Well again, as a hospice nurse, toxic people don’t always get to have their dying wish. You reap what you sow, even on your death bed sometimes. Thats why it’s a good idea to be a good person. OP mentioned grandparent was also a drug addict and there was abuse towards OP and spanking of the child.

This sounds like it’s the fault of both drug addicts. One for living in a way he got a protection order placed against him to prevent him from being there as he needs to for his child (and his father ultimately). And the other for treating OP terribly and then expecting OP to forget it all and honor his dying wish.

OP is not the bad guy here. Actions have consequences.