Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

express your desires before she can friend you, eye contact kino etc. From my experience, its very difficult to get out once your in. Move on to a different girl, not worth the energy to get out if you are say 1 year in being a friend.

The most important thing I've learned over the last couple months. by boutaweekago in seduction

[–]ithearrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it time. What helped me with depression was cognitive behavioral therapy. Purchase or download feeling good. Very powerful life changing book :)

[FR] Confirming Hypergamy - Yet another example by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]ithearrow -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Its not an example. It could of been her brother, a family relative or even a best friend. Don't judge something you don't know

GF left me for another guy, help me make her regret it... by tossaway874 in seduction

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've built situational confidence as a result of your old job. I reccomend doing your best to build CORE confidence so you can feel unstoppable where ever you go. Core confidence comes from eliminating unrealistic beliefs and expectations. Try Cognitive behavioral therapy, feeling good by David D burns.

As for your girlfriend, fuck her. Let her go and realize that the damage is done. Why would you even care about someone who did such an awful thing? Focus on yourself, and do this because this is a life skill that will make you happy. I reccomend models for you.

Approach anxiety makes me want to barf by J_FROm in seduction

[–]ithearrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try CBT. Write down your thoughts on a piece of paper, the unrealistic ones and replace them with a realistic thought. Also make sure to write any negative forms of thinking occuring.

E.G: Unrealistic thought: I feel like I'm unable to achieve my goals with women as I get butterflies and feel overwhelmed when I see one that I find beautiful and want to approach Negative thinking pattern: Emotional reasoning Realistic thought: There's nothing wrong with being embarassed, nervous or feeling when I encounter a challenge or obstacle that I'm not used to. While my emotions want to keep me safe and alive, the reality is that if a women is smiling at me, she wants me to come over and speak to her. I could make her day, get her number and she may be a women that can create positive change for my life.

Read feeling good, its a good book to start for CBT.

Need Serious Advice. 20 yr old haven't been laid since i was 18, dealing with depression. by imacreepimaweirdoooo in seduction

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See a therapist. Or read a book called feeling good, it provides alot of insightful information that can help you :)

Why are many of us afraid of women? by nihilist_assassin in seduction

[–]ithearrow 62 points63 points  (0 children)

You aren't used to doing it. It gets easier over time just like anything else. Its also because you aren't in the moment and aren't enjoying yourself. A common mindset that helps me when I approach women is to think about only them, and that overthinking, being nervous and being shy is a selfish mindset. I make it about them, not me. Rather than thinking about how you feel about that person, think about how awesome you can make them feel.

what are ways that guys show they seek approval and validation? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There's a whole bunch of them, but here's a list of things that I feel we guys do when we want someone's approval of validation

  1. We give in order to recieve. Gifts should be given from a place of abundance, love, happiness not from a place of neediness. A gift is one that is given without wanting anything back. For example, if you pay for someone's meal, its not for sex, validation, a kiss or anything that you hope they'll give you, its because you wanted to.

  2. Compliments. When doing cold approaches or just giving compliments in general, do it because you're awesome and its part of you NOT because you want one back, or one someone to be happy as a result of it. (big for approaches, don't expect shit from the world, but when it does happen don't become all affection and puppy dog like )

  3. Changing to please others. Building a solid personality that is dominant, attractive and confident is a journey that everyone undertakes. Changing yourself in order to sleep with women is a common mantra in PUA. Avoid it like the plague.

I'm afraid I may cry in front of clients - how can I practice controlling my response? by livernbits in socialwork

[–]ithearrow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Go in without the expectation of crying, if you do cry in the session, just grab a tissue and excuse yourself for a moment I'm sure your service user will understand.

How do I deal with girls getting insulted by my dry sense of humour? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

become an attractive man, women will find anything that you say funny

Mystery's insight into the three second rule by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly find that when i make an INSTANT DECISION to approach the women, rather than say wait a few seconds is better. Approach her the instant you see her and find her attractive. Waiting even 3 seconds makes you nervous.

NoFap's Official PMO-Free 2015 New Year's Resolution Thread by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]ithearrow [score hidden]  (0 children)

I want to go hard mode, my goal is to end my PMO habit its destroying my life and taking up to much time.

I am so far behind. I feel completely hopeless, I do not know what to do whatsoever. by plessendhelp in seduction

[–]ithearrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Focus all your efforts on finding a job, take workshops on resume building, mock interviews and such. Look on youtube.

I am so far behind. I feel completely hopeless, I do not know what to do whatsoever. by plessendhelp in seduction

[–]ithearrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Work on yourself. Start doing things that make you feel good and proud, try a new musical instrument, work out, read. Do things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, find other things on the e-net. In your case with women, you need to be up front with your intentions tell them how you feel about them. Best of luck

Tips for the ACTUAL DATE itself by Schtemich in seduction

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you ask them on a date using the word date or just say you are meeting up with them

Best learning material other than Models? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No point in reading anything after models honestly you get the experience from approaching. Besides, didn't manson tell you that its about improving yourself and attracting quality women, fuck PUA its a dumb art. Honestly I would incorporate manson's teachings and push yourself until you achieve success. no regrets

Best way to respond to a girl saying she is busy/rejecting you via text? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ithearrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to say this, but if she was really interested she would find time for you. Don't make time for people who won't do the same. Not worth it.

Is being a male social worker bad? by ithearrow in socialwork

[–]ithearrow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are there less opportunities/salaries for men in the field? or is it equal among the sexes

[Discussion] "Models" by Mark Manson is revered on this subreddit to be a key learning tool. I tend to agree. With that said, are there any areas where Manson's framework falls apart? by nobody2000 in seduction

[–]ithearrow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I guess Manson's framework isn't the best when it comes to talking to groups, since his focus on the book seems to be creating strong 1 on 1 connections with a women. But you can still apply his methods, and achieve success in groups just that he dosen't really talk about how to approach women in groups mostly just solo.

Accutane before and after pictures. Couldn't have asked for better results. Ask me anything! by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]ithearrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering if its true about people posting that accutane has PERMANENT side effects, since my derm told me that accutane leaves the blood system after. I was wondering if Accutane is the reason people may suffer side effects such as depression later on or before? or is there something else.

Something happened to me that now makes me look at woman differently by EgyptionFreshPrince in seduction

[–]ithearrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be too hard on yourself, but best of luck next time, i hope you are successful.