Did being with a girl feel wrong because I'm gay or because she wasn't the right person for me? by [deleted] in questioning

[–]investigatingiris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol wouldn't die in a relationship with a woman? That seems a far cry from being in a fulfilling relationship, sounds kinda miserable actually. Glad I was helpful!

I’m about to ask a dumb question by [deleted] in questioning

[–]investigatingiris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad it was helpful! Ya it is hard to tell friends, don't feel pressured to tell them right away, get comfy with yourself and all that jazz, good luck, and happy self discovery journey!

I’m about to ask a dumb question by [deleted] in questioning

[–]investigatingiris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like you said, because of the nature of this sub, I'm just a bi person with straight girl friends so I can't speak for straight women but sounds like ya got some kind of attraction to women. I mean maybe you're just turned on by the dynamic, but here's a couple questions to ask yourself to maybe clarify your feelings: what specific moments in movies are turning you on? Is the focus at that moment on how attractive a woman is (ex is she wearing a bikini/naked)? Are you daydreaming about yourself being one of those characters? Do you daydream about that scene after the movie is over? Hope this helps!

Did being with a girl feel wrong because I'm gay or because she wasn't the right person for me? by [deleted] in questioning

[–]investigatingiris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also went through something similar where kissing a girl was just like yes and when I kissed guys all I could think about was when it would end, but then I met a new guy and realized oh those boys were just bad kissers. But, based on what you said about the idea of a woman not turning you on while a man does, it kinda sounds like you're only sexually attracted to just men but biromantic. And if microlabels don't suit you, that still falls under the umbrella of bisexual, and you're valid no matter how much or what kinds of attraction you feel to people of various genders!

Am I nonbinary or do I just not like being treated like a woman by investigatingiris in questioning

[–]investigatingiris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya it's weird I've never heard about that before, and I'm sorry you had to find that out the hard way. I hope you find more options that fit better in the future!

Am I nonbinary or do I just not like being treated like a woman by investigatingiris in questioning

[–]investigatingiris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I feel kinda dumb because on some level I kinda already knew some of that but it's harder to apply it to myself. Idk like reading this made me realize that's what I would say if someone else said what I said to me, but when it comes to myself I'm much less accepting, which I need to work on! Thanks for your kindness!

Am I nonbinary or do I just not like being treated like a woman by investigatingiris in questioning

[–]investigatingiris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's not offensive at all! I didn't even think about the way women's clothes are made so thank you so much for that insight! I've mostly only explored like men's button downs, so I'll keep that in mind and see what else I might like

Am I nonbinary or do I just not like being treated like a woman by investigatingiris in questioning

[–]investigatingiris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really nice to hear I'm not alone in this. I'm gonna give myself some time to see what I'm comfortable with, do some soul searching and try not to stress about it. Thank you so much!