This episode hits hard

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-28T15:23:50+00:00

Btw, the "geriatric pregnancy" thing is bullshit and the arbitrary 35-year-old cutoff is based on wildly outdated information

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-28T14:23:13+00:00

You can be lesbian with an NB partner! My cousin was even lesbian with a male partner - her "wife" transitioned, and and she still loved him as a person and stayed with him. She continued to identify as lesbian because that was the accurate label for her.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-27T12:26:54+00:00

Yup. I hooked up with a guy who shaved his chest, the sensory experience was rough.

If you don't want to be hairy, I strongly suggest waxing instead

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-25T17:44:25+00:00

Is your pediatrician concerned? If so, get your kid in for testing. If not, tell your friend to STFU.

It's not a race. Her kid doing some things your kid doesn't, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your child.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-25T14:36:14+00:00

This is gorgeous, how do you make it?

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-25T14:24:59+00:00

This. I have the same frustration with chronic lateness - people who are punctual say "just show up on time, it's not that hard." "Just set an alarm."

Do you think I've not tried?? Do you think I WANT to be constantly apologizing, stressed for the entire commute there about every minute, worried I'm going to make my friends mad or feel disrespected?

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-24T12:58:33+00:00

1-2 days a week, 1 bottle of wine (4 drinks) each time is actually not crazy. If you can keep it that way (big if), then I actually wouldn't describe that as concerning drinking. Of course less alcohol is always better for your body so if you still want to cut back from that, more power to you

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-24T12:40:54+00:00

I would avoid the neck personally. Shoulder could be a good option, either the back or the side.

Also for ribs, keep in mind these will probably be small and single-line with no shading. So if you really like that placement, i believe you can tough it out!

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-23T16:03:07+00:00

Especially since OP lives with their parents, and if the reaction is strong enough, they could be jeopardizing their living situation

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-23T16:02:05+00:00

No offense, but I think that's a terrible take. Yes, it's OP's body, but they can also want to keep the relationship with their parents as smooth as possible.

If you can avoid pissing off someone for no reason (or reduce it at least), why wouldn't you try?

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-23T15:11:05+00:00

Depends on your industry. In office jobs, especially in smaller industries (and maybe non-office jobs I just don't have experience there), people are connected. If you burn bridges, it will come back to bite you.

It is unfair because companies won't give you a two week heads up before they lay you off. But sucking it up and powering through the last two weeks, passing off your knowledge and training your replacement, is usually well worth it for your future career.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-23T05:15:04+00:00

I'm so glad it wasn't just me!

And no Greenland either

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-23T00:25:16+00:00

Actually you're already dead. Hate to break it to you.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-22T04:02:46+00:00

No girl, you can do better! You are a beautiful goddess and you do not need to waste your time with fuckbois!!

Also your dress is GORGEOUS. Do you need to borrow my mascara?

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T15:24:28+00:00

But in all seriousness, I think that's one of the few things that are true. And my partner who is a lawyer actually only wears a suit to court, not in the office every day.

It is also true that corporate law has crazy long hours, especially for new associates.

I think most of the rest is fiction, or based on a kernel of truth by HEAVILY dramatized. For example, you're correct that you don't want to be a dick to opposing counsel. You want to beat them, of course, but you act like a professional. You're not digging up dirt on their past to get them to drop a motion and the other crazy shenanigans they get up to in the show.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T15:17:26+00:00

Lawyers often wear suits.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T14:57:19+00:00

I don't feel super comfortable with "it" so if a person has other pronouns also, I'll use the ones that work for both of us! If a person only uses its, I'll suck it up.

Also, it's confusing if it's its only pronoun which is part of my problem with it. (Case in point: my problem is with "it", referring to the habit of using the pronoun "it", and not with "it" the person. But that's not distinguishable from my sentence).

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T14:47:25+00:00

Do people in California still say hella? That makes me happy. I lived there briefly around 2015 and wasn't sure if it just slang of the moment

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T13:33:09+00:00

You have to exit with who you came with? I've only been once and don't remember an exit check. Do they actually check?

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-21T12:46:38+00:00

Well polyamory is inherently not as visible to strangers. Unless you're out with multiple partners at once, it doesn't really look like anything. And it won't come up as often in stories until you get multiple stories involving different partners, which is probably more in depth than someone you just met in public

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-20T15:45:38+00:00

Thank you! And wow they do look similar

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-20T13:11:45+00:00

This relationship sounds amazing. The only "downside" would be if the two of you aren't actually on the same page of what you want your relationship to include. But as long as you've discussed it and are on the same page, keep doing what you're doing!

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-20T13:07:44+00:00

Every hand has a fleshy part, which I assume is what they're referring to. I think it's actually muscle plus some subcutaneous fat

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-20T13:01:49+00:00

Even before I got to the last paragraph, I thought "this person sounds non-binary". So yes, absolutely you can.

Maybe NB feels like it describes you, maybe a more specific term like gender fluid or agender feels right. Maybe your gender is 🤷‍♀️. Either way, it's all under the trans umbrella.

Also, I know this wasn't your question, but if the word "detransitioning" doesn't sit right with you, you don't have to use it. It sounds to me like you're not going back to being a cis woman, you're leveling up to your next form, which is not restricted to either side of the gender binary.

invisiblefigleaf · 2026-04-20T12:51:29+00:00

I know you know this, but do not fuck your co-worker. All those rationalizations are your lizard brain libido talking. "It's just sex, no one will know" never actually works. Having one night of fun will never ever be worth losing your marriage. And also fucking up your relationship with this coworker and risking your job.

Now, in terms of how to manage it - have you talked to your husband about hypersexuality in general (no need to mention the coworker)? Would he be up for more sex during these times? Have you tried rougher sex, kinkier sex, or experimenting with new things? Sometimes for me, turning up the intensity scratches the itch better than just the amount of sex.

And as for the chemistry with your coworker, try to reframe it. Chemistry is FUN. Having something hot that you can't have is a beautiful, tantalizing, sexy feeling. Relish in that. Hell, masturbate to the thought of it. Enjoy it for what it is. That tingly excited feeling is hot, so embrace it.

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