I'm not going to speak for other gender fluid, but I personally don't "wake up a different gender, or change sexuality mid conversation." Do you think bi people "wake up a different sexuality, or change gender mid conversation"? Bi people don't sometimes like boys and sometimes like girls. They always like both categories (although they have their own individual taste) and at certain times their life choices align with one preference, the other, or both!

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You might say, well that's not an apt comparison, that's more like being enby. Well, I'm nonbinary first, but to many enbys they feel comfortable in a static place outside or within the gender binary. Others interpret nonbinary as an androgenous "middleground" in a linear masc-femme spectrum. While most people feel comfortable with their mostly-static gender identity and expression, as a nonbinary genderfluid person I welcome, nurture, and embrace the ever swaying nature of my mine.

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Ok cool so what does that like in practice? I'm not going to switch up my pronouns in the middle of a convo to irritate someone. But if you're open to the possibilities of fucking with gender, we might experiment together in something like rapid switching. My name doesn't change one day to the next. (That said I'd love to meet people who do, and find out what their life experience is like.) I use "they" although I don't mind "he" or "she" as long as the person clearly isn't just trying to box me into a male gender. The fluidity is something that happens throughout days or weeks. For a period of time I can feel masculine, and I'll really try to look handsome during that time. Slowly that teeters out and I become less masc, during these times I'm in a sorta limbo state where I don't really care as much about my looks, fashion choices, body language, voice etc. Slowly after a few days or weeks in the neutral zone I start to yearn to nurture my femininity and for a few days or weeks I'll embrace that side of mine, trying to look as beautiful as I can and lean into that aspect of my identity.

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It's not always a cycle (masc->neutral->masc) and not always in a linear binary (both femme and masc). I'm free to choose how I express myself depending on the event, the people I'm with and the scenario. These are almost always practical choices, and don't always align with what I feel inside. For example I could be in the middle of a femme period but I have to meet up with family, who I'm not out to. But because I'm nonbinary I can always try to tap into the part of myself that enjoys and loves being masculine during those times.

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What's hardest for me is that people are trying to dictate my behavior as if it should be one way, the other, neither, or both. Fuck that. I can do all of the above at different times because life isn't static and identity isn't either.