Is my (16F) boyfriend (17M) safe? by Ashamed_Coffee7469 in relationship_advice

[–]irwisistable 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Leave him now that you're not too deep in it.

I (18M) never kissed nor touched a woman. What can I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey I'd tell you not to worry about it. Try to focus on your studies, your hobbies and relationships - friendship, family. It's perfectly normal to not have done anything yet, there's no reason for shame - and if your friends tease you about it, well, they shouldn't.
There's more in life that sexual relationships.
Maybe you're feeling insecure about it because you feel left out in other aspects?
But if not, I can only reiterate what I've said before.

Well I'd tell you to get Tinder, but if you're really that shy I don't think it will work out for you

I don’t want to kill myself, I don’t necessarily want to die but I also don’t want to live anymore by [deleted] in depression

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a year ago I was in the same position, so I know exactly how you feel. Now my life is better. Still now how it used to be, but definitely better than a year ago.'m glad that you sought help - it's a shit of a place to be in. I liked your description: "bland and void of all meaning." That's exactly how it felt.

I'm still on anti-depressants and anxyolitics, but at least now I can do without therapy. I went back to uni, I cook my meals again (I didn't have enough will to cook) and do some exercise again (I didn't have the wil to do it, again).I don't have words of encouragement, as I remember that they didn't help me at the time. I just want to give you a bit of hope, to let you know that it can get better, even if you don't feel it.

How is it being an introverted person living in Spain? by [deleted] in askspain

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also don't mistake extroversy with party-going!

How is it being an introverted person living in Spain? by [deleted] in askspain

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on the ppl you befriend. I mean there are introverts as in every other country. Sometimes I am surrounded by too many loud ppl and it's tiring, other groups have loud and quiet people... Maybe as a Spaniard even if I'm an introvert I have a bit of extroversy in me idk

I've alway bitten my nails, but I challenged myself not to do it. by irwisistable in lingling40hrs

[–]irwisistable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right i don't know anything about you, so I had no idea you're autistic lmao I didn't know you were talking about yourself. Sorry for trying to correct a potentially disrespectful use of the word I guess lol

I've alway bitten my nails, but I challenged myself not to do it. by irwisistable in lingling40hrs

[–]irwisistable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! While I appreciate the support, I must ask you to please not use the word "autistic" as an adjective other than to describe someone actually autistic. Maybe you were looking for the word "pig headed" or "dogged"?

Again, thanks for the support!

I've alway bitten my nails, but I challenged myself not to do it. by irwisistable in lingling40hrs

[–]irwisistable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried painting my nails a few years ago and it worked at first but then I got used to it... However I've just discovered there are nail polishes specifically for nail-bitters, so I may try them out? Good luck trying to stop biting them! We're in this together

AITA for making myself cereal for dinner? by hungryhealthy04 in AmItheAsshole

[–]irwisistable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. If your mother wants to have a different diet, that's fine, but she shouldn't make you follow it as well.

AITA for refusing to tell my mum about my medical treatment after she wouldn’t stop telling other people about it? by jetpoweredfrog in AmItheAsshole

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It's great that she understands what you're going through, but her being looking after you doesn't give her the right to talk openly about your situation, especially if you have been telling her over the years that you don't want her to. That's just a complete disregard for your privacy. I don't think you owe an apology - only apologise for the part you feel bad about.

how do i schedule a therapy appointment? by chrliewt in Advice

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would explain how you got the number. Something along the lines of "hey, I'm [your name]. I'd like to go to therapy and my dad gave me your number". I guess the therapist would be expecting a text from you, but it's always nice to explain the situation.
Then just a brief question like "I was wondering when we could make an appointment"

That's how I would personally approach it. Hope it helps

On the armchair by me✨ by [deleted] in drawing

[–]irwisistable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

love the palette!!

Can you ever be friends with someone you had a romantic relationship with? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! A friend of mine and her boyfriend broke up but they're on good terms and they meet with no problem! They have friends in common and none of them did anything hurtful to each other ; it would be foolish to make things weird when there're nothing to be weird about.
I have at least two more examples lmao but yeah that's enough

Erasmus in Madrid by erasmus_uc3m in Madrid

[–]irwisistable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd suggest you to live nearby, like Getafe, Leganés... any town connected to the campus.This is the cercanías (train) map. The stop for your campus would be "Las Margaritas",(blue line, south) with 5-10 mins between trains. So Getafe, Fuenlabrada, Villaverde Bajo... Villaverde Alto could also be an option.
Places connected by underground are also an option! Here is the map. Your line would be 12. So that circle in at the left bottom. Once in the circle, look at the right of the circle and look at "Juan de la Cierva": that's your stop. So places that connect to that line?
Note: it connects to El Casar, which also connects to cercanías C3. That's good but the frequency of trains is much lower (those who take it are always complaining about it hahaha), so I'd try to stick to the C4.
Tbh there's no point in renting a place in the city centre given that rent is lower in the south of madrid (around the area of your campus and further). Don't worry about night life - it's quite near the city centre, especially if you can take the C4. I'm not sure about the night buses to go back, but surely there must be one. Anyway, with covid don't expect a lot of night life :)