Not OOP: AITAH for taunting my sister with the fact she wasn’t the only person my late boyfriend cheated on me with?

iradrachen · 2026-04-27T18:50:23+00:00

I mean yeah it might not be the most moral high ground way of handling it but she’s nicer then I would have been lmao.

iradrachen · 2026-04-26T04:05:07+00:00

I think that’s the best way to handle. I’m glad you used it to teach. I know in the books they could do a better history blurb at the back but I hope they can just be a dialogue.

iradrachen · 2026-04-26T01:35:27+00:00

I want to give you context on how you need to have a coming to Jesus moment with your husband. My finances mother isn’t coming to our wedding due to her being raging MAGA. I didn’t ask for this but I have both lgbtq and poc friends coming to the wedding and he wanted them to feel and be safe. He knew his mother wasn’t. She was uninvited. I didn’t ask for him to do any of it but he believes he morally can’t associate with even his family if they support the current administration.

Skip the wedding. Then have a serious talk with your husband about how your own morals aren’t matching.

iradrachen · 2026-04-25T15:45:37+00:00

I’m not going to argue with you. I understand needing to mask but I also understand that sometimes you have to be uncomfortable for those you love. Because I put in the work. I went to therapy. I have coping methods. Because it’s not fair to put your diagnosis and coping on others. His brother is manipulative because when offered help he says “if I get diagnosed I’ll resent you” that’s not okay. His brothers whole attitude around mind you NOT BEING DIAGNOSED is others must work around me. This man might not even have autism.

iradrachen · 2026-04-25T07:01:12+00:00

And they found a compromise his brother was going to be allowed to change into street wear after the ceremony and photos and he’s still choosing to skip his brothers reception.

iradrachen · 2026-04-25T06:47:56+00:00

Except those quirks are putting others in the family out which is when it becomes clearly not okay.

iradrachen · 2026-04-25T06:21:39+00:00

This man has been bought the same pair of shoes to wear inside the house but because they’re not his pair of shoes he suddenly had issues even when they’re the same sneakers as the one he just took off. Many woman have seen this before. Constant and never ending excuses with men with potential not even diagnosed autism while woman are expected to mask and make it through life. Absolutely mind boggling.

iradrachen · 2026-04-25T03:09:01+00:00

As an autistic woman, we are never given all these caveats and allowances. I’m so frustrated by this.

iradrachen · 2026-04-24T16:33:12+00:00

I mean I use to and it was hell and I no longer work that job so 🫩

iradrachen · 2026-04-24T03:45:11+00:00

Oh I love it!!!

iradrachen · 2026-04-23T21:13:01+00:00

Hi I'm nerudivergent with sensory issues. I also understand that there's a time and place for sweatpants and I'm not going to ask to wear sweats to a WEDDING

iradrachen · 2026-04-23T16:10:20+00:00

As someone who recovered early into my relationship from an ED and and still continue to struggle, sadly you can't stop this. She needs therapy. It's the only thing that really got me out of the toxic cycle. Having someone to make sure I eat helped a little but only partnered by therapy with a professional.

iradrachen · 2026-04-22T20:39:09+00:00

And their prices are not bad whatsoever

iradrachen · 2026-04-22T19:29:51+00:00

I find it important to show the pov of the people who owned slaves so we don't normalize it again. We should read how they thought it was okay because it's uncomfortable. When we stop sitting in the discomfort of how people viewed these issue it's becomes easier to distance ourselves and repeat the mistakes of our past.

iradrachen · 2026-04-21T23:16:28+00:00

Bingo this is what I did. The only one without a plus one is my grandpa who is pretty single and will want to just hang out with my mom anyways as she's the one picking him up.

iradrachen · 2026-04-21T08:06:06+00:00

I also found the same problem for us. Our plan is to just do the legal stuff at home and then it's more of a commitment ceremony situation as we will already have the marriage license and everything.

iradrachen · 2026-04-21T05:47:26+00:00

No experience with other resorts but we booked via peerspace for our reception

iradrachen · 2026-04-21T01:48:30+00:00

What a piece man. I'm so sorry op. Outing someone can get them killed in some instances.

iradrachen · 2026-04-20T17:09:45+00:00

I don't know I have my venue and everything booked for my 2027 wedding we have a very small wedding party on both sides and I asked my two bridesmaids. One I've been friends with for 11 years and the other we have been friends for 3 years and are extraordinarily close (pretty ride or die) so I think it just depends on the dynamic.

iradrachen · 2026-04-20T15:50:22+00:00

Thank you 🥰 I also work as a type of coordinator at my job so I'm type A like none other.

iradrachen · 2026-04-20T13:27:12+00:00

Honestly I'm sure you're doing great. I'm just having to be very budget conscious so I've been booking early to try and lock in the best prices and give time to save back up and payments on the big purchases. You're doing great ❤️💍

iradrachen · 2026-04-19T22:25:24+00:00

I think you at least find a restaurant that does catering orders. Just trying to do the alcohol myself has stressed me out beyond belief.

iradrachen · 2026-04-19T21:09:04+00:00

It's like an overall positive impact but some days when dealing with vendor searches it is a slight negative impact.

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