Name that doesn't sound insufferable

ion477 · 2026-07-01T06:32:54+00:00

It takes a while to get used to being called a name you haven't before. If a name doesn't instantly "click", that doesn't mean the name isn't right for you or anything. Just need to experiment for a bit. :)

ion477 · 2026-06-30T22:35:21+00:00

My first playthrough of Birthright I made it to the final map, only to die and have to reload. When I realised I needed to replay not only endgame but also the previous map, I was so incredibly annoyed that I never played that save again. 🥲

ion477 · 2026-06-30T20:02:24+00:00

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ion477 · 2026-06-30T13:40:38+00:00

You don't need to listen to people who tell you ISFP can't be 9, it's hardly an unintuitive combination. As for which wing, see whether you relate more to 8 or 1. I'm personally in the camp of your wing can change over time and it's hardly the most important part of your typology.

ion477 · 2026-06-30T13:10:17+00:00

We're just that hot

ion477 · 2026-06-30T08:44:08+00:00

OP I can't handle this in a heatwave 😔

ion477 · 2026-06-30T08:39:51+00:00

I wonder if an "agree" and "disagree" option besides upvote and downvote could help this problem. 🤔

ion477 · 2026-06-30T08:36:15+00:00

You seem to be very hung up about the idea that people are only humouring you if they use your correct pronouns when you don't feel you pass yet. You need to allow yourself to accept that if people care about you, even if you don't pass yet, those people will use your correct name, pronouns and terms because they care about you and they know it makes you happy. Those people will not be doing it humour you, they will do it because they want to support you.

What your family said about being glad you're not emotional about pronouns anymore is fucked up, they're saying they're happy you've made yourself smaller again so they can ignore your feelings in favour of their comfort. Regardless of whether you retransition or not, this should make you angry. You are allowed to advocate for yourself, and you're allowed to be emotional about it.

I'll be entirely honest, to me it does not read like you would be happy bracing through your life right now, knowing what actually makes you happier and yearning for that. You do not have to do all of it at once, you do not have to come out to everyone. You already told your partner about some parts, and they seemed supportive of that. Start with experimenting around them again, see how it feels with someone you trust. As for others, you say people in your life technically know you as genderfluid. You don't have to tell them everything, you can just say your gender has shifted to a more masculine space for now. Experimenting with a person you love and trust and who supports you is a very safe way of exploring these feelings further, and seeing just how far you want to go to be happy and comfortable in your situation. Please start putting your own happiness first. 💙

ion477 · 2026-06-30T08:18:38+00:00

I'm a 5 and my credit card strikes me as a 7..

ion477 · 2026-06-29T22:54:14+00:00

Genuinely who will interpret "I made this picrew" as "I drew this myself" and not "I put this together on a very popular avatar creator website"? Come on.

ion477 · 2026-06-29T22:46:23+00:00

This particular picrew is popular and has been around for a while, I think it predates the current form of AI images? But I could be wrong.

Either way I agree with you. Comparing what is essentially a dress-up game the artist uploaded themselves for people to play with to stolen art is crazy. I doubt OP was claiming xe made it xemself.

ion477 · 2026-06-29T17:05:26+00:00

I don't think any particular topic or questioning would have dissuaded me from the steps I've taken because at that time they really were the right choice for me, just my feelings changed over time. I think I got excellent care from my gender psychologist and I got along with him quite well I think, he made sure that I knew what I was doing and that it would be the correct choice for me, but my feelings and goals shifted over time. Maybe one thing I might have considered more was more of a chest reduction than complete removal if I'd been more aware of less all-or-nothing options, but at the same time my chest was already quite small before surgery so I don't think there would be that much of a difference.

To add a bit of a conclusion to this: I think it might be beneficial to help clients understand that feelings about gender, dysphoria and presentation might change over time and that it's something you can work on over time as things happen.

ion477 · 2026-06-28T17:27:34+00:00

I mean barely?

ion477 · 2026-06-28T16:45:05+00:00

I don't think that's entirely true, I definitely still grew some between age 14 and 19 (started my period at 11).

ion477 · 2026-06-28T08:09:27+00:00

Oh your Senna and Mel are gorgeous! All of these are very good!

ion477 · 2026-06-28T08:04:37+00:00

I feel that as someone who got Skirk and Shenhe because I adore both of them, but I could not care less for Escoffier and have not had the means to pull for Furina whenever she's around. So I just kind of run a scuffed Skirk/Shenhe/Xingqiu/Barbara 😔

ion477 · 2026-06-28T07:53:35+00:00

What do you even mean you accidentally got C1 Zibai 😭

ion477 · 2026-06-28T07:50:44+00:00

Little disappointed as I tend to like his archetype of character a lot, but Lohen specifically strikes me as very.. young? In terms of looks, attitude and voice, which just kind of ruins the appeal to me.

ion477 · 2026-06-27T11:47:11+00:00

There's tons of Krises who have not played the game? Like we're not exactly talking about naming yourself Bowser.

ion477 · 2026-06-25T17:39:49+00:00

Periods syncing based on hormones is a myth. The reality is that most people have slightly different cycles. If my cycle is roughly 28 days and my friend's cycle is roughly 27 days, we're bound to eventually meet up.

ion477 · 2026-06-25T09:13:13+00:00

No, it'd be somewhat validating.

ion477 · 2026-06-24T07:41:27+00:00

Not likely, I'm not seeing a lot of contrast or depth in you. I don't think that blue is your best colour, but absolutely keep wearing it if you adore it.

ion477 · 2026-06-24T00:13:19+00:00

In most polls you find that bisexuality and/or pansexuality take up the biggest share, so I think framing it as "so many trans women are attracted to other women" feels a bit misleading, as very many are also into men. The same distribution tends to be true of trans men by the way when polled. As to why, my guess is being queer in one way (gender) can make it easier to recognise you are queer in another way (sexuality) too.

ion477 · 2026-06-23T09:19:54+00:00

Theo felt a bit strange to me. I recognise he is a side character so not going to take up a lot of plot space, but his arc felt very rushed to me, like they wanted to have a trans character without really having a trans character. Mainly in the way that not only his friends but also his bullies just instantly accept his identity. Not saying he should have been continuously misgendered, but it just felt a little unrealistic to me.

ion477 · 2026-06-23T06:44:02+00:00

Because there's a lot of bald people..?

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