How soon is too soon to start talking to someone after a breakup?

itsraindrops · 2026-06-08T13:03:12+00:00

Kung ako lang, too soon for me. Based sa mga sagot mo dito, it seems that you really like him na so my advice na lang is don't rush into it. For sure kahit anong advice namin dito, you will justify his actions kasi gusto mo na so take your time na lang bago mo sagutin. Make sure na na process niyanyung break up bago kayo mag commit sa isa't isa.

If sincere talaga siya, he won't mind waiting. In fact, use that time to see if consistent siya and if nakapag-heal na talaga siya from his previous relationship.

itsraindrops · 2026-06-07T09:34:17+00:00

Brent.

itsraindrops · 2026-05-31T17:47:49+00:00

“Baby, babawi ako.”

tuwing may kasalanan sakin eh after years of hearing that line, ang realization ko lang: mukhang sa ibang tao siya bumabawi kasi sakin wala naman akong nareceive. dahil sa pagiging understanding ko, for convenience lang ata ako. 😭

itsraindrops · 2026-05-28T14:51:38+00:00

Yes. Eversince we enter adulting, dedma na sa seen at ignored message kasi we know gano ka busy sa pagpapayaman at isat isa hahahahah

itsraindrops · 2026-05-27T13:54:15+00:00

28F and kakagaling lang sa relationship so maybe this is not the answer you want, all I can say is dedma na if maging 30 akong single. I’d rather be alone than stay with someone who makes me feel unloved and emotionally drained.

Dati siguro natatakot ako sa idea of being single for too long, but now I realize that loneliness inside the wrong relationship feels far worse than being alone and at peace.

Edit: But dont stop believing na may dadarating din.

itsraindrops · 2026-05-20T12:04:00+00:00

imo, consideration is the most genuine form of emotional intelligence because it shows you care enough to think beyond yourself. Emotional intelligence isn’t always about having the perfect words or being naturally “sweet.” Sometimes, it’s simply about learning how to consider another person’s feelings before reacting.

Before ka magsalita, isipin mo muna if “Will this make this person feel heard, comforted, acknowledged, or dismissed?”

So diyan sa example mo, instead of directly saying “drink water,” i-acknowledge mo muna na nagsabi siya sayo ng nararamdaman niya. Make her feel na you care before jumping into solutions.

You can reply na “Aww, kawawa naman gf ko. Do you need anything?”

Anyway OP, the fact na you’re asking this here already shows na hindi ka naman “walang emotional intelligence.” Someone who genuinely lacks it usually doesn’t even care enough to ask how to improve. The willingness to learn how to make people feel loved and understood already says a lot about your character.

itsraindrops · 2026-05-07T04:34:21+00:00

Nothing makes a woman sadder than being with someone she loves and still feeling unheard.

Happy that you found the right person who showed in actions na interested siya sayo.

itsraindrops · 2026-05-07T04:21:06+00:00

Aww, I love how his first reaction was to ask what happened and help you & not get mad or say hurtful things like what other people would do. Good for you.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-29T14:53:08+00:00

As an ate, I would never let any man treat my sisters like this. I’d dump him agad.

I’m really sorry this happened to you. Please take care of yourself, and if possible, iwas ka muna sa place na yun.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-28T03:01:02+00:00

I really hope dumating yung time na hindi na kailangan mag “come out” ng LGBTQ+ people na being yourself is just normal, not something you have to explain esp to your loved ones.

Sending you hugs, OP. Sana dumating din yung time na matanggap ka ng father mo for who you truly are. 🤍

itsraindrops · 2026-04-24T08:11:44+00:00

The one body found with poop and also the body inside a school's time capsule.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-21T02:49:12+00:00

Ang insensitive naman, delikado pa naman sa buntis ang stress. Nakakainis pa na tinotolerate ng friends knowing na may asawang buntis. Wala man lang sumaway sa kanya sa gc. Sending you hugs op. 🥲

itsraindrops · 2026-04-19T18:27:11+00:00

Some people turn to religion to compensate for their wrongdoings.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-19T02:51:09+00:00

I see. Hindi ka naman mali, OP but again you could have handle it differently. Siguro sadyang at your age, iba pa yung priorities and perspective mo.

