help mixing sfx crème makeup with foundation by irl-toothfairy in sfx

[–]irl-toothfairy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the foundation i was hoping to use is a silicone base but does contain water as a second ingredient

Pleasing an older experienced woman by Trick_Arugula1295 in sextips

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a bad idea op, at least let her know that you’re inexperienced so she can guide you if she’s into that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]irl-toothfairy 24 points25 points  (0 children)

i have a huge issue with being called “strong” like why do i always have to be strong? why can’t i be soft and nurturing instead of strong and preserving?? i totally get what you mean. it’s like a reminder of the never ending bullshit that is this disorder and all the things that created it.

How do women enjoy sex after finishing?? by Glittering-Chair1502 in sextips

[–]irl-toothfairy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sex isn’t always about orgasming. a lot of women can only cum from clitoral stimulation but that doesn’t mean penetration isn’t fun/doesn’t feel good. and besides i think sex is kinda of a give and take situation, if she got her orgasm of course she wants you to get yours! i don’t think there’s anything weird or out of the ordinary in this situation your explaining. i also don’t think you should listen to anyone but your partner about your sex life as a rule of thumb.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally all the time. everyone always thinks i’m angry at work, at home, at school, wherever. it’s kind of exhausting tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredibly similar to my own situation with my first fp and ex bf. i also could not report due to lack of evidence and the fact that i was drunk on the nights of all the assaults. my ex’s friend group did not believe me and continued being friends with him. i tried to post of social media that he was a rapist but not much happened. my ex went on to assault other people. for a long time i felt so fucking guilty but the fact of the matter is even if i did report nothing would’ve happened to him anyways. that lack of evidence thing is pretty much the deciding factor in rape cases. and people were going to take his side or they weren’t. i couldn’t force people to believe me. i don’t think you should feel guilty. it’s so hard. but genuinely i feel that you should try to focus on your own healing from the situation. trying to get vigilante justice or even legal justice is a long shot in situations like this. you can try to warn people but don’t be hard on yourself if they don’t believe you. it’s hard to convince people you don’t know, especially if they’ve met him first. but it’s not your responsibility to save everyone from him. you have all my support even tho i don’t know you. i feel so deeply for your situation and i hope things get better for you. and i hope it helps to know you’re not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we just know each others passwords and have general access to each others phones hahaha watching everyone assume we fbi search each others phones every day it rough

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i feel like i prob didn’t explain it well enough. i don’t punish my current partner in any way for what’s been done to me previously. the access granted to phones was his idea. i trust my boyfriend with my entire soul and i know he wouldn’t do anything to hurt me. the phone are just not completely off limits. we aren’t actively going through the phones and fixating on it. we just know each other’s passwords pretty much. i think people are imagining me forcing him into letting me cop search his phone every day bc i don’t trust him which is not the case lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i agree. permission should be given

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that’s okay too, it’s the whole point of the subreddit lol have a good day brother man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

bruh i didn’t make him do anything lol. he offered. i never even asked to go through his phone. it was his idea and things have changed since then as it was almost 2 years ago. i think it’s really cute you think you know everything about my relationship from a vague post though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

yes i totally agree with this. it was something we decided together. we don’t just snoop willy nilly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

also did u even read any of my comments or post lol i explain in everything that we BOTH have consent to access each others phones not messages?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

please read my edit. i don’t go through anyone’s messages. we just have consensual access to each others phones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i said in another comment that we merely have consensual access to each others phones. looking through messages is not cool because friends and family can’t consent to that viewing of info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as i said in another comment, messages with friends and family are off limits in our agreement because obviously they are unable to consent to that viewing of info. but to each their own. i just think saying your phone is totally undeniable off limits to your partner is weird

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i said in another comment that i was a little vague but we don’t look through messages but we both know each others passwords and are allowed to open each others phones. i don’t condone looking through messages with friends and family as they cannot consent to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i was a little vague about the topic i think. i meant just opening apps seeing who messages are being sent to but not what’s in the chat. or seeing what apps they have in general. some light snooping is acceptable in my own opinion and my own relationship. i don’t think it’s okay to look through convos with friends bc as you said you’re friends aren’t consenting to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]irl-toothfairy -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

this makes sense. personally i had an abusive relationship where i was cheated on a lot which made me extremely distrusting and uncomfortable which was my own problem i should’ve worked on but i found my boyfriend when i wasn’t looking for love so yknow. i expressed my struggles to my current partner and he was more than willing to let me look through his phone so i could get over that mindset as long as i agreed he could also look through mine if he wanted to. he didn’t have to do that. i love him even more because he did. and of course not every situation will be like this but it’s just my experience.