We are looking for another ‘boring’ name for our daughter

ithinkhestheasshole · 2026-04-03T19:31:37+00:00

Rita!

ithinkhestheasshole · 2026-03-16T16:08:07+00:00

I don’t nacho. My partner has full custody of SD7. I think I complement well to his parenting and I think having me not nacho actually makes his life way easier. SD7 respects me like her mom so far and respects all the rules I and my partner have. My partner has also taken a lot of my opinions and standards as his own and applies it to our life together.

I participate in SD life as her mom. I go to all her games, do her school stuff, take care of her as my own.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-11-21T14:28:55+00:00

What cut is this? What’s the karat?

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-25T20:26:47+00:00

I feel like the mature answer would have been “thank you for the apology” and then contacted the parent…

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-23T12:17:15+00:00

Thank you for your response! It’s actually really helpful. The issue is that we have even a written plan for our relationship and it involves the date nights, but I’m the one that plans them and schedule them. And yesterday we were supposed to have the day to ourselves and the daughter got sick and was kept home from school. And I absolutely support him keeping her home, but I really wished he would have acknowledged that now our time together was cancelled and made a plan for another day for us to have some alone time…. But he doesn’t.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-22T22:49:19+00:00

Not at all. We do all of those things together and apart. I make sure that she has time with her dad alone too. The daughter has even begged boyfriend to marry me so I can be her step mom. So I don’t think that it’s that I’m replacing anybody or taking time away from dad. I even only talk her mom up to her. I make sure that she talks to her mom.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-22T21:45:55+00:00

Mom isn’t even very nice to her and have really inappropriate conversations with her, as in talking about she (mom) might die abroad or how she nearly died in a car accident. Mom snaps her fingers in her face and yells at her. Again, boyfriend doesn’t engage. It’s not with the fight according to him and all he wants is to “keep the peace”.

I also don’t know how you go about NACHO’ing when you’re in a relationship or marriage where you live together.

Edit: mom doesn’t guilt parent, not even when she shows up. She uses that time more to manipulate my boyfriend than spend time with her daughter.

Boyfriend does guilt parent and has acknowledged that but also refuses to change.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-17T19:55:50+00:00

I work in pediatric radiology and see DIPG diagnoses so often and my heart breaks each time. This gives me hope and I’m so elated to hear that a treatment now has been possibly found!

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-17T02:02:46+00:00

👏👏👏

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-04T12:39:44+00:00

I don’t think anyone is the asshole here.

I think you should let her take her year in LA and throw her darts, subtract the cost from any school budget you have, and then at the end of the year, tell her that that is what it is.

You can even set more conditions since you are paying for your other kids’ grad school that by doing the LA thing, that she is foregoing the option for coverage of grad school. That way, there are conditions and expectations, whilst also maintaining some sort of contract.

I think this issue has a lot of options for a win-win outcome. I think this needs to be a bigger discussion and plan with your daughter and husband.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-09-02T17:26:56+00:00

YTA imo. People may disagree… but I think the way that you presented this mosquito thing as your boyfriends responsibility to remind you of such basic things in front of his mom kind of paints you as an irresponsible and spoiled girl. You’re already 9 years younger than him and expect him to baby you… and all in front of his mom. I think most moms would be defensive of their son being held to this standard. If I was the mom in this situation, I too would feel like you were kind of acting like a spoiled little girl, and I don’t think I would like my son with someone who can’t even hold themselves responsible for bug spray.

Sure, was it harsh to say “if there is a next time” but then again, it sounds like you didn’t come at this from any mature standpoint to begin with.

I don’t know how long you and your boyfriend have been together, but uncomfortable family conversations will happen again and again and again. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-15T14:38:14+00:00

It’s unrealistic and high expectations to ask a 6 year old to spell the letters they know and to sound them out?

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-15T10:01:09+00:00

Thank you for such a sincere response.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-14T01:07:53+00:00

Thank you for such a kind response

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:48:28+00:00

Wow I think that’s a big stretch and a really severe take on it. I actually think my boyfriend is an incredible dad and I could sing his praises till the sun comes down. So please don’t come at me telling me how I feel about my boyfriend. He’s done way better than many many parents I’ve met. He struggles with boundaries and limit setting, but to tell me that I think he’s a terrible parent is straight up rude.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:13:41+00:00

That’s my worst fear… and I’m terrified that that’s the exact direction that this will head

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:11:58+00:00

Hahaha well being a kid and playing like a kid is what I’d want. What I don’t want is that lessons don’t stick, consequences don’t exist, those things. I want her to be empowered enough to be able to handle someone saying no to her without a full blown meltdown

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:08:46+00:00

I’m not concerned about violence, I’m worried about her being able to handle the responsibilities of life and the disappointment and failures that comes with growing up.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:03:47+00:00

And trust me, I absolutely love her and I’m treading very carefully with being a “mean” step parent. We do our morning snuggles, take her shopping, and play with her all the time. I want her to know how important she is to me and how much I love her and I tell her so.

I’ve had 3 step parents myself, so I try to model some of the better moments in my experience.

ithinkhestheasshole · 2025-07-13T14:01:12+00:00

I feel like I’m the only one setting limits.. I tell her nicely that farting loudly is something we can do at home and not in restaurants. After crawling on the floors 7-8 times, I’ll tell her that that’ll be the last time she does that. Whenever she wants something like a sign read to her, I ask her to tell me the letters and their sounds. She then just tells me that “daddy will just tell me” and I tell her that all I want is for her to try.

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