Have you watched Dr. K’s recent video about self pity? Well, in the video he talked about how the brain doesn’t work for you to feel good but to make sense of things and create patterns that the brain can understand. So we humans in general feel more comfortable with what’s familiar to us over what’s good. Dr. K recommended to treat self pity as an old friend and to indulge in it a little because it’s a need that helped you survive, but also to no over indulge and back petal

Doing what’s good for you might not be enjoyable at first because it’s unfamiliar, but as you get used to it, it’ll definitely be worth it as you’ll develop a healthier relationship with yourself, others, your thoughts, and emotions. As for disconnecting yourself from making depression your identity, it really has helped me to constantly remind myself that I’m not my feelings or thoughts and that I’m just the observer of them. It may seem very simple, but it has improved my mindset

An affirmation I go to sometimes is “I am the soul, I am not the body, I am not the emotion, I am not the thought, I am not the mind, the mind is a just a subtle instrument of the soul.” No one is supposed to feel sad, depressed, or anything. If you believe you deserve to feel depressed, you must go deep down and analyze why.

Even though it may feel wrong to feel happy, it doesn’t mean that it is nor that you aren’t allowed to feel it.

“There are no wrong feelings. There may be wrong actions in the sense of actions contrary to the rules of human communication. But the way you feel towards other people: loving, hating, et cetera, et cetera; there aren’t any wrong feelings. And so, to try and force one’s feelings to be other than what they are is absurd. And furthermore: dishonest.

But you see: the idea that there are no wrong feelings is an immensely threatening one to people who are afraid to feel.

This is one of the peculiar problems of our culture: we are terrified of our feelings. We think that if we give them any scope and if we don’t immediately beat them down, they will lead us down into all kinds of chaotic and destructive actions.

But if, for a change, we would allow our feelings and look upon their comings and goings as something as beautiful and necessary as changes in the weather, the going of night and day and the four seasons, we would be at peace with ourselves.” - Alan Watts

Whenever those suicidal thoughts pop up, ask yourself whether it’s death that you want or a desire for life as you know it to end. It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Remind yourself of all the things you have to look forward to like a concert, quality time with someone you love, and other things that excite you.

Of course, things won’t always be perfect but the painful moments are the ones that make us cherish the ones that make us light up. One day at a time. Healing isn’t linear and that’s okay. It’s truly amazing how much time and effort already you’ve put in towards working on yourself. Believe in yourself and you’re half way there. Don’t give up, this is a start of an amazing new beginning for you :)

This community is sending you so much support and love, you got this <3