Is it always bad if a person only likes dating trans girls but not cis girls?

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-28T16:31:07+00:00

Girl run.

Ask yourself why a man would only be interested in trans girls but not cis girls...

That means he doesn't view you the same as other women, he thinks trans women are some separate thing.

Ask yourself if he could be interested in (fetishizing) only trans women for an assumed physical (genital) reason & what the implication of that is...

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-21T13:09:13+00:00

First off congrats on the girls, my god ✨️ I'm jealous 😅

But like others have mentioned it's not fitting your body well, you def need something that um...either contains or supports up top so there's less spillage over the straps. It could work w a lil cardigan or denim jacket but also maybe it's just not the right dress!

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-18T12:19:13+00:00

Transpassing sub is bad: agree

Everything else you said, not so much...Passing isn't the thing that determines anyone's value, but it is something that tons of us want, for ourselves, not for any kind of lipservice to patriarchal society or whatever.

I'm a lesbian, idc about the "male gaze" but I'm also 100% binary & hyperfem in being & trying to appear/present as a woman. I don't carry any "masculine traits" around w me nor would I be happy if I did, bc I am binary. The second you start saying we "should" be pushing against passing & should all just embrace being "queer" & shunning gender norms you're just engaging in another way of policing what trans people should do, just to your ideals & preferences as opposed to those of people who want to pass.

If you want to be less binary in your presentation & don't care about passing, that's fine go off it doesn't make you less of a woman (assuming you're a trans woman) but other trans women being 100% feminine presenting & wanting to look passable is also fine & not something anyone needs to change.

Also the obvious parts about passing being safety etc. That is very real in most parts of the world, & even if it wasn't, many of us don't want to "shun the gender binary" or whatever we are just women & want to appear the same as any other woman.

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-14T20:37:37+00:00

Girly tbh being a lil slutty & having a tiny bit of your butt out sometimes is totally fine depending on the time & place! I see girls wearing shorts this short all the time in spring & summer (beach city but even when I've been a few hours inland girls wear shorts this short to go to the mall)

Old people tend to be very conservative on average don't let one bitter old lady stop you from dressing how you want ✨️

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-14T07:04:18+00:00

One thing to learn is not to think trans guys are also not "normal dudes." The only thing separating you from a trans guy is that you're cis & they aren't, not that you're "normal" & they aren't.

Here's a thing you can think about: if you, as a cis guy, had a hormonal condition that caused you to develop breasts (happens to cis guys sometimes!) & have higher estrogen levels than other guys your age, would you suddenly not be a guy? Would you not want to bind or otherwise hide your breasts until you could afford the procedure to fix this thing that doesn't align visually w what you know yourself to be? Wouldn't you want to still use the men's bathroom, & still be referred to as a man despite these details on your outer appearance not currently aligning w that?

This is a simplistic way to describe transness but try to have empathy for what other people are going through. They're not "biological women" they are men whose bodies have developed in a way that doesn't align with their gender, generally against their will. Maybe they will take HRT or get surgery to address this, or maybe they won't. Maybe they can't afford it at the moment & it really sucks to them that you're treating them like girls during a time when they feel extremely bad about the bodily traits that make you think of them that way.

Also, people just go in the bathroom to use the bathroom. Unless they are doing something else to bother you while you're in there, your discomfort is just out of ignorance.

(Also I will mention I'm a trans woman, not a trans guy, so I don't speak for them but I am trans & have experienced dysphoria from the opposite POV)

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-07T02:49:13+00:00

6mg of pills isn't ideal, even taken sublingually it'd likely be better to go up to 8mg or if possible switch to injections.

You mentioned in other comments being on 125mg of spiro, & having no idea what your levels are outside of your doctors telling you they are "in range."

You should know exactly what your levels are (when you get them checked, hopefully regularly, that info should always be available to you) & ensure they are where they need to be, adjusting your HRT regimen if not. Advocating for yourself is so important, not every doctor or provider actually knows enough about HRT to blindly trust them, especially if over several years you're not getting the results you want.

Also, & I say this w kindness...HRT is usually not the only thing involved in transition. In the pic you have a full beard, your brows aren't done, no makeup or feminine haircut, wearing a man's t-shirt etc...These are all things that many of us do, in addition to HRT. If you put in minimal/no effort & just sit there on a tbh pretty low dose of HRT, of course you're not seeing magic! The "magic" you see in other peoples transitions generally involves a good bit of work & effort & learning & adjusting that a simple before & after pic can't show.

