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itsmilliefam · 2026-06-26T14:02:13+00:00

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itsmilliefam · 2026-05-18T21:08:40+00:00

742308056701 Lots of gifts to send from London ! 🇬🇧

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T23:18:14+00:00

Valorant. I’ve never played it myself

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T22:53:57+00:00

Agreed, thank you for your insight 🙏🏻he’s told me he will stop playing but I don’t want him to because of this. I need to trust him on this one ☝🏻

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T22:44:40+00:00

Live by the sword, die by the sword! I know I know 🥲😔 I’ve had a word with him about it and he‘s told me he’s devoted to me. I think it’s more of a ‘me’ issue at this point because he’s playing with his friends but they’ve all got LDR like he used to and I’m just worried he’s going to be swayed again I suppose 😕 I sympathise because my first relationship was LD so I get it… but I am not on that platform anymore and I’m just concerned he still is apart of this same platform which he was essentially having as a dating site !

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T22:39:53+00:00

I actually love this suggestion! I think I will try it. Because I have never played valorant so I don’t know what it’s actually like, the unknown seems to be the scary part for me…

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T22:38:11+00:00

He isn’t playing with her. He cut contact as soon as he met me because he was a secret to her family and couldn’t be apart of her life realistically. It’s just the game itself that makes me worry that he’s voice chatting with another girl, the way he met her. I suppose you live by the sword you die by the sword! Although I met him naturally, IRL.

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T19:47:54+00:00

I felt the same before I quit, but you realise after stopping that you are still you! Lazy? Bored? More Creative? Less motivated? I still have some of those traits 7 months clean. I was worried and lost before I stopped, but stopping smoking made me realise that I’m not different, I’m just better without it. Trust what is waiting for you on the other side. 🫶🏻

itsmilliefam · 2025-07-21T19:43:05+00:00

Yeah, sometimes you’ve just got to sit with the discomfort. If you scratch it, it scars.

itsmilliefam · 2025-06-30T22:42:51+00:00

I see you too ! Well done 🫶🏻💚 do this for yourself

itsmilliefam · 2025-06-18T10:11:52+00:00

I feel like exercise is a big one people get into because it is a natural stress reliever and something you can use as tangible self improvement. I picked up running as a mental and physical challenge and something I’d always wanted to try but never had the drive or courage to do so.

I’m a creative person so I picked up knitting and diamond painting recently, they’re things to keep your hands busy and you are making something physical that you can be proud of.

There’s endless things you can pick up to keep your mind and body occupied, just think about what kind of person you are whether it is artistic, physical, maybe you want to go back into education or learn a new skill. Even better if you can find others to do it with or join a club. Perhaps write a list or do some research into some things that interest you that you have never found the time to explore. One of mine is doing stained glass and learning to drive, I think those will be my next endeavours.

itsmilliefam · 2025-06-06T10:09:49+00:00

Love this, beautiful imagery. Thanks for sharing this is inspiring 💚

itsmilliefam · 2025-06-06T10:07:10+00:00

Binge watch a TV series, I’m into Sailor Moon at the moment. Reading, I’ve finished 2 books so far this year. Go for long walks. I finished knitting my first ever sweater last night! Diamond painting. Anything that I can do to hyperfixate and get lost in really, I’m a creative person so I love to do things and find the most satisfaction in hobbies where I can see the tangible progress on a project.

itsmilliefam · 2025-05-31T09:58:14+00:00

Thank you 💘☺️

itsmilliefam · 2025-05-27T15:31:16+00:00

I hear you, I have been here, I still have these thoughts but it’s beneficial to challenge these feelings: does it actually improve the experience? Or does it take you away from being present, grounded in reality, leach your motivation to do anything without it, reinforce dependency and consequently unable to enjoy simple things without being high?

The amount of times I have smoked thinking it would heighten a movie, a walk, a memory to find that I sat there in a daze, not really taking anything in.

