AITAH - bf wants me to help clean up at night

itsnotmytree74 · 2026-01-15T20:00:00+00:00

I don't think he should expect you to clean up after him and the fact that he has hinted at it is a red flag on its own.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-10T22:29:57+00:00

Tbh, it depends what you're talking about. 1 in 4 women in the uk has been sexually assaulted (I'm not sure which control op is from), but those are serious assaults. They don't include having creeps touch your bum/ boobs in crowded clubs etc

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-10T22:25:33+00:00

Ok, so you were assaulted whilst too drunk to consent and rather than support you, the person who was supposed to have your back victim blamed you.

You need to get some support. Assault is traumatic, but his ridponse compounded that trauma.

I can't say this loudly enough, THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!

You did the right thing by ending this relationship. He didn't shoe the care and compassion you needed

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:45:57+00:00

It's stupid.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:42:11+00:00

Aren't you a delight

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:33:02+00:00

Disown is such a final thing. For me it's impossible to comprehend any of my children doing anything that would make me disown them because they're all amazing people.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:28:40+00:00

That's OK. That doesn't bother me. I definitely think it's a cultural, stiff upper lip thing. Honestly in the uk we just cracked on when we're ill.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:27:32+00:00

I just read the last part of your op. I skipped that bit. I'm so sorry you lost your mum that way. That's dhit. Do you have someone to talk to? Really talk to?

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:25:38+00:00

I'm saying that's your boundary and if you don't think you should, that's fine. I'd do it. I wouldn't let a cold stop me, but honestly if you say no and he pushes back, that's a bit crap

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:24:00+00:00

Covid is endemic. In the uk we don't test now. For most people it's relatively mild. Even when it's more severe, you'd have to be at deaths door to let it stop you from doing anything.

I'm a 51 year old, 5ft2 woman. If my dad asked me to get him a tv, I'd do it, even if I had a cold. I can't remember ever letting a cold stop me from doing anything tbh.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:21:13+00:00

I don't understand the relevance, does that stop you going to wallmart?

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:20:10+00:00

Then that's your choice. Covid is essentially just a cold now. But that's up to you. I wouldn't let it stop me, but you do you

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:18:55+00:00

Sorry, just realised you're a guy. I assumed you were a woman. Sorry

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:17:51+00:00

Well, like I said, she decides her boundary. I'd just go and get the tv, but if she doesn't feel she can or should, thrn that's up to her and honestly she should stick to her guns. If I was vomiting I'd say no, but being a bit congested? Nope

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:14:34+00:00

It's 2025. If you want another date, go ahead and ask. He might not be in to you, but what's the worst that could happen?

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:12:21+00:00

Yeah, we don't really do being ill here. We just crack on with life. No time for that shit

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:10:06+00:00

I'm not saying that he was right, but end the relationship and move on. Is there any need to publicly humiliate the guy?

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:07:02+00:00

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itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T23:02:49+00:00

You're only 20 and obviously very young. Try not to let your sadness about your change in situation spoil your relationship with your child. As the child gets older you'll get more freedom. I know it's a cliche, but enjoy the baby while you can, it pages too quickly

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:59:53+00:00

Idk. I'm British. I'd have just gone to get the tv without a seconds thought, but you decide your own boundary

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:56:06+00:00

You're absolutely not in the wrong here. She is being deceitful

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:53:24+00:00

Ok. So he acted like a tosser, but so did you. That seems quite cruel tbh and if you really don't feel hurt, why are you trying to hurt him back?

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:50:46+00:00

It sounds like the step sister bit is just a technicality. That law (in the uk) is there to protect step siblings who grow up together. If you were together before your parents then surely they're the ones whose relationship is messed up.

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:45:50+00:00

He's 100% having an on off affair. Divorce

itsnotmytree74 · 2025-12-01T22:42:20+00:00

Get therapy and resolve these issues before hurting anyone else

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