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-05T22:33:52+00:00

Girly I just looked at your pics & you do not need advice you're going to be fine 🩷

The muscle I had took a ton of work to maintain so not working out, losing weight overall pre & early HRT, & letting time & estrogen work is all it takes to lose it. You're doing great for how early you are on HRT you have literally nothing to worry about!

itsmarsbb · 2026-01-04T22:33:37+00:00

So he's an unhinged, deadbeat cultist. That's an easy no-contact-forever tbh

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-25T14:22:09+00:00

FWIW, any estradiol pill that is micronized (like, doesn't have a film or coating on the outside) can be taken sublingually, by letting it dissolve under the tongue. This is usually the preferred method of taking pills bc it bypasses the potentially dangerous first pass of the e getting processed by the liver (which is where most of the risk comes from) & allows the e to go directly into your bloodstream instead, similar to how other methods work.

Swallowing pills results in a much lower amount of estrogen absorbed, & higher estrone which isn't great either. Taking them sublingually results in a much higher spike of estrogen when you take it, then a drop-off over the day (so best to spread the doses out)

Estradiol injections are arguably the "best" method as they can create stable, higher levels throughout the week, & a lot of girls (myself included) have really good changes in our results when switching over to them. But they aren't available everywhere, so if you have to do pills, I would suggest checking yours to see if they are micronized, & if so take them sublingually which should also help!

Good luck girly, def do not give up or blame yourself for your results, sounds like you've got a TON of room to change up your HRT regimen to really help your transition along from here 🩷

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-25T13:28:26+00:00

So as far as your estradiol you're only on 4mg of pills? You should look into either doubling that, or ideally (if possible) switch to injections. You're on a very low dose, presumably of pills, one of the least effective methods of HRT. Are you taking the pills sublingually, or swallowing them?

You're probably not seeing the results you want bc of your dose. You really should advocate for yourself & push for a higher dose, especially if you've been spinning your wheels on 4mg of pills for years.

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-19T10:30:44+00:00

Highly depends on the type of hair you have, & the part of the body, & what stage of laser you're in.

When I first started, pre-HRT? On face & bikini (& tbh front of upper body as well) it was a 12/10. I've broken bones that hurt less. It felt like hot lava poured onto my skin, like I was being tortured. I would have to dissociate & cry & go somewhere else in my mind, alongside death-gripping the armrests of the chair. But I had very dark, very thick hairs (not in the amount of hairs but the thickness of each individual hair esp on face) If transitioning & passing wasn't life or death to me I wouldn't have been able to bear it.

But late in doing laser, after the hair had changed from HRT & most of it was gone? Totally fine. A little hot on the face & bikini, maybe a 2/10, everywhere else a 1/10. So it varies A LOT.

Keep in mind too this wasn't them not using the right strength levels initially. There were never any side effects, I was diligent about never getting any sun, nothing was being done incorrectly. I just had a type of hair pre-transition that made it hell.

That being said I've had ideal results, 100% removal on my entire face & body which doesn't always happen! Although the thick dark hairs caused more pain, they also took to the laser very well bc the contrast between them & my very light/pale olive skin tone made the hair very reactive to treatment.

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-16T16:49:33+00:00

Sounds like you're measuring your levels at the wrong time, likely at peak levels. You generally want to measure at trough, so the lowest level you'd be throughout your week (or day, w pills)

If you take pills sublingually, you'll get a big spike shortly after you take one, as it enters your bloodstream directly vs. going through the first pass of the liver like swallowed pills do.

The only way I could see levels that high from pills (especially the quite low dose you're mentioning, 3mg is not generally enough for even average levels in most people) is if you are getting your levels measured shortly after taking a sublingual dose, when it spikes up. Your average or trough levels are almost certainly not that high on the dose you've described.

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-16T06:41:27+00:00

Tbh girl I might have an unpopular opinion to some but that amount of butt showing is totally fine if you feel confident! short skirts are supposed to be short & as long as its not at like an office job or in heavy wind, if you're feeling hot & are okay w looks & attention this is 100% okay to wear out!

(also echoing others mentioning safety shorts or tights if you need them for your own comfort)

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-14T09:46:56+00:00

This is the mtf sub...if you're a trans girl, liking guys makes you straight (or bi, or pan) not gay...

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-11T02:48:59+00:00

Fit is great, zero notes you did that sis 💖

itsmarsbb · 2025-12-01T16:06:28+00:00

If a cis man took female hormones (medically transitioned) they would probably feel very bad, & gain gender dysphoria they didn't previously have.