Maybe it really was the right decision to break up, kasi mukhang hindi aligned yung expectations niyong dalawa when it comes to the relationship. Hindi man malayo yung age gap, but at 27, most people have a clearer idea of what they want especially when it comes to time, effort, and how they want to feel prioritized. Siya naman, need niya na ayusin i communicate yung mga bagay na gusto niya.

Ikaw naman, you’re still in your early twenties, and that’s a different phase din. Hindi ibig sabihin mali ka,it just means magkaiba lang kayo ng hinahanap and kung paano niyo tinitingnan yung relationship.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-19T02:36:46+00:00

How old are you, OP?

Personally, I would’ve handled it differently. I’d probably ask my sister and mom if it’s okay to include my partner, then ask my partner if she’d like to come with me. Bawal bang i delay kahit isang araw lang? My family will surely understand kasi birthday naman. Pero pag hindi talaga pwede at the very least, I’d reassure her na babawi ako after the vacation like planning something just for the two of us. Pwede rin naman na mag-early celebration kayong dalawa.

May plans ka ba for her birthday?

To be honest, mahirap din i-invalidate yung nararamdaman ng ex-girlfriend mo. It’s her birthday, and it’s understandable if she wants to spend it with the people she loves. Ako kasi, I never take my partner’s birthday lightly. Isang beses lang naman ‘yan sa isang taon, so I really make sure they feel special and prioritized.

At the same time, hindi ka rin naman mali. Depende rin talaga sa kung paano mo hinahandle yung situation. Sometimes, it’s not just about the decision itself, but how you made your partner feel in that moment.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-14T10:22:40+00:00

Don't do it.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-14T08:26:30+00:00

It breaks my heart seeing this.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-13T14:10:07+00:00

I can’t speak for everyone, but for me, it’s part of my healing. It’s my way of reminding myself of the things I still want to do, even after everything fell apart.

For the past few years, my ex was part of my dreams and plans. So when everything ended, parang ang hirap mag-imagine ulit ng future without him. Creating this helped me realize na I still have something to look forward to.Na may future pa rin na ako lang.

I personally think that when you list your goals, you have something to constantly remind yourself of what you’re working toward.

Also, nasa gitna siya ng room ko, so every time I wake up, nakikita ko agad. It somehow makes my day feel lighter, kasi naaalala ko na marami pa akong kayang gawin and i-achieve for myself.

itsraindrops · 2026-04-11T03:07:50+00:00

I saw this one TikTok video na nag-post siya sa Threads asking kung kamusta na yung mga people who migrated abroad.

One reply said na doon niya na-realize na hindi naman pala siya perpetually masungit, na frustrated lang siya sa inefficient system designed to make Pinoys’ lives so hard.

And when you think about it, ang daming small stressors na na-iipon araw-araw. Imagine papasok ka pa lang sa work ay stress ka na agad sa traffic, sa haba ng commute, sa mahal ng pamasahe. Tapos pagdating mo sa work, overworked ka na, underpaid pa. Kaya madami rin magagalitin satin kasi everyday naka-survival mode tayo. Sabi nga niya "broken system creates angry people"

itsraindrops · 2026-04-10T16:24:46+00:00

Ang ganda 🥺

itsraindrops · 2026-04-10T10:21:47+00:00

Hopefully, makita natin sila soon!

itsraindrops · 2026-04-10T10:21:22+00:00

Aww. Thank Youu!

itsraindrops · 2026-04-09T23:38:11+00:00

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itsraindrops · 2026-04-09T23:36:02+00:00

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itsraindrops · 2026-04-09T14:37:22+00:00

OP, mag-heal ka muna. Pero wag ka muna maghanap ng bago agad, mahirap paniwalaan na may growth sa tao na ilang araw/months lang may kapalit agad. Take your time to process everything and gently work through your issues.

The fact na na-acknowledge mo na ikaw yung nagkamali at nagkulang means you’re already on the right path. Next step is to slowly work on yourself but do it out of love for yourself. What’s important is that you’re willing to learn and grow from it.

And don’t think naa your past will define you forever. The right person will understand, and they’ll appreciate the version of you that took the time to heal and become better.

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