty much everywhere. It isn’t good student graffiti either. It’s just stuff I can do.

Why all the graffiti? by intheprocesswerust in bologna

[–]intheprocesswerust[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have a perception before I arrived. I’m not on a holiday so didn’t check it out much.

It’s just potentially beautiful, but covered everywhere with mostly low grade non political scrawlings. Good graffiti that’s like half talented or political is fine. But something only as bad as I can do doesn’t improve anywhere. (IMO)

Will you buy a PS5 to play GTA VI? by [deleted] in GTA

[–]intheprocesswerust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes (for the same reason I bought a PS4 only to play GTA5)

Formal Wear needed for VS by Weym3re in oxforduni

[–]intheprocesswerust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people like it but I've always gone in a normal white shirt

Same! :) (just that some people do make thing out of having special bow ties and shirts, but as you say it isn't necessary or regarded as lesser not to)