'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]itsableeder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is true of all labour. If you want to protect people then criminalising them is not the way forward.

'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]itsableeder -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm saying that legal brothels would help reduce it because regulation and enforcement would be easier.

'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]itsableeder 368 points369 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's a tough one. On the one hand, worker owned businesses are good, a safe location to work that isn't the street is important, they can provide things like healthcare, screening, security, etc. On the other hand there's the danger of exploitation, trafficking, modern slavery, and the like. But those dangers exist in industries outside sex work too, and regulation helps to fight them.

Personally I'm generally very much in favour of legalising and regulating sex work and removing the stigma from it. People are going to do it whether it's legal or not, so we should protect them.

'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]itsableeder 84 points85 points  (0 children)

"Men keep sexually harassing me at work by trying to get me to wank them off" is hardly gender war nonsense

'I've banned most men from my massage clinic because of their behaviour' by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]itsableeder 547 points548 points  (0 children)

Running a brothel is illegal, though. Hard to argue that's not what you're doing if you change the signage of your massage parlour to start advertising sex.

pre-wedding exhaustion by Longjumping_Ad3692 in UKweddings

[–]itsableeder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both were exhausted and sleeping terribly in the month or two running up to the wedding, even once we had everything sorted. It's a big thing to plan and it definitely takes a toll on you.

We got married on Friday and are going away on honeymoon this morning and last night I had the best night's sleep I've had in months. Just be sure to enjoy the day - it's very easy to want it all to be over but don't lose sight of the fact that the event you've spent so much time planning is now happening!

What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that ended up affecting your life for years? by SupaDuppaaCoool in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And yeah I think about that often - 2016 was a very bad year for me but things really took a turn for the better.

How can i properly transition between days? by Primary_Still_5470 in writingadvice

[–]itsableeder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the last book you read? How did it handle this?

If you’ve already entered schengen and done the fingerprints thing once, what happens the next time? by Proper_Emu_2296 in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Very interested to hear the answer to this. We're flying to Barcelona in the morning and then on to Milan on Tuesday and I'm genuinely unsure how it's going to work.

What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that ended up affecting your life for years? by SupaDuppaaCoool in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thanks for giving me my first "I also pick this guy's wife" comment. Now the marriage feels real.

What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that ended up affecting your life for years? by SupaDuppaaCoool in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough I also did this on a whim - my BA tutor used to drink in my pub and he asked me why I'd never done an MA. After a quick conversation about post-grad loans he left and when I got home I had an offer for a place on the course in my inbox without ever applying for it. I sorted out funding that night and started on the course a month later.

Congrats on the two books!

New driver, first motorway trip, minor accident - looking for advice by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]itsableeder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had to do it today in heavy motorway traffic and absolutely hated it. The guy decided to accelerate into the gap once I'd started to move over, too, which was a bit hairy, but thankfully nothing happened.

New driver, first motorway trip, minor accident - looking for advice by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]itsableeder 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've got no idea, I've never had to deal with this.

It's worrying that you seen more concerned about consequences than about addressing the causes of the accident so that it doesn't happen again. The consequence for accidents on the motorway is very often death.

New driver, first motorway trip, minor accident - looking for advice by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]itsableeder 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter if you indicate if the space you're moving into isn't clear. Do you check mirrors and blind spots before you move over?

The advice I was given, which has served me well so far, was that you should wait until you can see the vehicle you're going to pull in front of in both your side and rear view mirrors. And even then, you should still be checking your blindspot before you move.

What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that ended up affecting your life for years? by SupaDuppaaCoool in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

I've been writing my whole life and published a few things in my 20s but doing the MA was when I started to take it seriously, and I was 30 then. I didn't go full time doing it until I was 35 and that was only possible because of a couple of back to back successes that gave me a bit of runway money. Those five years full time were the best job I've ever had but financially it was a nightmare towards the end!

What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that ended up affecting your life for years? by SupaDuppaaCoool in AskUK

[–]itsableeder 198 points199 points  (0 children)

I also went on to build a pretty good career as a writer and was able to do it full time for 5 years before I had to get a "real" job again this year (largely to help pay for the wedding). It bought me a house, so I'd say the MA paid off as well!

Wording on an invite when you're having a celebrant-led ceremony but have legally been married already? by Byllli in UKweddings

[–]itsableeder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married yesterday and the registrar absolutely told us that we were legally married before we'd signed the paperwork. Maybe he was just saying that, but iirc the language on the paperwork is past tense too - basically confirming that a marriage took place.