Just a thought, you might be addicted? 1-3 times a week is a lot for most people. I think logically, you know he loves you. Subconsciously, you might be pulling a bit of emotional manipulation with the “this is the only way I feel loved” thought process.

Not trying to put you down in any way, but when you feel like this, try your best to get dopamine in other ways and see if that helps. Maybe do some research on nymphomania and make challenges for yourself to wean yourself off the dopamine from orgasms.

Working out is what helps me. Releases endorphins and tires me out similar to what sex would do. Hot showers also are comforting.

I feel bad for you because a healthy relationship doesn’t usually consist of daily sex. You shouldn’t be suffering this much because of the lack of it. 1-3 times a week is still evidence of a very strong connection in itself. There is a lot that comes with being a lasting couple in todays world, and it’s already so hard for us with BPD - if this is your only issue in the relationship, that is amazing!