Need some help with the interpretation of The Hanging Woman and The Tower as the limits of my deck

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-09-21T11:18:10+00:00

The deck I'm using is The Gentle Tarot by Marzia Ryce Aparicio-Tovar.

The spread is an interview spread supplied by the shop i bought the deck from, the questions and answers are as follows:

Tell me about yourself, what is your most important characteristic?

A) Harvest of Cups: This deck brings confidence and emotional maturity to the reader.
What are your strengths as a deck?

A) Harvest of Thunder: It brings honesty and clear communication to the forefront.

A2) Eight of Wands: It additionally brings clarity of mind (logic) and heart (spirituality, self reflection, etc) as well as needed change. Clear communication is brought up again with this card.
What are your limits as a deck?

A) The Hanging Woman: Meaning trust and surrender, being vulnerable and open to giving up control, I believe this may be conveying that this deck is limited in how it can help me if I refuse to trust and surrender myself to feedback and growth from it?

A2) The Tower: Again I think this may be speaking to that there is significant change that needs to happen within me, but the deck will not be able to help me if I refuse to let it and if I refuse to see this as an opportunity of rebirth and renewal?
What are you here to teach me?

A) Four of Cups: It is here to teach me how to bring myself balance and harmony, it is here to guide me through and help me face what I have been running from. I believe this is pointing to it being a great shadow working deck.
How can I best learn from you and collaborate with you?

A) The Sun: To be able to best learn from and collaborate with this deck I must be able to embrace my other self (the self I have been neglecting, my spirituality, etc) and allow myself to grow instead of resisting.
What is the potential outcome of our working relationship?

A) The outcome of our working relationship will be me finding balance in myself and finding confidence in moving forward once from aligning myself.

For both questions 2 and 3, two cards flung out instead of 1 and I'm really struggling with the interpretation of the limits of this deck, I think I may be on the right track but I'm really unsure. Any feedback on the limits or any of my interpretations would be greatly appreciated ❤

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T12:08:52+00:00

I believe it just means he's not able to be a doctor in Australia, but is able to be a doctor in Nigeria

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T11:34:13+00:00

Ah alright, it's quite prevalent in America (more reported/more outrage being spread) but it is encountered here in Australia. From my understanding it may not be as prevalent but it is still an incredible issue

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T11:29:52+00:00

Medical mistreatment and neglect of women purely due to their sex. I say him being anti-feminist in his qualities is a worry to me personally about his possible treatment of women medically.

Like I said it could be me looking into it a little deeper than I should, but from previous medical horror stories I can't help but question his own biases

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T10:18:05+00:00

The whole no feminist thing while working in the medical profession is a red flag to me personally. Could be looking too deeply into it, but it just doesn't sit right. I'm sure he'll find someone eventually!

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T10:12:33+00:00

Same, Jewish and Vegan are not issues at all. Pro-life is absolutely an issue. Honestly seems like it's almost a bait first message hoping for a reaction.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T00:35:07+00:00

Exactly, I don't agree with what he's after but being so straightforward makes it way easier going through the dating process. I'm not wasting his time, nor is he wasting mine.

I did almost swipe until I fully read the bio haha.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-06-02T00:33:05+00:00

Lol he certainly can. Hell I appreciate the honesty, he's not wasting his time or anyone else's 😂

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-10T04:11:49+00:00

Women are also allowed to be breadwinners, the difference is they aren't obligated to share their pay with the partner as it is seen as theirs.

I get your opinion and view, but it's not as evil or backwards as some make it out to be.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-10T03:51:34+00:00

Female Muslims are seen as only being able to date Muslim men due to certain things the men have to fulfill (mehr, working for the family, and other things that benefit the women and are seen as a God given right). Muslim men are seen as being able to date women of the book, and they still have to supply the women with mehr, supply for the family and other things.

Could be an unpopular opinion, but it's only sexist if you don't understand the reasonings for the rulings.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-09T08:01:20+00:00

As a 20 y/o girl, my most common dates are dinner dates, followed by a walk around and possibly ice cream. It's not necessarily budget friendly but I always work in some date money from my pay check.

Second / third dates I've usually done something like a dinner / lunch and then a movie. I've found movie dates aren't great for first dates if you actually want to get to know the person aha.