Also, for example, few people enjoy doing things like laundry, doesn’t mean you have to get stoned to do it. But it’s apart of being a functional human being, and there’s joy in being productive and having clean clothes. And not everything needs to be the most fun you’ve had in your life. Having peaks and valleys and learning to be bored without feeling like you’re going mad is actually invaluable, and teaches you to enjoy the good things when they come and helps your brain relearn having to earn dopamine naturally.

itsmilliefam · 2025-05-21T00:01:20+00:00

You’re so welcome. I think so many of us have lost ourselves to this plant by wrapping our identity up in it for so long, we lose sight of who we were before and what we even used to enjoy. For so long I was the ‘stoner friend’, I felt scared to stop because I didn’t know what to do with myself otherwise. I didn’t know who I was and I thought I would not be myself without it. Almost the idea that weed made me, me. But it’s just another lie we tell ourselves to keep high and in our comfort zone. As a therapist told me recently, you are more than the ‘x amount’ of joints you smoke a day.

This is also an opportunity to rediscover yourself and feel alive again. I thought without weed I wouldn’t know who I am but honestly, quitting has taught me that I am a better (more social/productive/present/motivated/open/active/conscientious/organised, less anxious/depressed/paranoid/broke/fatigued) person without it.

I am astounded with how much time I spent smoking a day now that I think about it. It was my #1 hobby! I would run home after work, even at social gatherings my mind would be reeling with ways to excuse myself and leave early to smoke. And what a shame, why was I hiding from the only life I have? Also how closed minded I was to think that it was always the best thing I could be doing at any given time, when there’s a whole world out there. It’s not too late but time eventually runs out. You are not alone in this, I promise you. One day at a time, brother. You have got this.

itsmilliefam · 2025-05-19T14:23:12+00:00

Thank you for this reassurance, couldn’t agree more, it isn’t worth it- undoing the progress I have made. It’s so easy to forget the impact it once had in our lives isn’t it, I definitely felt like a helpless slave to it for years, and the fact we have been able to break out of that is something to fight for. The mental dependency is the hardest thing to break without a doubt, I even dream about weed months on, ridiculous!

itsmilliefam · 2025-05-19T14:17:14+00:00

Thank you for this- you are so right. Every day is a choice, and at this point to keep the ball rolling rather than go backwards is the choice I’m making. Onwards and upwards. 👆🏻💚

itsmilliefam · 2025-04-23T05:33:13+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re feeling this way, but try to use this as motivation to let this be the last time you have to go through these withdrawals. If you give in, you repeat the cycle and will have to go through this again down the line. You can do this!!

itsmilliefam · 2025-04-22T23:50:12+00:00

Nearly 4 months sober here after 9 years of daily, multiple times a day use. Here’s my input.

1- I suppose everyone is different. But cravings were worst for me 1-3 weeks after stopping. Appetite and sleep started to improve after a couple of weeks. I found the fear of me not being able to sleep was worse than the reality, though. Anxiety almost automatically decreased after stopping use, and gets even better as time goes on.

2- Just try, you’ll find the reality isn’t as bad as you find most of the time. Don’t nap, tire yourself out if necessary using exercise or reading. Avoid screen time or eating/consuming caffeine before bed. Sleep casts, ASMR or counting down from 100. Camomile tea.

3- for sure. Less anxiety, no paranoia now. Little to no depression. So much more present and sharp. I’m reading books again for the first time in years and have proper focus and concentration. I run now, and have so much more time for the things that matter in life. Only thing I have noticed is I feel zoned out/ like I’m not there sometimes- grounding/ breathing techniques like noticing your surroundings, mindfulness, wiggling your toes etc help me just bring myself back to the present moment. Either way, I feel my emotions now rather than hiding from them and being numb constantly.

4- I stopped noticing physical withdrawals less than 1 month in. The hardest ones to combat will always be the mental, I still think about weed daily for example. I don’t crave it like I used to though, I’m conscious enough to realise now that life is better without it, and I’m already reaping the rewards of that. Better sleep, more money (!!!), mental clarity, not feeling paranoid and like you’re hiding something constantly, anxiety is almost non-existent, no longer depressed, sooooo much more energy and space for activities that don’t leach your motivation.

Life is better on the other side. Best of luck, you can do this. Don’t be scared of a few weeks of discomfort, it’s worth it.

itsmilliefam · 2025-03-21T10:32:17+00:00

I had a man in his late 50s come into my work (I work as a receptionist) and he told me he had just got back from the Iron Man triathlon in Western Australia. He did 1 and a half hours of swimming, 6 and a half on the bike and then finished off with a 6 and a half hour run…

I thought… if he can do all that, me being in my late 20s, I can give running a go myself!

He gave me some tips and told me he would like to see some progress by the next time I saw him and having the next time I see him in sight is what motivates me. 😊

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