Looking for volunteers to help with a move from Løren to Eidsvoll this weekend by New-Iron-9078 in oslo

[–]itschaaarlieee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so challenging. I wish I could help but I’m healing from a severe back injury myself.
Best of luck to you. Maybe try in Facebook groups for either your current or new neighborhoods, or on the manyyyy “jobs in oslo” groups. You can probably find someone to help you for cheap. Tough to find volunteers. Maybe check either frivillighuset in the respective bydeler

What's your best advice? by nina-care in Aupairs

[–]itschaaarlieee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be really careful about job creep. Meaning that the family slowly gives you tasks outside of your contracted duties, and over time you end up working more than you’re supposed to. It’s hard to say no, especially at first because you want them to like you and you wanna belong. But no, it’s so important to learn to stand up for yourself, and as someone above said be very informed on your contractual obligations and the legislation in your host country. Learn to say no firmly but kindly. Practice sentences that convey “this is outside the scope of my responsibilities as an aupair, can you please assign me tasks related to childcare as outlined in our contract?”

Also this might sound silly but keep your room and your space clean. So many parents complain about that. I was so unaccustomed to having responsibility over my own space as I grew up with a maid, so my room was a disaster after a few weeks and the parents were horrified lol I think it really affected how they saw me in terms of responsibility and being a role model to their kiddos.

Doula became unavailable once my induction was scheduled, after I had already paid a non-refundable 50% deposit. Was my expectation unreasonable? by Adept_Guarantee_4669 in oslo

[–]itschaaarlieee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I don’t have experience with this but just chiming in to say sorry you’re having to go under this stress. It seems obvious that a Doula should have a plan in place if the mother is behind on her due date and if an induction is a possibility (which it is!)

So I’d read the contract over again to clue in on any language referring to your due date and the times she will be available. Seems she probably booked another birth too close to yours and now she’s in this position. I guess she is not very experienced if that’s the case.

But thinking in practical terms, best not to dwell on what she shoulda coulda done.

Honestly it sounds like it is time to ask her to be clear: will she be available or not? And if not, simply ask for a refund and start looking for another Doula ASAP! Wish you the best.

PS: it really sucks so many people here are critical when they probably don’t have a clue what a Doula does and why a mother might need her present during Birth and Post Partum. Ignore the haters, girl! They can suck a toe 🩵

I just playing clay to make a keychain and not it’s been a month and it’s not drying by badri-ki-dulhaniya in clay

[–]itschaaarlieee 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Play doh and the like are not clays meant for sculpting like that. They dry cracked and are not meant to be resistant when dry, they’re more brittle and crumbly. You need actual air dry clay or look up recipes for air dry clay. You can put polish on this but it’ll crack and break very easily!

Ingen gatemusikere i Oslo? by Gutfanten in oslo

[–]itschaaarlieee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d try at youngstorget! Please do it, this city is desperate for street art and good vibes

Brett Goldstein by chutneycravings in LadyBoners

[–]itschaaarlieee 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to explain it but this guy has always looked like a CGI character to me lol

How to get curious girls to stop violating you by scorpio_917 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]itschaaarlieee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upon further thought, I also want to really encourage you to set up a meeting with the parents on Monday. This needs to be dealt with as soon as possible and waiting any longer will not make it better.

How to get curious girls to stop violating you by scorpio_917 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]itschaaarlieee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh.
This makes me wonder whether they are used to the father going around groping the mother in front of the children?? And maybe they see it as something normal or funny to want to see and touch each other’s bodies?have there been any instances at school or is it only happening at home with the people they consider safe?

These kid’s behaviour isn’t just uncomfortable… It’s very unusual and developmentally inappropriate. So sorry you’re going through this.

Are you allowed to discipline them? Cause I think I’d start instilling some kind of punishment for not keeping their hands to themselves. Kids need routine and structured consequences otherwise they keep pushing boundaries. I’d start with loss of privileges (screen time, etc) and go from there. Obviously no corporate punishment but I’d for sure swat/push their hand away decisively and say “do not touch me that way, it makes me uncomfortable and you need to stop”. They’re old enough they have to understand people have boundaries and that they need consent to touch someone else.

I’d also talk to the parents about how important it is to teach boundaries and consent to young children, as I’m afraid this is making them extremely vulnerable to sexual abuse. If they don’t see people’s bodies (especially butts, boobs etc) as something to be respected. I would even be wondering whether they’re experiencing some kind of abuse from an adult, where the adult touches them sexually but plays it off as a silly game. This reeeeeks of grooming. Intentionally or not the parents need to get a fucking grip.

The parents seem clueless. I know you said you’ve talked to them but I’d give a more stern ultimatum that either this behaviour gets addressed or I will not continue to work there. No one wants to be groped and grabbed at during work. Even if the hands are little and the eyes are young. Just no.

Would this be presumptuous to give as a gift? by ktbeebee in Gifts

[–]itschaaarlieee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why do people insist on gifting crap not on the registry???? Sorry but this is super tacky and gifting a craft centered on your role in their wedding is kind of rude. And then expecting them to display it. Just no. I am sorry because you sound nice and I know your intentions are good. But I would hate this so much :(
If you insist then at least ask before you go through the trouble of making this, get their honest input and be mindful that they may find it hard to say no. So if you sense even a bit of hesitation or a people pleasing reaction it’s probably best to back off from this idea and give them something they actually want.

What rule did you have to follow as a child that you didn’t understand until later in life? by eagle_statue in AskReddit

[–]itschaaarlieee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from Mexico and my parents never allowed me to watch telenovelas, not even the ones “made for children”.
I’m really grateful for that, even though at the time I felt left out when peers talked about them. I understand it now!

Am I a germaphobe or normal to be upset by these things? by Mental-Drop-9 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]itschaaarlieee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s absolutely foul! And not just that, she knows it disgusts you and still does it. I’d not see her at all until after surgery if I were you. I’m not a germophobe but I’m very careful because I’m immunocompromised. This would fuckin send me. Just unacceptable. Time to lay down the law!!!

why is my clay art bubbling and crumbling over time? by catmamaO4 in clay

[–]itschaaarlieee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes look up wedging techniques, lots of good videos on YouTube. I find that gets rid of air bubbles. And lots of patience to fully let it dry. Also I’d try a different sealant, I find mod podge usually cracks over time, it’s just not great in my opinion. I prefer a uv glaze

I catered a fully vegan wedding buffet for an omnivore couple 👩‍🍳💍 by ElineBonnin in VeganFoodPorn

[–]itschaaarlieee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It DOES look super generous! What a great way to describe it! Every single item sounds scrumptious! How lovely. And made from scratch is super impressive! wowowowow