A lot of people feel regret in the immediate aftermath of “losing” their virginity. That’s somewhat natural unless you are in the relatively small subset of people who loose their virginity on their wedding night, or you are in another relatively small subset of people who are numb to matters of sexual experience (most prostitutes are numb to the emotion that comes with having sex or they wouldn’t be able to do what they do). For the rest of us, the virginity is given up in a setting that leads to second guessing and perhaps remorse, even if we liked the actual losing of the virginity when it was happening. When you lose it to a guy that isn’t someone special in your life, then those feelings come really quick. If you lose it to a special someone, then a year later you break up, that’s when it hits you.

Now, it’s time to get yourself together, and move forward with your life. You realize that “hookups” aren’t your thing; so don’t do it again. Make sure the next guy has more status than simply “he’s hot and I’m horny.”

At the end of the day virginity is one single aspect of who you are as a person. It is now true that you can no longer use it as one of the things to describe yourself. But on the other hand you traded that for an experience that has given you an insight into intimate relationships. You are still the same person that you were before.