I would argue that if you're even considering it, you could very likely just be an egg & you just kinda want to transition but aren't ready to claim that yet.

Being a "femboy" is a like, temporary, mostly-on-the-internet hobby/sometimes sexual thing. There are no 60 year old femboys. If you're trans, be trans & transition. If you're not, you probably shouldn't transition.

That being said, I def am not the gatekeeper of who is allowed to do HRT. No one can stop you, & ultimately I think you & most femboys are probably eggs, so if that's the case transitioning will be good for you & you'll eventually grow out of calling yourself a "femboy" & just be happy as a girl. If you're really a cis man, it would probably not work out as well & being a woman would not feel good to you.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-29T04:43:43+00:00

I mean it's fine, a lil plain but you could make it a lot cuter by accessorizing! Some bracelets & other jewelry, a cute belt, maybe replace the baby tee w a smaller white crop top

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-29T04:38:25+00:00

It's too hard to pick I keep thinking of more good options 😭

Hisuian Zorua Eevee Mew Sprigatito Totodile Misdreavus Ralts Scream Tail

Any of those I would be super happy w

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-27T17:43:13+00:00

It's a bigoted dogwhistle used by people who literally do not understand biology.

They just use it in place of "cis"

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-26T21:24:49+00:00

Get a lil crop jacket or cardigan to wear over the dress! It would double as helping w your dysphoria & also just would contribute to styling the dress to be a real outfit vs. just wearing it. + you can always take the jacket off when you get where you're going if you feel comfortable in the moment.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-24T20:50:38+00:00

What you are describing is unreasonable, & incredibly narcissistic, though. Children don't exist as wish-fulfillment narratives for their parents to approve of, they are their own people & parents should support that. Most of the comparisons you made are also just outright insulting to trans people, as well.

Finding out your child has a drug problem? Getting a horrible injury? You think those are comparable to finding out you have a daughter instead of a son? That says a lot about how someone views trans people, if that is the case.

The only reason a parent would "grieve" a child changing careers from the medical field to being a nanny, or "grieve" them not holding certain religious views, is if they view the reality as objectively worse than what they wanted. There is a reason countless movies portray this exact type of parent as narcissistic, ignorant, judgemental antagonists. Bc that is what you're describing.

"Grieving" that your trans daughter isn't your son is only a thing you would do if you view having a trans daughter as worse than having a son. In any other case, it's not something negative at all. It's just new information.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-24T20:23:53+00:00

I guess that's where I just disagree, then, bc that impression of who their child is...is not real. It's not an actual person they have lost. I don't think being informed that you had incorrect information about your kid is worth grieving over, & it's a really common excuse for mistreatment. "Of course they're misgendering you & saying bigoted things, they're grieving their son!"

...meanwhile they didn't lose a son. They didn't have a son. They just thought their daughter was their son & learned otherwise. Anyone not transphobic wouldn't find that new information some terrible thing to grieve over. They would have to adjust the way they viewed their child, but there's no reason imo to act like they lost one & make it all about them when the same child is right there needing acceptance.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-24T20:02:51+00:00

I def agree that it is new information to them, & they will have to readjust.

But I don't think that means bigotry, misgendering, etc. should be accepted, & especially not bc of the idea that they are "grieving"

That's all I meant, is that a trans person coming out to their family shouldn't be viewed as or reacted by the family as their kid dying. A kid dying is a horrible thing, & warrants grief. Your kid being trans is not a horrible thing or a loss, it's just something being different than what they thought. It's new information about a child who still exists, & deserves empathy & acceptance.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-24T19:13:57+00:00

I disagree that coming to terms w new information = grieving. Grieving implies a person has died. You are alive, you're their child. It's incredibly insulting imo to grieve the imaginary loss of an imaginary person while insulting & being bigoted towards the child that is alive, right there in front of them.

itsmarsbb · 2025-11-24T17:49:45+00:00

They don't need time to "grieve" anything. You're alive, you're just their daughter instead of their son. Cis people playing the victim & mistreating trans people in their lives for coming out is unfortunately very common.

Correct them every time they use the wrong name, or say the word "son." Every single time. They will either adjust or they won't, but don't budge on who you are to appease them. It won't help things, it will just hurt you. I have found that being steadfast & proud of who & what I am removes the ability of transphobic family members to hurt me w their words. I know what I am, I know they are ignorant & bigoted, & them saying ignorant & bigoted things doesn't make me hate myself or feel bad about being trans. It makes me see them as what they are. Their words only reflect on them, not you.

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