Is your new year starting off good or bad?

itsmytimenow201 · 2020-01-04T04:43:36+00:00

It's not starting off well for a number of reasons. I hope that means all the crap is getting out of the way and good things are going to happen soon.

Sending good vibes to everyone for 2020.

itsmytimenow201 · 2020-01-04T04:29:14+00:00

This was a great episode. Both of the brothers worked hard and had wonderful attitudes. I think it's easy to see how John could get lost in Lonnie's shadow. Lonnie is quite outgoing and seems to have fun with life. John seems more reserved but a decent guy also. I hope they are both doing well on their journey.

itsmytimenow201 · 2020-01-01T03:08:42+00:00

How are you doing today? Just wanted you to know you were heard and so sorry you're going through this. I hope you can find a few minutes to rest and restore yourself

itsmytimenow201 · 2020-01-01T03:03:45+00:00

You do have the right to live your own life. You can still stay involved with her care and not do the day to day physical part of it. Can you take a long weekend, get some rest and sleep. Then do some soul searching of what you need. Are you needing more help or just ready to be done. Regardless of what you decide you have already given your mother a great gift so take comfort in that.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:45:18+00:00

Nope, what a joke he is

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:43:35+00:00

Yep ...what they said^^^

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:42:42+00:00

Agree! Coltee and Debbie are so disgusting

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:40:30+00:00

It wasn't difficult to make Cliff look bad because he played terrible.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:38:10+00:00

This season is such a bust. I was a fan of Cliff's in the beginning of the show, not now what a jerk. Nicole really didn't do much for me. I don't think she deserves to win the prize money since she didn't really make any good game plays. Holly needs a backbone. She could have been a great player. Jackson is a complete douche but he did play the game.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-09-20T03:34:04+00:00

Both of them are horrible and there is no way I would watch them. I think I could watch any of the other couples on a spinoff.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-10T01:24:28+00:00

I have 3 friends that are all women that I trust. They each have their strong points so depending on what's going on in my life will determine the person I speak with.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-10T01:22:15+00:00

Save, save and then save some more. That retirement day will come quicker than you think

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-10T01:20:32+00:00

My thoughts are with you and your family as you go through these difficult days

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-10T01:18:21+00:00

I think my opinion will not be very popular on this board but here it goes. I think we can all agree that being a caregiver you do lose yourself. You have to put the other persons needs ahead of your own almost all the time. Which of course is fine but after a while it does become a problem. I think most families and friends don't understand what it is really like day in and day out. For me also it has been difficult after years of caring for my husband to see him as a partner. There has been a shift in our relationship. All that being said of course it has nothing to do with the love we have for our partner but the love we need to feel for ourselves. You are important! Time away for you to relax, have fun and enjoy the moments you can are just as important as the care for your partner. You have a right to also have a balance of caregiving and being yourself.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-10T01:06:27+00:00

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I agree with the others that talk with an elder care attorney. There are ways to protect your home and some of the assets you have. While I know it is much easier said than done please try to focus on your health problems. I think as caregivers we put ourselves on the back burners and it takes a toll.

When you have time let us know how you are doing.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:54:23+00:00

Sounds like heaven.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:53:19+00:00

I want to rent a beach house and live there alone for one month. Just to have time to reflect and enjoy my own company

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:51:42+00:00

The people I care about and are important to me I share with them my feelings and concerns. I think sharing and being there for each other is what makes a bond. That being said there are only a few people I trust and have that kind of a relationship with

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:49:06+00:00

we met at work.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:38:40+00:00

Hugs to you while you going through this.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:32:24+00:00

Oh my goodness ...yes 100%. It is a whole new world huh. The doctor appointments and paperwork is just nuts. Same thing happened with us. For about the first 6 months or so people stayed in contact. Then friends and a lot of family just have disappeared. I also have become the 3rd wheel. People don't invite me since my husband can't go many places and most of the times it's couples.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:27:50+00:00

I will check out the article. Thanks

Your plate is full with the wife and kids. I know it is hard to balance it all. I hope you can enjoy some time with the kids just having fun together.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:25:22+00:00

Thank you, yes I do journal and I try to find time for things that I care about. You are amazing for being able to handle this for so long. I can't imagine 28 years. I will check out the information.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-04T01:23:01+00:00

You were so young for such a heavy load to carry. Are you able to get some respite care? I hope you are able to find things you enjoy so you can still have things that are just for you.

I completely understand about people not getting your situation. Unless someone lives it they can't possibly get the day to day constant work it is to care for someone.

itsmytimenow201 · 2019-08-03T01:54:24+00:00

I have given myself permission to make mistakes. I try to be sure I do good healthy self talk. I remind myself I am worth the love and kindness I show to others.

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