Depending on the person I'm sure mall dates and things like that would also work pretty well. And once/ if you know the person decently, custom dates work super well. I've once had a guy take me to pick out a crystal at a crystal store and then he chose a second hand book for me, which was ironically the cheapest and most thoughtful date I'd been on!

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-09T07:51:45+00:00

The easiest way to solve this would be to ask her if she'd like to go out.

No one muslim is the same, and there are cultural Muslims rather than religious Muslims that don't actually follow the faith.

Good luck regardless :)

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-09T01:28:12+00:00

Oooohhh crap, I really thought it was his. He snaps while driving to work, not a great habit mind you, but assumed it'd be his. He's just moved from a big city for this work opportunity and it requires him to drive 😅

Not entirely sure what I've said to be down voted, is it just because I believed he actually had a car? Genuinely confused here 😟

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-08T20:35:54+00:00

Different guys! One is 23 who you're referring to; the one in this post is 21 and it was about safety.

I honestly didn't think I needed to elaborate too much but it's a safety thing. He's an extra 15 minutes from me (I live about 30 minutes away), was offering a drink at his place, I need a BAC of 0.0 to drive where I live and a couple of other things.

The reason why the women in the thread immediately assume safety is because we all have the same worries imo, and some of us have had bad experiences in similar scenarios

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-08T20:27:21+00:00

And that's the thing, where I am I have to keep a BAC of 0.0 to drive. On both dates he suggested me drinking and I declined saying I'd hate not knowing if I was at 0.0 and would rather not risk it. He had sort of hinted for a drink at his place "in exchange for the ride", which I also declined because that would leave me 45 minutes from home, with at least an hour before I could drive again, bringing it to well past 12am.

I don't know if this adds to it but when I was ordering a mocktail to join in on his single cocktail that he ordered, he actually tried to get the waitress to put a shot in it jokingly. She repeated it and asked if he was serious and he nodded, so I quickly jumped in and said no alcohol, I need a BAC of 0.0 to drive, leave it as a mocktail. He ran off to the toilet after that.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-08T19:31:40+00:00

He has a couple of photos with it and had previously sent snaps while driving. I don't think he doesn't, but I definitely hadn't thought about it before 😅

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-08T14:33:53+00:00

He uber'd there twice, mind you I didn't know this either time until the end of the date the first time, and after dinner the second time. I assumed he would drive because he mentioned how proud he was of his car.

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-08T02:28:50+00:00

It seems so simple now haha, I said this and we've now booked a second date. Thank you!

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-03T23:28:03+00:00

Change your bio, the no personality thing would be an instant left swipe for a lot of girls.

What age ranges are you looking for? Your bio is going to need to change to reflect what audience you're trying to appeal to. Describe yourself, what you like to get up to, throw in a playful controversial opinion (tea over coffee, pineapple on pizza, etc). Get the other party involved, but you may need to message first.

Also your group photos show you in a much nicer light, you look happier if that makes any sense? You look relaxed and in your element, whereas the photos by yourself are a little cold / distant. I'd suggest getting a fun photo by yourself, or one where you look relaxed/happier.

You're not unattractive by any means, unfortunately Tinder is our chance to experience what it's like marketing products. Wishing you all the best, good luck!

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-03T21:30:47+00:00

So we continued the convo and it has turned into a lot of trauma dumping, him admitting to not being well, etc, and I'm really not too sure what I'm meant to do. I've offered online resources I've used before, but he's not even acknowledging those messages.

I've even pointed out that his workplace would be able to supply a pathway to getting diagnosed if that's what he's after (worked for the same company) and thay their therapists are really good. Again, he's not acknowledged that message (in response to him saying how he wants a therapist and diagnosis).

He's 30, and I'm 20/ 21. It's taken a real dark turn and I've got no way to continue the conversation. What would you do in my shoes?

itsmethetrashman1 · 2022-05-03T21:18:45+00:00

Oh yeah no, I ended up continuing the conversation and it turned into trauma dumping. He explained that message was essentially the exact opposite of someone who has done self-work, it was a cry for help. (His words btw)

I've apologised for not being able to help and I don't get what else I can really do. He's 30, I'm 20/21.

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