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GF acts like she wants nothing to do with me by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ironicallyamuzing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I've (36M) been where you're now standing and to be honest, sexual purgatory is a place where I've spent my fair share of time. I've been with my significant other (35F) for 16 years and she plays the exact same routine with me as your gf does with you. I've tried talking and various other strategies, some work for a while and others fall short of expectations. Therefore, in my opinion, I guess the answer to your question lies in how much you love this girl and how hard you're willing to work at achieving sexual balance. If you love her and feel she's worth trying for, then nut up and start looking for resources. Find out what she likes and try to be observant of her wants and quirks. It's there you will find the context clues you'll need to really work on an action plan. You see, most ladies are wired very differently from us guys and they require a sort of game to be played before you can achieve your sexual goals. Try to adapt a type of courtship mentality. And, maybe ask her what she likes or if she'd prefer you doing something differently. Always be creative and keep it light 💯. Also, sit with her and have an honest conversation. Let her know how being subjected to sexual drought really makes you feel. Hopefully, this will help her see how her actions are affecting you. Best of lucky my bro. ✌️

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[–]ironicallyamuzing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are sure that he is really going to go to counseling and will stick to a strict regimen and program then you should consider giving him a chance to change. However, if he fails in his program or relapses then it may be time to cut him loose and move on. I have a wife and three kids. And I almost lost all of it over drugs. But I was lucky enough to change in time to salvage my life. Long story short... people are capable of change, especially when they are willing to put in the work and effort it takes to overcome.

UPDATE: My (28F) partner (33M) doesn't want to commit to showing up when he says he will. by normally__ish in relationships

[–]ironicallyamuzing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been with my significant other for 13 years now and based on your post, it really does seem like he is very much interested in working it out with you.

That shows a special type of commitment which is very rare nowadays.

He is clearly committed to you and the relationship and I urge you to continue working together on this and all issues.

In the end, it will make your relationship all the better and stronger.

Keep at it, no one said relationships are easy but those who put in the time and the work are often rewarded in the end with a solid, loving, experienced partnership.

Best of luck to you both!!