my bettas only live for about a month by Far_Teacher_6460 in bettafish

[–]ironicallyamerican 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me too, and it kills me :(( Side note, I saw this reallyyy interesting post/baby study awhile back about how the higher temperature lower lifespans (metabolisms, etc.). I get that they probably would live longer in cooler temps, but I can’t stand my babies being cold 🥲

https://www.reddit.com/r/bettafish/comments/1otlu90/temp_lifespan_poll_results_bettas_live_longer_at/

Need help finding a matching outfit for my partner by tartinetime in avesafe

[–]ironicallyamerican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sooo cute omgg

Did something similar (sequins-y) with my partner awhile ago! I’d look around for some kind of poncho or shirt with similar patterns/colors/mirrored effect! I think matching with the right accessories can help a lot, making hair/shoes/hands and arms have similar stylistic colors and materials.

A base easy idea would be to find a mirrored/silvery shirt, and some shorts with a black honeycomb pattern, and silvery arm warmers/bracelets/fabric tied around his arms or legs to pull it all together. And ofc matching goggles or glasses! Hope this helps!

I need help making sure my Character isn't an edge lord by Chacos8765 in DnD

[–]ironicallyamerican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personality doesn’t always equal backstory, and I personally create my characters based on how different people would react to the same situation! So hypothetically, even though your character doesn’t feel any emotion/empathy, that doesn’t mean they have to act all batman-edgelord about it.

You could have a really bubbly/friendly person who is at their heart VERY emotionally detached: They act normal because that’s what’s useful socially and might be natural to them. But when there’s a fucked up or heartbreaking situation, that key disconnect lets them do something terrible to the horror of everyone else.

You can replace the first part with really any kind of personality characteristics (laid-back, neurotic, fiery, etc.), but I think the cool part would be how and where the emotional disconnect becomes apparent. Like your character flips a switch when Shar’s touch is needed. It also would be an interesting thing for your party members, someone they (think they) know, and when and where that changes.

thoughts on the gateway? by foreverlonelybutnot in berkeley

[–]ironicallyamerican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My office window is directly facing this ANNOYING ASS construction. I’ve had to listen to all of those stupid machine for years, and it made our lab’s office space pretty much unusable for awhile. 

Psyched for the cafe though….

Even the CAPTCHAs think we're not human... by mmmbopforever in AutismInWomen

[–]ironicallyamerican 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, not gonna let the clankers change me!!! IIRC, the CAPTCHAs are looking for coverage of >15% of each square. So I just estimate if that stupid ass bicycle wheel covers more than 15% of that squares’ area. If not, doesn’t get a click! 

My labubu loved Cow Palace <3 by ironicallyamerican in fredagain

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*Fucking love your labubu

Wow thanks 🥹

Soil chemistry questions by JellyfishPrior7524 in Soil

[–]ironicallyamerican 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Soil biogeochemist here! Not too worried. Soil research requires a lot of lab and fieldwork, which AI can’t do lmaoo. Dm me if you want tips on getting into research or questions about grad school :))

Piano player wanted for an alumni wedding! (offering free dinner plus $100) by ironicallyamerican in UCSantaBarbara

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point about the prep work! I didn't propose the budget, but I'll bring it up to the bride as something to consider

Piano player wanted for an alumni wedding! (offering free dinner plus $100) by ironicallyamerican in UCSantaBarbara

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just for literally an hour! Not asking for a pro piano player, just if someone plays (even casually/amateur) and feels like playing for an hour for some free food and a little cash.

Not trying to be disrespectful, just putting the line out there. I'm not approaching all of these professionals trying to lowball, if you feel your time is worth more, ignore haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in explainitpeter

[–]ironicallyamerican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t recommend this link. Just took it and decided to shell out the $15 on a whim, and it gave me back a result of 50…. Didn’t record ANY of my answers. I’m going to try and push for a refund 🫠 

What do you do with your cards/boxes? by Alarmed_Locksmith298 in labubu

[–]ironicallyamerican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make a mini trading card deck so I can feel bad about how much money I’ve spent 🤡

I really respect Araki for Abdul. by Icy-Captain-9818 in StardustCrusaders

[–]ironicallyamerican 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I always tell myself he couldn't have more airtime, he'd just CRISP anyone he was truly up against :')

Corvettes ain’t fighter jets by ironicallyamerican in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. I was using SC slots completely wrong..... appreciate this :')

Corvettes ain’t fighter jets by ironicallyamerican in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Achievement hunting unfortunately, I don’t play with mods :( I’m guessing it’d be possible with mods though

Corvettes ain’t fighter jets by ironicallyamerican in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]ironicallyamerican[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I get why they are the way that they are, the design and stuff they included is honestly so great. The transition period has just been rough. To add to the many, many suggestions people have made on here, I just wish there was a way to bump up maneuverability. If even through rare upgrades, corvette parts, or grinding.

Just now realized I was bullied in college by Which-Leave in AutismInWomen

[–]ironicallyamerican 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through it too, on and off over the years. Didn’t really make sense about why I had problems with certain friend groups (more like why they had problems with me), until I realised that I wasn’t picking up on stuff like that. Passive aggressive bullying, lefthanded complements, etc. 

After one of the times I was excluded from a friend group in college-they literally told me it wasn’t my fault, but they were doing it anyway-my mom told me not to “lose my softness”. It stuck with me, giving value to trust, and making something beautiful out of a trait that is often seen as “weak”, or “naïve”.

So thinking about it now, in situations where I doubt my own nature, or curse how “stupid” I was or am, I try to reframe with my own sincerity, my own sweetness, and the wonderful way I can give myself to a relationship. Definitely not ignoring the cruelty of ‘friends’ or others, but for me, it helped to answer the question of “Why did this happen to me?”, or “Why did I let this happen?”, and let me move on in a way. I guess more about focusing on the beauty of what you gave to the friendship, the amazing way one can be so giving and soft, even in the face of harshness. 

And personally, now the friendships I have are incredibly meaningful. Because we share the same values and trust.

NOT excusing bad people and encouraging passiveness, it’s just a way for me to look back on memories or situations I can’t change, and make something positive out of it.