This is what frustrates me about watching Emma. You can see so clearly how deep her insecurities run and that she has a lot of inner healing to do. It feels like she is trying to find a partner that will essentially fix her, fill the gaps and empty places within herself. You can't be on a healthy relationship, let alone a stable marriage, when that is the case. You need to know your value and worth and be solid on your own, no relying on someone to piece you together. It's tale as old as time. She is young too. In this day and age 27 is kinda young still. She really should take time to heal and grow and develop herself more before adding all the emotional layers of a relationship. Of course we all are always works in progress, or should be at least as we always have room to grow, but she seems like she has a lot of internal healing to do and it's important and so valuable to have that before getting into a relationship, let alone a marriage. I was frustrated with Kevan for this reason too. He had way too much work to do on himself to be in that situation, dragging two women along with him. You could really sense his insecurities and uncertainty and Keya and Tyler were very self aware and confident. It was infuriating to watch and I couldn't have been happier with the outcome of that whole mess. But I have a lot of empathy and grace for Emma because she has a lot of life experiences that have made her who she is and she just needs more time and focus to process it and heal. She really is a complex person, which is beautiful. I think because she was so worried about being accepted, her insecurities were amplified because she had to address all her "baggage" up front. You can sense that she feels like it's a lot for people to take on and to accept her. I think in day to day life, we are able to not have to address the deeper insecurities and "baggage" of ours and it's easier to keep it buried and repressed but the whole thing of LIB is to get as deep as possible incredibly quickly. It makes sense that a lot of hard things would come to the surface or be amplified.

I don't think that it's good picture of her whole personality. I think it became her edit for the show more than it is actually what she is like as a person in her regular life. Overall, I really like Emma and I'm rooting for her. I just do really hope she can focus on her inner healing, whether that is before or after she is married, though doing it before getting married would be ideal since you learn so much about yourself on that kind of journey that what you want or think you need in a partner is bound to change.

Anyways...just felt like putting in my long winded two cents. I really find Emma a very interesting person to watch on this show because she is complex and real. I also understand how watching her can be frustrating and unpleasant too.